Okay this guy first of all does not work. He smokes like crazy and our doors face together and I get all the smell that has become a permanent stench in our home. My boyfriend has allergies and can't handle it when the smell comes through.
But that isn't really the worse part. The annoying guy knocks on our door ALL the time. When he first moved in, he started to come to our home to borrow the microwave until my boyfriend gave him the hint several time to buy his own. Now he has been borrowing the cheese grater- several times too. Yes the freakin' cheese grater! And it's been over a week since I last saw my cheese grater. Last night he knocked on my door to ask us if we would like some pasta. I said okay to be polite. And he said it was in the works and he would bring it by when it was done. Big whoop- there was never any pasta.
So my question is how the heck do the get my cheese grater back and get this guy to stop knocking our door just to bother us? Please be civil.
2007-08-28 09:21:10 · 20 answers · asked by tofu 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't believe that I have to buy a cheese grater. or should I have to got ask for it. And why would I move? I like where I live aside from him. And yes we have tried not answering the door but he still keeps on knocking and knocking and knocking. . .
2007-08-28 09:38:03 · update #1
Just ask for it. I am sure if he is that friendly, he will give it back. Once he does...buy a big unfriendly dog...just kidding.
2007-08-28 09:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by bearbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knock on his door. When he answers, say "Hi Joe. May I have the cheese grater you borrowed last week? Thanks, see ya." Smile!
I am sure you are a kind and generous person. We should all help our neighbors when they are in need. There are, however, some people and some instances where people need to learn to rely on themselves a little more. Sometimes we have to help them become more self reliant.
There is no rule that says that you MUST answer your door! The next time he knocks, DO NOT ANSWER. If he keeps knocking, let him! If he knows you are home and you don't answer, he will soon figure it out. You are busy at the moment.
If one day you are feeling more hospitable when he knocks, answer the door. It is your house, you need to set the limits. Be friendly, but firm. "Sure Joe, I have about 15 minutes to chat before I have to start dinner. OK Joe, my 15 minutes are up! It's been nice talking to you but I gotta get a move on Bye" or "Sorry Joe, can't talk right now, I have supper on the stove, and it needs my undivided attention, I will have to catch you another time"
If you are outside and he sees you before you get in your house, and asks to borrow something, just say "Sorry Joe, I no longer have a ________. An ex friend of mine borrowed it and still hasn't returned it." (Say this no matter what he asks to borrow.) He will soon get the hint.
You are not the resident lending library for kitchen gadgets! You must set the limits or some people will set them for you. Dig deep, find the courage to define your limits, and keep smiling! You can say almost anything to anyone, as long as you smile. God Bless ;)
2007-09-01 03:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am laughing my butt off reading your post and the answers as well. Too funny.
First off I would buy a air freshener and put on his door, the ones that stick to the wall or door.
Then I would buy a no smoking sign and put it on your door.
Next I would ask for my cheese grater back b4 you do #1 and #2
I would not answer the door, and unplug your door bell.
And when your leaving and he's out side, say I was sleeping or did not hear you Knock.
Tell him that he is going to die if he keep smoking like a chimney.
And ask him to smoke inside of his house or in his back patio. This way it's out of sight out of mind.
Otherwise you just have a pest for a neighbor.
Give a your neighbor a few swats, and he will get the hint. Like a bee.
2007-08-28 18:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by orangie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't realize how annoying he really is. If I were you, I would do the same thing back, but casually. Once a day, knock on his door and say "hey, do you have my cheese grater by chance? I need to use it." And then ask for random things, even if you have them. Maybe he'll realize how annoying it is, or maybe he'll just want you to stop so he'll stop coming to your place.
You don't want to start a fued between neighbours because that's not fun and it can make you paranoid about bieng at home. So if that doesn't work, I would talk to him without sounding pissed off. Not sure what you would say though.
2007-08-28 16:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go over and ask for the return of your cheese grater. The next time - and every time after - your neighbour wants to borrow something, tell him you're out or you don't have one. Eventually he will get the hint.
2007-09-01 15:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the cheese grater is gone, let it go and move on.
first off what i dont understand is if the guy is suh a prick why are you nice to him? guys like that dont take hint, you have to tell him off.
you cant tell him 2 stop smoking cuz thats his business, but stop letting him borrow your things, that would be the 1st step. he sees you as a push over and will continue f***ing with your heads unless you same something along the lines of "stop knocking on our door or we'll call the cops for harassment" or "no you cannot borrow our _________".
2007-08-28 16:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a neighbor just like that. She'd wait for me to come home, as soon as I closed the door she'd knock. She borrow everything from coke, to chicken, to cookies. She let me know when the mail man came. She wake me in the mornings, she tell me when to vacuum etc. I finally got enough and moved. Believe it or not, she moved right back across from me. Finally I moved out of the same town. I don't see her much. But I realized, maybe she isn't playing with a full deck and then I became sympathetic. Good luck. 2D
2007-08-28 17:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by 2D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go buy a new cheese grater and stop answering your door.
2007-08-28 16:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by gefyonx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Politely ask for the cheese grater back and whilst you are standing on his door step scratch away like mad and casually ask him if he knows of any cures for scabies . Tell him its a recurrent problem, you clear it and it keeps coming back. I guarantee you he won't come knocking on your door.
2007-08-28 18:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just march on over and say that you're making something good (something that needs to deal with cheese) Let's say....lasagna or pasta (LOL) and tell him you'll bring him some when you're done. Then he'll say "okay" and you just say, "oh, but I need my cheese grater back so I can make it" then he'll go find it and give it back to you.
Then just go back to your house, lock your doors, and search online for a new place to live.
=) Good luck.
2007-08-28 16:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he sounds extremely annoying but he is a person like anyone else. Maybe his feelings will be hurt but you and/or your boyfriend should talk to him and tell him that his behavior is bothering you. Not in that way maybe but just tell him you two dont appreciate the way he borrows things and never returns them and his smoiking is hazardous to your health. Hey if anything he might think you two are over reacting and never speak to you again and then maybe you two could get sum peace. lol
2007-08-28 16:48:09 · answer #11 · answered by Vicky Lovers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋