i work with this man... we are both attracted to each other.,.. but i just cant do it... i think if he was to make a move.. i would sleep with him..honestly i dont want or expect a relationship.. just really to fool around.. please help my lusting heart...
2007-08-28 09:48:55 · 34 answers · asked by shejam6 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont do it, i understand you are attracted to this man, but its not worth the heart ache if you get attatched, take it from a woman who has been cheated on by her husband, the man always goes back to his wife. no woman deserves to be used like that.
2007-08-28 09:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by funnygalsc 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you know what's right from wrong ... then you really don't need to wait for someone here to give you the answers.
I'm sure you know what the right thing to do is, but you're wanting someone here to give you just 1 good reason why you should go for it.
Plain and simple really... if you want to think only about yourself and be selfish ... then go ... act on your lusting desires (by the way ... "lusting" and "heart" shouldn't be put in the same sentence).
If you have the slightest bit of respect and consideration for the wife (and possibly kids?) ... then well, you'd do what's necessary to make sure things don't go past attraction.
Don't be an idiot! While you haven't necessarily DONE anything wrong yet ... I suggest you keep it that way!
2007-08-28 10:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having been the wife of a husband that was merely fooling around...back away from that woman's man.
It will damage everyone involved.
It will hurt the wife extensively leaving her scarred for life without trust or faith in men.
It will hurt the husband financially because he will lose everything he worked so hard for merely over a piece of ***.
It will hurt you because you will live with the fact that you helped destroy a family that may have been fine without your need to "fool around".
It will hurt children that don't deserve to be without their daddy and mommy as a couple.
BACK AWAY FROM THE MARRIED MAN AND FIND ANY NUMBER OF SINGLE MEN TO FOOL AROUND WITH.
Sandy :O)
You will regret it later and it's not worth the title that will be bestowed upon you. I can tell you that I will NEVER call the woman that encouraged my husband to cheat anything but a whore. Wanna join her?
2007-08-28 10:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are in lust with a married man. You fool around with any other man and it's fine, but he has a wife. You need to put yourself in her shoes. What a betrayal. Stop trying to reason your way out of this... it's just wrong. Grow a conscience.
2007-08-28 09:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by BIRDY85 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is very dangerous territory. A married man at your work? What if it goes south, then what? Are you ready to quit your job because of it? Just be friendly with him and see what happens. There are some guys that are actually faithful to their wives. At work though? That is always disasterous. Personally I keep my distance from the ladies at work. I'm friendly but as they say, you don't take a dump in your mess kit. I'm now good friends with a lady who used to work with my company. When she worked here, I kept my distance. I didn't want rumors to start. That can get very ugly. I've had subordinates do that and I don't approve of it at all.
2007-08-28 09:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mark G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He only loves his spouse extra suitable than you. To be honest he probably loves his spouse and loves you sucking his cock. Plus If he leaves his spouse for you, he will leave you for yet another. as quickly as a cheater continually a cheater. He can inform you till he's blue interior the face that he will leave his spouse, yet " action speaks louder than words". hear, if he can pull chicks 0.5 his age and wanted to leave his spouse, he might have executed it a protracted time in the past! as quickly as you're a touch older he probably wont pick you anymore and he will could desire to locate yet another dumb youthful female. Do you ever think of him as your father? Creepy. Does he ever ask you whos your daddy? improve up, sensible up and locate a single guy , ideally one closer on your age who respects you. This outdated guy needless to say doesnt. howdy I truly have an thought, he probably has a son your age. Sorry, to be so harsh, yet once you dont end this habit now, you will deserve the misery which will persist with you the the remainder of your life.
2016-10-03 09:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say sexual harassment?
Can you say fired?
Can you say against company policy?
If you can't.. then you should learn these terms because those are some of the things you are up against.
having a relationship with a co-worked can (and does) lead to sexual harassment charges. AND... men are starting to be the ones charging the women!! If you are charged and the charges are proven you can lose your job. Finally... companies are starting to make policy that prohibits co-workers from dating each other. Still others are making policy about affairs... again.. you could lose your job.
While its a wonderful fantasy to boff your co-worker in the closet.. in todays litigious world.. it no longer makes sense.
2007-08-28 09:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by .... 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no offense, i totally understand lust. but to ruin this man's life and his wife's life because all you want is to fool around is not fair at all. you're obviously not in love with him if you don't want a relationship. I'd say to go out and meet someone else who's looking for sex, not a relationship as well. but you should stay away from this married guy.
2007-08-28 09:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by omgxsharonn 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You will become the "slut" he slept with when he get's caught.. and he will, you wont be able to just do it one time.. you will do it more and then fall for him. Everyone at the office with think you are a slut. Even if he is the one that makes or initiates the affair.
Im not saying you are a slut.. im just telling you from experiences i have witnessed at work just like what you are telling me. Word to the wise,, stay the hell away from married people! Seriously. If he is that unhappy that he wants to fool around with you then he needs to get a divorce.
2007-08-28 09:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by drew71670 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't be condemned. Do understand that you should do unto others as you want them to do unto you. Be strong and pray ,pray, pray. God will give you strength and make things clear for you. I'll be praying for you in the area of lust. With Jesus, you can overcome it! Try to start by staying away from sensual images, and fill your mind it the things of God. There's no way that you won't be free. Be blessed.
2007-08-28 09:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋