I just wanted to know is it possible to be in a relationship like this? I am a firm believer in god and plan to wait till marriage however the guy on the other hand believes in god but doesnt have as strong values as I do could a romantic relationship like that work? We are just friends now but there is a strong attraction there I dont know if I should move foward and see what happens or stop before things get to deep and I cant go back.
No non christian answers please. Thanks!
2007-08-28 12:24:43 · 32 answers · asked by ♥♥TinaThat...ME♥♥ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Can you compare his values to yours. If you knew what God requires would you be asking anyone? If you are what you say a firm believer. If he is not. Just does not trust God as you do then why is there a problem? The Holy spirit which resides in every Christian tells us by discernment.the spirit is is our guide and lead. If you knew the word of God? If you had a relationship with him? If you spent time seeking his face? Is dating so important that it comes before God? There are things that come into our lives that we think one thing and it is far from what is said or what appears. Distractions do come. Especially when we are doing so well. When we find out that I can not go back. I made a bad choice.In Galatians says "we were doing so well." Chapter 3.
2007-08-28 12:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by God is love. 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
When I was in high school I had problems with being a Christian while the guy I was dating wasn't. I don't think the problem was so much that we had different beliefs, but that he didn't respect mine and even mocked them. Different beliefs are one thing - you can talk about why you believe what you do and it's interesting, but when the level of discourse sinks to "What, you think God is going to hit us with a lightning bolt or something if we have sex?" and "We'll never know for sure, I guess, 'cause it's not gonna happen," it's no fun.
Before you get in a relationship, I think you should both ask yourselves if can respect the other person's values and if you'd still be interested if you knew they were never going to change. If so, it could work. If not, there's no point in trying. It's a 2 way street - you can't be badgering him about going to church and doing other religious things he doesn't want to do, and he can't be badgering you for premarital sex or bugging you to ditch your religious commitments in favour of something else he considers more fun.
2007-08-28 13:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 05:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be asking this of him, and not of us. You need to talk to him about religion before you decide to date him or not.
Find out why his belief isn't as strong as yours. If he's only Christian because that is what he parents were - or something of that sort, than his faith might not be strong enough to walk the christian lifestyle. Find out if he would be willing to wait until marriage for a sexual relationship with you, find out if he is willing to go to church with you on a regular basis, find out if he can carry on a logical conversation about God and the bible. He might not know what the christian lifestyle is, you may have to explain what it means to follow the path.
After the two of you have had the discussion, both of you should think it over for a few days and see if both of you want to try the relationship.
2007-08-28 19:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't see why you can not have a relationship with him. He believes in God he just doesn't have any strong opinions either way about the subject. How can you expect God to use you to help others if you only associate with other firm believers?
I dated a guy who did not believe in sex before marriage for 2 years and never put any pressure on him to do what he didn't want to. In fact, I supported him in his belief whether I felt the same or not.
2007-08-28 12:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry Darling 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm a Christian guy who's with a non-Christian woman. The good news is that we've been together for years now. We treat each other with mutual respect, and honor each other's opinions. We don't necessarily agree on every single point, but we discuss our viewpoints openly, and treat one another with dignity. I've known some cases where religiously mixed relationships didn't work out, but in my own case, it's worked quite nicely. I am not going to give up the love of my life just because she won't convert to my religion.
2007-08-28 12:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by solarius 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think the most important thing to do is let the guy know how much your relationship with God means to you and that it is a priority in your life. If he truly cares about you, he will care about your priorities as well. Seeing how much God means to you will likely affect how he sees God. Don't be unequally yoked and expect the man to change after you are married. If you let him know beforehand, he will see how much this means to you.
2007-08-28 13:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rebs 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would encourage you to think carefully about this relationship. One thing that troubles me as a pastor is the number of lonely women that go to church without their husband. Many eventually stop going.
You obviously have strong Christian values. If you are serious about this young man, you need to discuss this with him. You also need to ask yourself some serious questions: How will you feel in a marriage relationship if your husband doesn't pray with you and share your values? The man in a home statistically has the strongest relationship on children's faith. How would you feel if your children didn't share your faith? If they didn't want to go to church with you?
Whether or not you can have a meaningful relationship is up to you and the young man. But you need to know exactly how he feels about faith issues. AND most importantly, DO NOT think he will change after marriage. This is the saddest mistake women make is to believe that "because he loves me he will change after we are married."
God bless you, sister and may the Holy Spirit guide you in this matter.
Pastor John
2007-08-28 12:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
You are taking a chance. Perhaps in time he will become a believer, but if he doesnt and your faith grows stronger as it should, you will view many core things in life differently. How to raise the children, the boundaries of marriage, how to deal with conflict; faith or works, many things...
A romantic relationship can work of course but a biblical one will have many challenges and ultimately, no biblical 'out clause' for you when you grow to where you cant take his 'non believer' ways. God will let you have him, but it will not have been His divine Will..it will be His Permissive Will that allows you to choose...right or ruin. He loves us enough to let us choose.
2007-08-28 12:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ya sure! He's a human, so why not? I'm sick of all the old timers thinking that just because someone isn't the same as you means you can't love someone. what a bunch of crap, seriously. If he's sweet and you really like him, why not? Just don't fight about beliefs.
2007-08-28 14:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sara For Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋