Okay I took a chance with my boyfriend. I moved to Montana for him. Things all so diffferent here for me. His parents, always have something to say. Even the house keeper. I have ended up in the hospital twice within a week. Due, to a number of reasons. He is not hurting me. But he always being hateful, Im not sure if h knows he is doing or not. We both have big health issues. He lets his parents run his life. I would like some in put on this. PLease!!!!!
2007-08-28 13:43:21 · 13 answers · asked by Sweetblue85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have try talking to him. He says he forgets?
2007-08-28 13:52:59 · update #1
Have you tried speaking to him one on one to let your feelings, thoughts and other emotions be know. I bet he's not a mind reader so tell him what's going on and put your foot down when it comes to his parents and the hired help. No one on this earth has the right to disrespect you. Good luck.
2007-08-28 13:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think this relationship over very carefully, if you are not happy you need to move on with your life. Do not let the parents come into your decision. He does not sound very mature if he is letting them run his life, is that what you want for your future? That is not a good thing. Put your health issues aside and try to think of why you would be staying in a relationship when he is being hateful to you. After all you did move for him, so maybe you can move again for your own well being. Don't stay in a hurtful relationship, there is always somebody out there that will appreciate you for who you are without making you sad and making you have doubts about you being together. Good luck with your decision.
2007-08-28 14:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should talk and compromise. Tell him that you made changes and moved there for him and ask that he do the same in the sense of doing things for you and not being so hateful in the way he acts. It's only going to get solved if the problem is talked out otherwise it will build up until you collapse from stress and end up in the hospital or worse. Tell him that he is an adult and can make decisions for himself without having his parents run his life. Maybe he doesn't see that's happening...? I hope this helps you out :)
2007-08-28 13:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by *Love* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have MS and am finally going to start getting my disability from good ol' Uncle Sam. I have lived with, my now X-fiance for the last 2 years. She was not working and we had to move into my mothers house and have been here for about 1 month now. BIG HOUSE. Moms will always look at their children as their baby. I am 45yo and it drives me crazy and I cannot wait until I get my new place and get the hell out of here. My fiancee moved out last Wednesday due to my mother. If he or you are not so disabled that one of you can help the other, try and get y'alls own place. I know it can take a bit but it might be worth it, if HE wants to. Hopefully he is not a mamas boy.
2007-08-28 13:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i feel sorry for you and heres what i can tell you, if he is endangering you or putting you in a dangerous situation then you need to leave, go home, or somewhere away from him because nothing is worth that. You should not be put in harms way. And if he lets his parents run his life then he dosent respect you or himself, if he did he would listen to your thoughts and think of a solution, its alright hun you played rullet and lost, now gather your remaining chips and try another table ok? you need to get out of harms way ok? Do it for yourself if anything.
2007-08-28 13:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by neohnecrosis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your BOY never cut the umbilical cord.
He has no respect for you, and neither does his family.
You moved to another state for a guy that never made any kind of commitment to you.
He regards you as "easy" and treats you like baggage.
You are regarded as so low that you aren't even on the totem pole.
Yes, he will continue to treat you badly, and so will his family. Your stress levels will only grow.
You got this whole thing backwards.
Girl, you need to get some standards and self-esteem.
You don't move in with a guy, and you certainly don't uproot yourself to another state to be with him, if he hasn't had to work for your affections and never made any kind of commitment... we're talking an engagement ring and a wedding date set.
2007-08-28 13:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think his parents are influencing his behavior. They might not like you so to please his parents, he may be treating you badly. Don't tell him that directly, but assemble a few acounts of when he's been a jerk mentally. NExt time the he bugs you sk him why. Give several examples. He'll either get mad and break up with you or smarten up and respect you. You can do better then him. I understand it would be hard to break up though since you moved to Montanna. :(
2007-08-28 13:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Carrots and bunnies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask strangers on the internet for advice on your relationship then something is not right. Get out and away before you can't leave anymore. It may start off as just hatefulness but if you keep letting him treat you that way it will escalate into something much more! if it doesn't feel right in your gut then listen to your feelings!
2007-08-28 13:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Q&A 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl he is not the guy fr u
what i hear about this guy tells me that u are heded down the broken heart road and if u stay with him u will have a broken heart untill he is out of ur life
2007-08-28 13:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THink of it this way are you going to live like this forever. Put a timeline on it. Otherwise put up with it or leave
2007-08-28 13:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by latina girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋