I have this friend whom I used to be very good friends with, she got a boyfriend and everything changed. A year later we became friends again, now a few months after that we are still friends. Her boyfriend is very controlling and doesn't allow her to hang out with this one guy but she does anyway and she just says that shes with me. Then when shes with me her boyfriend always makes her ditch me and hang out with him.
The boy that she is hanging out with a lot and I are pretty good friends and I have devoloped a small crush on him...
Is it unfair because I feel really used but maybe it's my jealousy because they are hanging out so much??
help. Thank you.
2007-08-28 12:51:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, you got to stand up for yourself. These people are treating you like a kitchen appliance or something.
If someone makes a date with you and then they break it you have every right to be angry, whatever the reason. You don't have to justify your anger or any of your other feelings.
Is this worth it to you to be with these people, to be treated as a convenience rather that as a friend?
The next time someone ditches you let them know exactly how you feel about it. If they can't handle your feelings then they aren't worth being your friends.
2007-08-28 13:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used and it could turn around and bite both of you on the butt seriously hard. In her case since this guy is controlling that means he is or will be abusive and she could wind up getting beaten up by him when he finds out the truth. And he will eventually find it out believe me. And he could even get angry and abusive with you for lying to him saying she was with you all those time. If I were you I'd seriously relook at the friendship you have with her. Is it worth lying for? She's obviously playing with both guys and that doesn't sound nice. Meanwhile you're out in the cold because she's playing with the boy you like. To me that's a friendship not worth keeping. If the guy has shown any signs that he likes you I'd say talk to him and see how he feels about you. If it's positive ask him to the movies or something. If your friend dumps you then its her loss. You're better off in my opinion. Good luck.
2007-08-28 19:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by Goofy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about it being unfair or not, but I'd quit covering your friends ***. If she tells her b/f she's with you, she should be. I wouldn't lie so that she can hang out with someone else. Or, better yet, if she's going to say she's with you, make sure she is, that way you get to hang out with the guy too.
2007-08-28 19:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by gorstev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh the games people play.
1st he is wrong to be so jealous, demanding & controlling.
2nd she is wrong to let him get away with that behaviour, & also she is wrong to be in a relationship with a guy that she feels she has to lie to to keep him happy.
3rd you are wrong to allow yourself to be treated that way by your friend, (you deserve respect you know) & also you are wrong to continue to have a crush on a guy who has a proven track record of being jealous, demanding & controlling.
You can do better than either of them I think.
2007-08-28 20:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really doesn't make sense. Are you trying to say you have a crush on the BOYFRIEND or his FRIEND??
Because this doesn't make much sense, hun. Maybe it's cus you're upset.... Anyway, clarify?
<3
2007-08-28 19:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Shanelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ridiculous that she uses you to cheat on her man and then spends no friend time with you. You need to sit her down and tell her you will not be her biotch... if she needs to cheat - let her do it by herself.
2007-08-28 19:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by jennyg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋