I have been with my bf for 2.5 years and for so long he has flirted with girls and talk to girls on the phone.He like to flirt with girls and lead them on.He is always breaking up with me supposibly out of anger. He tells me that our relationship is not going to work cuz we always fight(quote the fights that he starts).Just recent he took his ex out that he has not seeing in 4 years.He said he took her out as just being friends which she told me the same thing. She moved back to the same city. I have confronted her and she stated that when he took her out they had sex and slept on the same bed.he is supposibly not talking to anymore.I love this guy but how do i know he wants to be with me??He takes me on a rollercoaster ride all the time.
2007-08-28 08:46:37 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Buy the book he is just not into you and read it it says it all he is a jerk break up and see if he comes running as he seems to think he can walk all over you and you will sit there and take it and if you do love him or not he'll do this for ever and if he does crawl back make him realise you won't take second best and if he did sleep with her I would look for someone Else that treats you right your worth more then that.
2007-08-28 09:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why you are still with this jerk. Go see a counselor so you don't end up picking the same kind of guy again, you must have low self esteem or you would leave him and not be unsure about what to do. This kind of person will make your self esteem issue get worse over time, do some things that build your confidence like exercising going out with Friends or taking a class.
2007-08-28 08:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by GabbyGal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say DUMP HIM!!!!! Before it's too late. I know it will hurt when you brake up with him, but then you'll see that you made the right choice. He's not the type of guy that thinks of others. He only thinks of himself. And I bet he's a jealous guy. Those two things is not a good combination. I know youv'e been with him for more than two years, but he'll never be faithful. Once a cheater always a cheater. You'll find someone way better than him, trust me. And when you do, you'll feel better about yourself and about the choice you made. Just get out while you still can.
2007-08-28 08:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Caligirl82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Sweet Pea - you and I are in the same ship and it's sinking fast! Don't stay with him, I'm getting a divorce now that is costing me way more than if I'd thrown him out 5 years ago. He's acting like he wants to stay with what he calls his family - yet he only has females as friends who he admitted to me during one of his arguments that yes in fact he would have sex with them - and he is making arrangements for this weekend when he will be moving out. So, no the flirting won't change, and he will if he thinks he can get away with it sleep with whom ever when ever. I love my husband but I am starting to see I need to love me more. Take care of you and good luck.
2007-08-28 08:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mystress L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him, he obviously doesn't really care about you, based on his continued actions. If you don't move on your just going to continue to be wandering and continue to get your heart broken. Right now your trying to make excuses to stay with him, because you love him, but its not worth the pain and grief in the long run. Don't invest anymore time into this relationship, drop the zero and get yourself a hero, there is too many other guys out there to be stuck in this type of relationship.
2007-08-28 08:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. To me, it sounds like you like him more than he does, and that happens in relationships where one likes the other better. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you, but maybe not the same point you do. Let him know what's making you feel unconfortable or the relationship unstable and if he refuses to change his habits, even alittle bit, then I don't htink he's worth staying with, and wasiting your time riding these rollercoasters.
2007-08-28 08:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cyndee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely a "boy," as in "child;" and definitely NOT a "friend," as in someone you can depend on.
OK so why are you still with him? I wouldn't waste another minute on a loser like that.
Listen to him. Agree with him. That your relationship won't work because you fight all the time.
Screw up the backbone and the self esteem to leave his sorry butt in the dust.
Honey, you deserve better.
2007-08-28 08:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something, you know when a guy really wants to be with you. When a guy really really wants to be with you, he is all about you and no one else. This guy is trouble. You know that he talks to girls on the phone and flirts with them, you know that he took his ex out and and slept with her, yet you are still with him. How foolish are you? Wisen up, get all the strength you have in you and leave this guy. He does not love you. When a guy loves you and wants to be with you, you know, there is no doubt in your mind about it. Trust me, i didn't know this until now. My boy friend really sweeps me off my feet, and it is sooo obvious to me that he loves me, because i am his # 1 no matter what. Have some love and respect for yourself and get away from this guy.
2007-08-28 08:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by California Kush 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the situation that alone that you just named you have already put up with too much. You need to leave his sorry *** alone before he creeps back in your bed and give you something that you can’t pronounce or get rid of. You are a good person and if that man can’t see you for that then he ain’t your time.
2007-08-28 08:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by PuCcI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hunny i went through the same thing for many years!! and lemme tell you nothing that anybody says on here is going to make you leave him! youv gotta look deep inside yourself and relize your worth more and deserve a better man!! but until that day comes hes going to continue to put you through hell because he can!! one day(it could b tommorow or years from now) your going to have had enough and leave him! and i hope thats its sooner rather then later because theres nothing worse then wasting your life! and believe me thats what it is a waste!! because in the end what are you gettn? nothing beside whats left of your heart back!! good luck sweetheart! and i hopr you find tru happyness!! <3
2007-08-28 08:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋