Are Subway sandwiches too tacky for a rehearsal dinner?

Question

Okay, here is the thing: me and my fiance have been graciously paying for the bills for the wedding and reception. We're not rich, and neither is our families, which will be taking up 90% of the guest list. We've paid for all the dresses, tuxs, etc. and everything ourselves. So for the rehearsal dinner, we are trying to save expenses. There will be 30 people attending the rehearsal dinner and we debated taking them out or just having food at the wedding hall. We think the later will be cheaper. So the next step is figuring out what to have. So we were MAYBE contemplating getting sandwiches from Subway and then preparing some side dishes to go along. Again, our family isn't rich so they aren't expecting anything TOO extravagent, but I don't want to be tacky either. Thanks for your input!

I wasn't complaining about paying for everything. Our family gave us a hard time for paying for their dresses and tuxs. They think that should be their responsibility. But we WANT to pay for everything ourselves. I'm just trying to be budget friendly and get it all done. I really don't need a lecture because usually I'm the one telling other people that...

Answer 1

maybe not necessarily subway, but you can get nice deli type sandwiches at an upscale supermarket like safeway or something. You could also have a pot luck depending on how you think the other people there will feel. You're under enough pressure as it is..no sense of adding more. If someone says it's "tacky" that's their problem... their rudeness is even tackier...

Answer 2

Don't do subway - get some rolls and a nice meat and cheese platter from the local supermarket. Have someone make a big tossed salad and also get a fruit tray for dessert. Buy some big bottles of soda, water, and juice. Your families will enjoy it more. You'll probably save money anyway!

I find it interesting that you state that you and your fiance have been "graciously paying for the bills for your wedding". Who else is supposed to pay? I know alot of people still think that the bride's parents are supposed to pay but it just isn't true. If you are old enough to get married then you should pay for your wedding yourself without complaint.
Which it does sound like you are doing...kind of? Good for you!

Congrats and best wishes for a fun rehearsal dinner and great wedding day!

Edit - You are being very (overly?) generous if you are paying for your attendants tuxes and dresses. I found your wording a bit odd - and now I understand better what you meant when you said "generously". I just get so sick of reading things about how so and so is upset because their parents won't pay enough or they can't afford the big over the top wedding they're planning. Obviously I shouldn't have strayed off the topic at hand, my bad, I'm sorry.

Still, wish you best of luck and a great time!

Answer 3

Hi - a couple of ideas:
You could have your rehearsal dinner at the wedding hall or at your parents or groom's parents house. I wouldn't do Subway. Here is my suggestion:

We had something in our backyard for my son's rehearsal dinner and everyone liked it! I did sandwiches too, but ordered them from a grocery store (rolls, meats, cheeses, etc.) Then I made up a number of different cold salads and had chips, pickles, etc. and some brownies and other little bars for dessert. We did have beer and wine, sodas and lemonade....but you could omit the beer and wine.

Another cheap idea is chicken and some salads. Chicken is not expensive. Have someone bake it and make up some salads and a few desserts. Have some water, lemonade, iced tea or soda and that should do it! Good luck!

Answer 4

I think that would be a great idea. Subway makes some great party size subs so that would work for the number of people you are inviting. The "tacky" thing is way too over done!!! Don't worry about it. The people that you are close to being with you for the rehearsal dinner is what is important. They'll be happy eating whatever you serve. Have a great time and just enjoy yourself!!

Answer 5

That's fine. You can get a variety and they have the lettuce,pickles, etc. in those bowls. Make some macaroni salad and potato salad also. You don't have to go into debt. It's about family having a nice time together the night before the big event not stunning everyone with a fine-dining chef's buffet.

You might also check the prices of getting some large servings of spaghetti and salad from Olive Garden also. It might be pretty equal to what Subway would charge and that would give you another option.

Answer 6

You know, it's tradition for the groom's family to do the rehearsal dinner? I know you guys want to do everything, and not bother your folks with it, but a lot of parents want to help out. It brings them joy to add something to your special day =). I know my mom would have been downright hurt if I hadn't let her pay for some stuff. Silly huh?

You could make it a pot luck. You could tell them a theme (mexican, bbq, etc), and let them bring a special dish. I'm sure there are some people in your family who would love to help you, and also show off their cooking!

Answer 7

Yes.
My friend's brother got food poisoning from Subway.
I personally like it there, but your family might be offended and think that you're trying to get them on the Jared plan.
LOL!
Sorry, I know this isn't funny.
Can't ya'll have a potluck or something? Maybe Aunt Sally makes awesome pie. And Reuben makes amazing chili. I dunno. Try a little creativity. Honestly, what in the world made ya'll think of Subway, of all places? Ya'll could at least have thought of Panera. LOLOL!

You can always just throw out the Subway packaging and say they're homemade.

Answer 8

It sounds like you are having a semi casual rehearsal so Subway would be fine. You may want to check the prices of deli platters from your grocery store you may get more for your money and you can get all pre made side dishes like potator salad, macaroni salad, cheese and crackers etc.

I think it is a great idea, and wow are you generous to pay for all the tuxs and stuff, I think they should be grateful to you!

Answer 9

first of all i am most impressed that you are paying for the bridal parties gear. congratulations! that is the way it should be done.
i answered your other question about the rehearsal dinner but wanted to say that i think the Subway thing would work!
it would sure be easy! especially if you can get them to give you a bit of a discount when you are buying so many subs! but i still think my other ideas are better.
good luck sweetie wishing you a great marriage.

Answer 10

I would say order some trays of food from the local grocery store. The "subway" is very identifiable and will come off as tacky. I would also suggest taking everyone back to your home or your parent's home. That way you don't have to worry about time contraints of the facility.

GOOD LUCK!!!