I have a long time friend who has recently fell into a relationship with an abusive man, and they fight, make up and break up constantly over the course of two years to the present. He also does cocaine, and go her on it. I just recently found out she has this habit. She confessed to being on it since they have been together, but I guess I notice it now, because she really has a problem now...which leads me to my dilemma.
She has three kids who see the crap she does. She has lots of different men over a lot, she does coke, she allows this piece of crap abusive man in her home around the kids and evidently, as of late, her "man" needing money and her coke habit have been taking priority over having food in the house and her daughter's school stuff. She bought that baby (9 yrs.) two pair of cheap flip flaps from K-Mart and a mess of cheap items for supplies, and none of them are what she needs.
Now she cries to me about "I don't have money to buy food." Should I help her?
2007-08-28 08:50:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Not financially. But no matter what you do you will probably end up losing her as a friend. You could drop her as a friend and just stay away and let her live out her own life...........or you could step in and call the autorities and get her kids out of there.........but either way you will probably lose her friendship - which right now isn't much anyway........
Do you know any of her family that you can talk to about her?
2007-08-28 09:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by jachooz 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. You mean give her money??? Are you insane? You already know the answer. If she is so poor she can get food stamps. If you give her money she will buy coke with it.
I don't know what you mean by a 9 year old baby, but If you want to help her, make her kid a sandwich.
But really, you should stay away from her. If you live in an apartment then move and change your cell phone number.
Do not contribute to her neglecting her children by giving her more money to buy coke with, OK?
2007-08-28 16:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,yes help her to help her children, Just don't give her money,that will go to the drugs, bring food, of what the kids need, being a friend is to protect her children from her right now, If it gets to bad turn her in.. Shell thank you in the end.
the relationship with the creep you can do nothing about, and when she whines to you about him just tell her that don't want to hear no more, get rid of him. He wont change,so many women are in this situation, ask her to see a counselor. good luck!!!!
2007-08-28 16:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by lmoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You should report her to child services and do something for those poor children.
2007-08-28 15:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should take in her kids have him arrested and send him to jail god bless
2007-08-28 16:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by ~Love...Peace...Happiness~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋