I really, really want this.....long distance?????

Question

My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and its starting to put a damper on everything. We are starting to get in stupid little fights etc..and theres always the jealousy issue. I DO trust him, or I wouldnt even be in a LDR, I just miss the day to day contact of having a boyfriend. We do care about each other a lot and talk on the phone for hours each night. I am going to visit him in a week and hes coming out here 3 weeks after I get back. About a week ago he brought up the idea of him moving here to be with me. The only thing that really sucks is that he has to make a decision in about a month(because he would have to transfer schools), which is making him feel really pressured. He said last night that he really wants to make this work and he thinks the only way it will is if he moves. He said hes 99% sure he wants to, he just wants to make sure its the right decision,and that hes worried about the little fights weve been having. Do u think he'll end up moving?

Answer 1

He a caring guy and he wants to be with you. He could be feeling lonely. He wants to be with you. It should like he missing you alot. Sometimes long distance doesn;t work people. It seem has been working well for you. Talk about when you get down there. And think about it. I think it could a good chance he would move there.. Good luck..

Answer 2

Nobody can truly answer that question. Its on him. However, with the fighting, you two have to ask yourselves questions like: Is it the small things your fighting about? At the end of the fight, do you still love each other? Does the fighting make you stronger? Fighting is healthy for a relationship. Could you imagine not fighting at all and holding it all in? When you can survive it, you know your strong enough to handle the bigger things. Long distance relationships are not easy and they take work. Its a major step for him to choose to move like that. Switching colleges is not the easiest thing. I don't see a reason why he won't switch though. 99% is pretty much sold on the idea. Either way, don't think of it as him choosing the relationship over you two. Education is important too and switching colleges at times means losing class credits as well. So, I think he's gathering those thoughts just the same. If he does choose to make that move, know that he is a man that truly loves.

Answer 3

If he views you as being the one to marry, and live the rest of his life with; then I think he'll move. If that crucial element isn't there, then he may decide to stay (we all are worried about our future). LDRs suck, I really don't think they can work 99.9% of the time; so he's right, he needs to move to keep the flame going.

It sounds like he really is into you, he brought the idea of moving out there up, that's probably a good sign (that or he's thinking "I either move or cut it off"). I know you only want to hear "yeah he'll move!" but I'll be honest, it sounds like he probably will, based on what you said, unfortunately, only time will tell. I hope he ends up moving, and things work out between you love birds.

Answer 4

YES!!!! Little fights are put of relationships bc you never really know what the other one is doing. even if you do trust each other. Me and my b/f did it... and I was always wondered... we alway bickered. We broke for about a year... I was so angry with him. LDR make you crazy sometimes. But after about a year we talked and within a month we decided we couldn't be without eachother. about six months later I moved to his city. Good Luck Girl... I hope it works out for you two

Answer 5

I would visit him and make sure the chemistry is still there. If you get along with him and he wants to move to be with you, then arrangements should be made. If you are not sure about this then don't have him go to all the trouble of changing schools. # 1 question Do you want to him move to be with you and are you ready to make a commitment, cause it takes two make a good relationship.