OK, I have been with someone for 15 months now and we have never met. He has been sick with cancer and his best friend has been taking care of him 24/7. I live in CA and they live in VA, we met through a mutual friend. Yes we love eachother if you are wondering, Matthew and I that is. Well, his best friend J keeps telling me that he is the one for me but doesn't really have a reason as to why. I love them both deeply and am so confused. I'm thinking his friend loves me cause I am the only girl in his life....remember he takes care of Matthew all day and doesn't get out much at all. My question is this....should I give J a chance or is he just wanting me cause besides Matthew I'm all he has?????????
2007-08-28 10:12:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG. he has cancer and you say I LOVE HIM,but still your asking this on yahoo. DO what you want because I think u do anyway. Leave both these poor guys alone. You need to decide what you want out of life before bringing someone else into the picture. Sorry, this sounds harsh.
2007-08-28 10:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok first of all you aren't "with" anyone. You talk and have a cyber relationship with Matthew and J as far as that goes. You are afraid of any type of a real relationship or you'd be out finding one. What's your excuse for not finding someone in CA? You aren't taking care of someone 24/7 are you? Unless you are moving to VA there really isn't a chance to give is there?
2007-08-28 10:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but the girl who answered first is right.... and honestly how can you call it a relationship when you dont know these guys. they live in a totally different state. how do you know they dont have other girls i know you say they are isolated or something but that's hard to believe!!! and what if you do give the other guy a chance, but a chance of what? you cant see him or touch him... nothing!! find something here in CA and stop making drama out of nothing....
2007-08-28 10:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave both of them alone and find someone that is by you. There is to many emotions here especially for someone that is that sick with cancer.
2007-08-28 10:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its unfair to your boyfriend... maybe you should ask yourself... do I love J because i love him or just because i feel pity for him having no one else than me because he spend his time taking care of Matthew.. " think deeply... and choose the decision where in you would be happy.." someone will get hurt.. that's a fact in your situation.. ^_^
2007-08-28 10:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by michael d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋