i have these feelings of guilt ive had for almost a year now because i betrayed a friend who i cared about and now she hates me and wont talk to me she still hangs out with my other friends and when im there she acts like i dont exist ive tried to apologize so many times but it changes nothing i have never been so insequire and sad for this long of a period before and i feel like the only way i can ever break out of these feeling is if i talk to her at this point i no longer want to talk to her i NEED to talk to her so i can move on with my life whenever she sees me when shes in her car she purposely hits the gas to make me feel even worse she says shell never forgive me and im disgusting...yea i did betray her and destroy any trust we had but i dont feel like i deserve to get treated as badly as she treats me i was a good, honest friend to her and now she acts like she enjoys treating me like a piece of crap i reaaly need to talk to her though any advice??
2007-08-28 09:37:43 · 10 answers · asked by midnightchef 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
it sounds like she is hanging on to what happened more so than you are. try talking to her one more time, mabye even write her a letter. if she does not forgive you after a year, she never will. she's holding on to whatever happened, and it will end up making her more miserable than you are in the long run. if you are truley sorry for what happened, just know in your heart that you did the right thing by apologizing. if you truley regret what you did, and are sincere, there is nothing else you can do but move on, even if your friend wont. its sad to say, but some people carry grudges thier entire lives, and they end up being miserable people. dont let her bring you down, it seems to me you've allready done all you can do. try to clear your mind of the situation and your friend. you dont need a friend that wont forgive if you are truley sorry.
2007-08-28 11:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to forgive yourself first. You are looking for her to absolve you of your guilt and maybe she is unwilling or unable to do so. You, however, can and should forgive yourself. Write her a letter that outlines what you did, why you did it, and why you know that it was wrong. Clearly communicate that you acknowledge how what you did affected her. Mail it to her, and do not look for a response. Get on with your life. If you two are meant to be friends, the rift will be mended, but time generally is necessary for that to happen. (you don't get to decide how long someone you have hurt will stay mad about it)
2007-08-28 16:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rosebudd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try writing her a letter. Tell her how badly you feel. Even if I didn't want to talk to someone I would be curious enough to read their letter. After she reads it and realizes how sorry you are then maybe she'll be up to talking to you.
Also, Don't be so hard on yourself. You are obviously a good person or you wouldn't harbor these feelings of guilt. You've done all you can. You apologized and you meant it. That takes guts and you should be proud of yourself.
2007-08-28 16:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by nesm21304 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes really pissed at u.if she doesn't or wont talk 2 u then stop trying 2.what ever u did is over if she cant forgive u then let it go.when u see her act as if u don't care. the more u try 2 fix it or run after her the worse it will get.u have 2 move past this even if she wont forgive u.
2007-08-28 17:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by kim d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous where they talk about apologizing and making things right. By making her responsible for not letting you have your say, you are not growing or healing.
2007-08-28 16:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of saying 'I'm sorry' all the time, try to find some way to reverse whatever damage you caused her. If her damaged her reputation, apologise to all the people you were with when the event happened. (That's just an example, since I don't know what you did to her.)
2007-08-28 16:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have tried to talk to her and apologize, and she isn't listening, then it is no longer your problem. she obviously doesn't want to repair any freindship. so just tell yourself that you did everything you could to fix things. if you see her around, just ignore her. if you were such a good friend to her, but made one mistake, then it is her loss.
2007-08-28 16:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by **STARR** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were her i wouldn't too, it's hard to forgive betrayal specially from a Friend, my advice is to go on in your life and try to respect her feelings she might one day forgive you but don't wait it too long.
try to be a better person.
2007-08-28 16:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by بهي الطلعه 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her time, right her a note how deeply sorry you are, tell her that in the bible you have to forgive and FORGET, pray at night that she changes her mind and that she forgives you
2007-08-28 16:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did you do to upset her in the first place?
2007-08-30 06:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋