Isn't it funny how all of the sudden, after I call CPS, and all of the sudden...?

Question

The mother of my 3 y/o and my 1 y/o twins decides to make up all sorts of lies about how I supposedly beat her and threatened her? I have been to jail FOUR TIMES because of this broad. EVERY TIME Child Protective Services gets called on her, she assumes it is me who has called-and it isn't-and she comes up with some BS and flips it back on me? I AM SO TIRED of CPS automatically assuming that this female is telling the truth, when honestly, she is just a really good actress-and for as long as I've known her, there is very little truth in her.
For instance: My 3 y/o-back when she was only an infant, I was holding my daughter, and while I was standing, this female stood behind me and tried choking me with the wire.(She seems to be fascinated w/ wires!) Police was called, and they did NOTHING to her! Told ME to leave! And she cried and begged me to come back that night. I didn't...
The short of the long is-I am so sick and tired of the law seemingly always siding with the female...

It isn't right. NO, I haven't hit her! I DON'T BELIEVE in hitting women! But she puts on this act-and she is really really convincing. IF I DID hit her, I would expect something to be done-but I didn't!!!

HELLLLLOOOO!!! I AM the innocent party in this! I know it looks like I am going "tit for tat" but it isn't the case! There are only so many allowed characters in the main question. I know I'm telling the truth. Thanks anyways for that thought. I agree. We should be thinking about the kids. I AM! My fight IS NOT with her. It is with the county. They need to investigate her accusations more thoroughly. I promise, her accusations of what I've allegedly done, will NOT add up.

It is just shorter to type 3 and 1-instead of adding the half. OKAY! They're birth dates are November 2003 and June 2006. Alright??? I AM NOT a liar. I know how old my children are. Thank you. It may not sound "right" to you. I am just hurt and in a hurry, and that's how it came out.

Answer 1

IF YOUR STILL WITH HER , THEN YOUR ASKING FOT IT, BUT IF YOUR NOT THEN GET YOU A LAWYER AND SET UP VISITAION WHERE YOU PICK THEM UP WITH SOMEONE THERE TO BE A WITNESS INCASE SHE SAYS YOU TOUCHED HER, OR YOU CAN PICK THEM UP SOMEWHERE YOUR LAWYER CHOOSES. THIS WAY YOU HAVE NO CONTAC WITH HER BY YOURSELF.IT WOULD BE CHEAPER AND BETTER.

Answer 2

Have you ever heard you can't fight city hall? Well you can't fight social services/CPS either.

My son has gone through the same thing and his concern for his son was costing him and his family alot of money and aggravation. I finally told him to leave her or don't call me anymore I was so stressed out all the time. They were not a couple even when they were together, but he was worried about his son living on the street.

He finally left, but it didn't stop there. We were his primary caregivers and she just used her kid to get whatever she wanted. When she finally became homeless she called him to come get his son. When he didn't bring him back on the day she wanted, she went to court and the police. He had to turn over his son or be arrested.

Unfortunately for her, it didn't work out the way she had planned - full custody and child support. The court ordered set visitation 50/50 and no child support.

She still causes problems to this day, but she can't use her son as much as she use to. Do yourself a favor, go to court and get set visitation and do like my son and have the transfer at a police station. I also go with for a witness. Things are getting better for dads, but you need to stay away from her. If you are foolish enough to go around her she can accuse you of anything.

Put your son first, be smart and be a good dad.

Answer 3

I am A 39 yr old female & I agree with you completely! How dare these do-nothing drama queens orchestrate these pointless scenes! I have a friend ( no children ) whose wife argued with him, pushed him into the apt. bldg. hallway & called the police saying he was trying to break down the door! He has had anger management treatment for 6 mos. now because of this lying woman! And it's not an isolated occurrence... be careful or she'll ruin your life! Get out NOW! These vampires will stop at nothing.

Answer 4

I'm sorry you are going through all this. I work for social service and i can tell you that sometimes they are bias. It is difficult sometimes I know the mom's are totally making things up towards their advantage. But just try to focus on your kids make them your priority. She needs help psychological help. Have they interviewed the children? Maybe they can be a key to what's going on. I wish you and your children good luck.

Answer 5

In a previous question, you say your children are 31/2 and 11/2, and you claim you are calling CPS, but getting no results from them. Here, you state the childrens' ages differently and swear you have not called CPS on your wife. I think you are making this up, but thanks for the 2 points. If this is real and you have this much drama in your life, you need a lot more help than anyone can give you here.

Answer 6

Have you thought of putting a hidden camera in her house?

Do you want custody of these kids? Is she an unfit mother?

debbie

Answer 7

you know no matter how good actress a person is Cps are all professional people and they deal with them all the time. they know who,s lying and who is not. also they have pschologist maybe you needed one.

Answer 8

Sigh...

Those poor kids :-(

One or both of you needs to stop trying to 'win' against the other & start putting the kids feelings & needs before your own. One of you needs to start acting like an adult and a parent.

psssttt... In your question, you said 'After I called CPS...' and in the 'details' you said 'she assumes it is me who has called-and it isn't'. Kind of makes it hard to believe anything else you've said here.


Editing to add one of my mother's favorite sayings: It takes two to fight.

During my husband's divorce from his ex-wife, she accused him of all kinds of things, too. He simply refused to reply to her. She tried to file a restraining order & it was thrown out of court, due to a complete lack of evidence. The police 'side with' making everyone stop fighting & causing a disturbance right now. The courts need evidence. What kind of evidence landed you in jail?

When my stepdaughter's mom would go insane in front of their child, trying to start fights, my husband would simply hug his daughter & walk away, to minimize the impact on his daughter's psyche. He would respond to mom in writing 99.5% of the time -and then- only when it was necessary to preserve his parenting time - not just to defend himself against crazy accusations.

Doesn't matter what she's doing. You are responsible for your behavior. All of the time. You are responsible for how you are choosing to behave in front of your children, how you are choosing to parent them, how you are choosing to guide their childhoods. You are. No one else.