cuz why not adopt instead of bringing ANOTHER person into this world. i hate to be mean but there is more than enough people on the planet already. anyways why do they get infertility. WHY? why not just adopt. dang, this sickens me cuz it's like people want an overcrowded world.
2007-08-28 09:47:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Though I do agree with some of what you said- you sound a little calice about the whole thing. I am not big into fertility treatments and what not- I have 3 cousins who I am close with and all of them had trouble conceiving and went through all the hoops of it all and had more miscarriages then I care to mention- they each have one child now- two made it through pregnancy (barely) and one adopted a baby from Columbia. They are all happy now, but to see them go through that- it was horrible. It just seems like it would be too sad to go through all those miscarriages, and quite honestly I think that it shows a lack of value on human life to just randomly go through all of this so that the person can have a baby. Mind you I know someone else who went on fertility medication and got pregnant after some time and had a healthy baby. But it kills me when I hear stories about people on fertility and I hate hearing how some lady had 8 babies at once because of fertility drugs- that is so dangerous for her and the babies.
Did anyone ever think that if they can't have kids maybe that is just how it is suppose to be? I don't have kids (so obviously my opinion doesn't even matter to a lot of people on this subject) but if I can't have kids I will adopt, and I know it will cost a lot but it is what it is. (I know what is coming next- you don't know what it is like and you will change your mind....maybe I won't adopt but I won't go on drugs either)
2007-08-28 10:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by like the ocean needs the waves 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
We are bred in this society to believe that there is nothing more sacred or profound than pregnancy and the birth of a biological child. People get caught up in the idea of "their" children. They don't want to admit to the perceived "failure" of one or both parents being infertile. It's not a matter of an overcrowded world. Besides, 10% of the populace is infertile and a good portion of those people can't afford fertility treatments or adoption fees so even if everyone that had the ability to choose between the two options did choose adoption, you'd still hardly make a dent in the world's population growth.
2007-08-28 17:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by Heather C 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Some people don't want to give up on the idea of having children of their own. Adopting is not as easy as it sounds. It costs alot of money to do that. Doctor bills can be paid in installments, adoption fees cannot.
Infertility is caused by a number of things. And not all of them are caused by personal infliction. Endometriosis can cause it, which is a hormone imbalance in the body. This can be reversed sometimes, if it's caught in time, but not always. People who want children, want to have a child who comes from their own blood. When it's not possible, adoption is the second answer if you are financially able.
2007-08-28 16:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by cotoncandy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have not had the issue of infertility. But I am very close to someone who has had the issue. I think adoption is a great way to have children. But I also know that it is an awesome feeling to have a living part of you and your husband growing and moving within you. The baby moving and wiggling. Seeing it suck a finger through ultrasound and hearing its heart beat for the first time and seeing your husband's eyes light up at the sound! How Awesome! They are little miracles. Yes, there are tons of people in the world. But just think of all the special people in the world that you are close to and imagine them not being here.
I think with all the expense and hurt/heartache that my friend had and she finally did adopt, I think that it is kind of sad to see that you feel this way.
I really hope you change your mind because you could really be missing out on something very wonderful!
2007-08-28 17:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
basically humans.. aka mammals want to pass on their own genes not raise up someone elses
and by the way . this world is long way off from being overcrowded,, there is enough space for at least 40 times the people on the planet as it is now
the world population is just under 7 billion..
which means that according to the math..
give every man women and child a acre of land in the united states and use Asia as a farm land to feed everyone.. which leave alot of room left for outside concerts and picnics
2007-08-28 17:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by pokerfaces55 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is sort of rude and inappropriate for those TTC. Do you have children of your own and/or want children of your own someday? If not, then you have no right to judge. I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and am 6 weeks pregnant after TTC for 3 months (which was a long time for me since I got pregnant 1st try with my first). If after using all of my resources I knew I couldn't get pregnant or have a surrogate, I would consider adoption. I bless those who adopt but having my daughter now, I wouldn't want it any other way and can't wait for my next.
2007-08-28 16:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by Precious 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You know I just met a couple who think that having a child is selfish. I think that was one of the worst things to be called. How is it selfish to want to share a part of yourself with the world? Examine someone else's point of view for a moment and stop insinuating there's something wrong with people for wanting to have children.
As for all the children who need adopting, that is awful. Maybe we can do something about the people who keep having babies that end up in orphanages and worse.
EDIT - I've read your other questions. If this one of yours didn't just scream "I'm a baby!" surely the fact that you are still in school and don't even know how to spell "choir" will speak. You are too young to be judging people who want to have babies. You are still a baby yourself and don't even know what the thought process that goes into such a decision is about. Grow up, and for god's sake, get yourself educated. "Quire" indeed.
2007-08-28 18:03:17 · answer #7 · answered by Who's sarcastic? 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Do you understand how difficult it is to adopt? There are WAY fewer infants in america waiting to be adopted than parents. Parents are litterally vying for babies as in a competition.
In America, babies are not just sitting in oprhanages like in other countries. And if a couple decides to go overseas,its months and thousands of dollars trying to get the baby into America. And yes, its worth it, but its a very scary, very big undertaking.
Why arne't you pointing the finger at the parents who had babies and DONT WANT THEM? Aren't THEY the ones who contributed to overcrowding?
2007-08-28 17:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
yes, there are children out there that need a home, but do you know how HARD it is for people to adopt? not only is it really expensive, it's time-consuming and sometimes full of disapointments. i think that thats part of the real problem.
and yeah, sure maybe some folks should look into adoption rather than taking fertility drugs and having 10 kids at once, but ultimately it is their decison and not any of our business.
2007-08-28 21:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
They want someone they can call their own "flesh and blood." If they wanna have that who are we to question their decision?
Personally though I agree with your statement that they could opt for adoption. That's because I believe that own genes or not, a human being is a human being.
2007-08-28 16:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by 123mantobeat456 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋