What should I do? I hate my mother.?

Question

A few minutes ago I was tying my 2 yr old sisters shoe. I was a little annoyed because I'd heard her screaming all day and I was fed up with it. So I said that I was gonna bite her. To make a long story short, I touched her finger to my tooth and she starts SCREAMING. I didn't hurt her at all. So my mom calls be a b*tch and she says how much everyone hate me and how I'm a loser and such. I don't know what to do. I cannot stand her. I want to move out. The only problem is I'm only 16. She drives me nuts. I can never do anything right. HELP!

My little sister is a big tough little girl. She was tired and I was annoyed. It was wrong. I know that, but my mom shouldn't have said those things. I'd never say that to her.

Answer 1

Sounds like your mom is a little stressed out. (you know how that feels-since you wanted to bite your sister for yelling) It does not appear your mom has very good judgment. (Popping a kid out 14 years after a first kid-what is she trying to prove?)

Your little sister is not your baby, she should be taking care of it herself.

But the fact you have are living with the less then perfect mom. So.. in the interest of all...tell her you are sorry. Go make your little sister laugh. Soon you will be able to move out of the house.

Answer 2

You scared your sister. A two yr old is a baby still, and doesn't know you were not serious. Apologize to your mom and tell her that you were not serious and make a mistake. Then make it up to your sister by doing something fun with her, like reading a book.

You made a mistake, everyone does. However not taking responsibility for it and blowing it up with drama is wrong and immature. I'm sorry that your mom lost control too, it sounds like she's on edge as well. Two yr olds can drive you fricken nuts. Tell your mom you love her, and you're sorry and I'll bet she says she's sorry too. Then don't do it again.

Answer 3

Maybe your mom was stressed out also. She shouldnt have said that but then you shouldnt have terrorized your little sister either who is still an innocent child. What you did was way more wrong than your mother. You're also teaching the baby its ok to bite.

Answer 4

she doesnt hate you she is just mad but i wouldnt be very happy if my mom called me a ***** lol i prolly call her a ***** back but dont do that lol...... maybe she is just a lil on the edge as well as you were while tyin ur sisters shoe she maybe as frustrated as you was cuz of your lil sis........

Answer 5

dude that sucks. ask your dad to do something about it.

Answer 6

I TOTALLY feel the same way about my mom n im tryin to move out now. What u can do is get emancipated. To do that u have to be one of the following...
You must be married, or

You must be in the U.S. armed forces, or

You must be living apart from your parents or guardian and be managing your own money, or

The court must decide that an emancipation is in the best interests of you, or your parents, or your minor child (if you have one).

The easiest way is to move out...
get a job, rent a room or get ur own appartment, u should apply for help from the state like Section 8 or housing...(im applying for housing)...then also apply for foodstamps...to prove that u can support yourself...

Who can be emancipated?

To be emancipated by the court under Connecticut law, you must be at least 16 years old. You must also meet one of the following conditions:
You must be married, or
You must be in the U.S. armed forces, or
You must be living apart from your parents or guardian and be managing your own money, or
The court must decide that an emancipation is in the best interests of you, or your parents, or your minor child (if you have one).

How do you become emancipated?

Either you or your parents can start the emancipation process. The person who starts the process files, or has a lawyer file, an "emancipation petition" with the court. If you need a lawyer to start this process or to defend yourself and you cannot afford one, the juvenile court may appoint one for you at no charge.
There will be a meeting (or hearing) in front of a judge to talk about the emancipation petition. Only the judge can order the emancipation.

What rights does an emancipated teenager have?

When you become emancipated, you have legal rights that other teenagers do not have. You also have new responsibilities that most teenagers do not have to worry about. You should weigh these rights and responsibilities carefully as you think about emancipation.

If you are emancipated:

You may get your own place to live -- but you will be responsible for paying the rent and any other costs.

You may get medical care without your parents' permission -- but you will have to pay the bills or arrange for financial help in paying them.

You can sign contracts in your own name and are responsible for living up to the contract.

You can sue other people, and you can also be sued by others.

You are no longer under the control of your parents -- but they will also have no obligation to support you financially, or give you any food, clothing, or shelter. The State of Connecticut Department of Children and Families will no longer be responsible for helping you if you are abused or neglected. You are, however, entitled to the same protection by the police as any other person, including the right to be protected from violence by a family or household member.

You may buy and sell property.

You may get a driver's license or marriage license or join the armed services without your parents' permission.

You may enroll in a school or college of your choice without asking your parents.

How can you decide?

Here are some things you might want to think about in deciding whether you really need to be emancipated.
Emancipation is a major decision that can help a mature teenager who is getting little help from his or her parents to live a more independent life. But emancipation can also cause hard feelings within a family. It is sometimes possible for a teenager to get the relief and help that he or she needs without taking this step.

For example:
If you need some relief from family problems, you might be able to stay with a friend or in a youth shelter for awhile. Most youth shelters will need your parent's permission to let you stay overnight. Or, you may want to talk to a trusted counselor or teacher.
If your parents made you leave home or they will not let you return, or if it would be dangerous for you to return, you may be eligible for financial help even if you are not emancipated. What you apply for depends on your situation:

1. If you are pregnant or have your child living with you and you live with an appropriate relative, apply for Temporary Family Assistance (TFA) from the Department of Social Services (DSS). Your relative must receive the check for you. Also, you will be sent to the DSS social worker for further help. The Department of Children and Families may be asked to help as well.

2. If you are pregnant or have your child living with you and you live with an adult who is not a relative, you will qualify for TFA assistance only if that adult is your legal guardian or applying for legal guardianship. You may also be eligible if you live in a supervised living arrangement, such as a group home. Only in very rare cases can a pregnant or parenting teen live on her own and get a TFA check herself.

3. If you are not pregnant and do not have a child living with you, and you are living with a relative, you may also be eligible for TFA. Again, your relative must receive the check for you.
Unemancipated minors who do not live with relatives and who do not live with other adults who are either their legal guardians, or trying to be legal guardians, are probably not eligible for any cash assistance. In short, if you are staying with your friend’s family for a while, but they do not want to be your legal guardian, you will probably not qualify for any sort of cash assistance.
If you are emancipated, you may qualify for State Administered General Assistance (SAGA). A SAGA payment is only $200 per month. Any other income you have will reduce this amount, dollar for dollar, except the first $150 you earn each month will not count in determining your SAGA award. You can apply for SAGA at your local DSS office.

4. NOTE: Many teenagers in these situations are eligible for HUSKY medical insurance and food stamps, even if they do not qualify for cash assistance.

How will your parents react?

Even when you are having trouble with your parents, they may be concerned about you and want to help you. Going to court to be emancipated may be very hurtful to your parents. You should think about the effect of emancipation on you and your family. If possible, sit down and discuss the problems with them before you file the petition.
Sometimes it may not be possible to talk with your parents. You may have already left home. If you are not living at home, your parent could ask the police to find you. If the police find you, they can tell your parent where you are. Before they do that, the police must first make sure that telling your parent where you are wouldn't hurt you in some way. The police can also drive you home or to another place such as a another relative's home or to the Department of Children and Families. The police could also hold you for up to 12 hours while they decide what would be the best step to take. Finally the police can also report you to the Juvenile Court. At the Juvenile Court, a judge will decide if you are a runaway, truant from school, or beyond your parent's control. If the judge decides you are or have done one of these things, you might be ordered to go to school, get a job, get counseling, or give up driving a car for a while.

Can you support yourself?

Once you are emancipated, your parents no longer have to pay your bills. You will be responsible for rent, buying food, for medical bills, and buying clothing. If you have a baby, you will have to pay for the things the child needs. Until you turn 18 years old, you will nearly always be required to live with an adult to receive financial assistance from the government.
Even if you qualify for financial assistance, the money you get may not be enough to pay bills. If you have a job, think about whether your paycheck will cover all your costs.

Will you want to go back to your family?

Emancipation usually cannot be undone. Think carefully about whether you may want to go back to your family at some point, or whether you are really sure that you want to live on your own from now on. Are your problems with your family just temporary or do you want to make a permanent break with your parents? Once you are emancipated, your parents could still decide to take you back.
You may find it helpful to talk privately with a lawyer about emancipation. You can call Statewide Legal Services (see below) or apply for a lawyer at the nearest Juvenile Court.


For information on state welfare assistance (Temporary Family Assistance) look in the blue pages of your telephone directory under State of Connecticut, Department of Social Services.

If You Are From Connecticut Here Are Some Numbers
For more information call:
SUPERIOR COURT FOR JUVENILE MATTERS:

Hartford (566-8290)
Uncasville (848-9213)
Plainville (747-5701)
Stamford (348-7355)
Rockville (872-7143)
Norwalk (866-9275)
Danbury (797-4407)
Waterbury (596-4202)
Bridgeport (579-6544)
Willimantic (423-7743)
Torrington (489-0201)
New Haven (786-0337)