My daughter is 12 & wants a myspace. I'm not comfortable with it. Are there safe, alternate sites 4 her to go?

Question

She wants one because all her friends have one. She just got an email account & loves connecting with her friends on email, but all the kids are talking about myspace. I think she's too young, so we aren't going to let her. I'm looking for alternate, age appropriate sites that she would be able to safely connect with her friends on.

Answer 1

FACEBOOK

its a lot cleaner than myspace and ton better. most of my friends have a facebook account and some of my adult friends too. (there are 3 men that I know who are on the full time staff of a very large church camp who all use face book) this is the best choice.

Answer 2

I would say, just let her have AIM- aol instant messenger or yahoo im. Myspace can be a pretty dangerous thing if it's in the wrong hands. That sounds stupid, but it's true. Because even if she were to set her myspace page to private, people can still see her name; location; and age. They can also send her emails & friend requests. So they can still get to her. On aim or yim, you can set it to where she can only im the people on her buddy list, and make it to where only YOU can add people to that list. All the kids have aim or yim- so I've heard. Let her get a myspace when she's 13 and has a little more responsibility. That's what I would do. There is also the option of stardoll.com there she can make her profile and everything, but she can not put an actual picture up of herself. You also can't see age or location. You can make little scrapbooks on there too of the celebrity avatars you make. :)

Answer 3

I just found another place yesterday called "hangoutspot.com" check it out and see if you think it is any safer than myspace. Also, you can search for groups that you think are appropriate for her and let her choose from some that you have approved. Personally, I think 12 is a little young for a myspace. By the way, you have to be 14 to have a myspace account. Good Luck!

Answer 4

there's a setting on myspace where u can set it to private. then no one can see her myspace, except 4 the people she has as myspace friends, you can get a myspace just to check her myspace and to check her friends. also she can block any users and messages from anyone.

you could try facebook, or myyearbook.

but there wouldnt be a point if all of her friends have a myspace and dont have what she has.
me and my sister have one, and i'm 14 and shes 11.
my mom has one and only uses to check ours.
good luck.

Answer 5

There is no site that is 100% safe, but if you use the proper precautions then even myspace can be safe. You should make sure that whatever site she joins that her profile is limited to friends only, that she doesn't have her picture posted in her profile, that only comments that are previewed and approved can be on the site and that she cannot recieve invites, only send them.
With those precautions and a very watchful parent...maybe logging on once a day before she does...then it can be safe. Just make sure that you know in person everyone that she has as a friend on her site.
Good luck.

Answer 6

I don't know about alternate sites, but you're right about myspace. I've got a 17 yo who can't have an account, and a 21 yo I talked out of hers.

You're a good mom. Watch that internet!

tx mom

Answer 7

I wouldn't be comfortable with it either, but you can still let her have one. Limit everything. Make sure you know her password, make sure you know who she is adding, and make sure all her pics are private, or don't let her have any pics at all. Require email or last name to send a friend request. My cousin lets her 14 year old daughter have a myspace but she isn't allowed to put pics up. She keeps an eye on everything she does and also made a myspace account herself to monitor her daughter.

Answer 8

if she does have myspace, make sure she knows the rules (and you need to be sure to set some strong rules), for instance, her profile MUST be set to private, you must have access to it, she must only add people she knows, etc. You, as the parent, have the final say on everything.

Things to remember:

*Enable parental controls so that your child cannot access inappropriate Web sites
*Install software such as PC Moderator, ContentProtect, iShield or Safe Eyes 2006 to limit site access and monitor activity history
*Set the computer so that the entire family shares a login and password
*Place the computer in an open area of the house

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Answer 9

you can set a MySpace page to private, but you can still receive friend requests and anyone can still email you

at 12, she would have to lie about her age because you have be either 14 or 16 to even have an account

If you change your mind and decide to let her have a MySpace accound, please be vigilant.....check it everyday....the messages, comments that are left for her, and her pics to make sure she is not putting up inappropriate pics of herself.....which believe me they will try to do to fit in with their friends......check out their friends pages....are their pages inappropriate

my 8 year old has been begging for one for at least a year now because all her cousins have one....I'm not trying to hear it....she will not have one until she is a teenager....there is no need for it

Answer 10

DUDE, seriously, screw the media! This is what it has done.

I am 13 yrs old and been having one since 12.

NOTHING has happen to me.

Nothing will happen to your daughter if she knows the usual, don't add people you don't know, do NOT give out personal information.

And plus, with myspace, you can it to Private & Request Last Name to add.....which will NOT let anyone add her unless it's her friend and knows her last name as well as her approving the request.

You can also make one to keep an eye on it!

But I'm telling you mom, it's really no big deal!

Let her have one, goodluck!

http://myspace.com/just_skate_damn