we have never had sex before but i really want to have sex with her but i dont know how to tell her i do iam afraid it i tell her upfront that she will get mad at me can somebody help me out?
2007-08-28 08:19:57 · 28 answers · asked by Travis W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should ask her. If she says no, then it's no.
You MUST use a barrier form of birth control, like a condom. Do not assume you know how to put one one. Get an adult to show you. (Your doctor will show you.)
You should also consider if you would be willing to marry her, because every time you have sex, no matter what form of birth control you use, you could father a child. Are you able to provide for a family at this time?
2007-08-28 08:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by breez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask her before - or at the very least talk about it. Just ask her things like: When do you think you are ready to have sex (or maybe "go all the way" or whatever)? What do you think our first time should be like? What do you expect? Is there anything you want or don't want to do when the time comes?
That shows her that you care for her and that you want this to be a decision you two together can make. It also gives you an idea of what she wants which will give you more confidence. Ask those questions when the two of you are alone, and really listen to her. You get points for listening and caring and asking her opinion.
2007-08-28 08:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by furballchaser 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision to have sex should only be made if your both ready to handle the financial and emotional responsibilites involved in having intercourse. It is also your decision and yours alone.
From your post; however, you sound very much like you are not ready for the emotional responsibilies. I think it would be in yours and your girl freinds best interest to wait on having sex.
Even the least amount of doubt going in (No pun intended) should be listened to.
2007-08-30 04:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you will hear from a lot of people about this, and many of this will tell you things that make you happy. I'll risk being the one to tell you the truth. I hope you listen.
I married my husband and we were both virgins. I am the only woman he ever had, and he's the only man who ever touched me. We were brand new and clean for one another. I love that!
When I look at my husband each night in my bed, I smile, knowing that he's all mine. I'm all his. It's the best feeling in the world.
I did not expect to fall SO in love. I wasn't that type of person. But when I met my husband, I became that type of person. When it happens to you, will you wish you had kept all of you for that one girl? I think you will, if you are honest with yourself.
So give yourself a gift. Wait for her. And if you've already been with another girl, at least you will have a smaller number of people to tell her about if you stop now. Think about it.
2007-08-28 08:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by pneumasender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree...what is your age 1st and foremost? Ask yourself "do i want to have sex w/her for the sake of having sex or do I love her and want to express that feeling?" Don't rush in to sex and certainly don't pressure her to have sex. The two of you should have an open discussion about sex and decide if that is a step you are both ready to take. Also, you should consider the reprecussions of sex: chance of pregnancy, loss of virginity, how will sex affect the relationship?
2007-08-28 08:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by funsillyathlete 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id suggest that you not ask. asking something like that can be really awkward and uncomfortable. i suggest the next time you guys are making out or whatever, and you start to move to the next level, see what her reaction is. if she doesn't want you to, or seems hesitant in any way, back off, because she doesn't really want to go that far. if she doesn't stop you, then you'll know you made the right choice in the moment. the fact is, you can't plan it out, you have to let it happen naturally and take its own course.
2007-08-28 08:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is over 16, then of course ask her. Just say something like, I've been thinking about sex a lot how about you?
If she is under age, You could be bought up on charges of statutory rape.
2007-08-28 08:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by shellysd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound way to young to be having sex - remember that if she gets pregnant there will be a baby to deal with. Are you old enough and mature enough to accept your responsibility? Sex is not just all about fun and games - be careful.
2007-08-28 08:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have sex until you are married. You will have consequences if you do. If you respect and love "your girl" then you will not do that to her. What if you get her pregnant. Can you afford to have a family??? Sex is a wonderful thing that you share with the love of your life.
2007-08-28 08:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think if this is the girl you want to 'lose it' with you should feel comfortable with her, not have the fear of rejection. Just take a step back and look at your relationship and see if it's the right thing to do for both of you
2007-08-28 08:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by blondie18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋