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Religion is very important to my family. Mum and dad always taught me to belive in God, and Jesus…but like I am older I started to go out, in a disco and so…And it wouldn't be a problem if I always make out with 3 different boys at the same evening, but then i feel so relaxing so happy, you know, like "somebody likes me, because he dance with me". But when I come home and think about it I feel so wrong for that. Instead that I had fun I felt so cheap and against my religion. I mean it's not so big sin, but when I'm with all people who belive in God I want to be just like them, but when I am at the disco, I want to be a *****, literally... I don't know who I am and who I want to be?...

2007-08-28 08:05:59 · 50 answers · asked by <3 england <3 3 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

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You want to do your best as God is the one you are ultimately responsible to even when your parents are not authority over you... and yet you will never really be "good" without Christ. To be forgiven, is to be good in God's eyes because when he looks at you, he sees the righteousness of his son.
When you do bad (or not so good) you must 1John 1:9 just name it and recite your sin so you acknowledge it and try to move passed it. Just do your best!

2007-08-28 08:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by sassinya 6 · 1 2

A good girl.

There are millions of reasons ... most of them are already listed.

The biggest one from a human standpoint is that the things you do when you are young affect the things that you do when you are older. This is bad news for "bad girls" and "bad guys."

Life comes back to haunt you.

It doesn't matter what your parents taught you about God. Your eternal life status stands or falls with YOUR decisions. If you are stressed about your decisions in the clubs .. then you are being convicted.

Don't go against conviction. For whatever reason, you should listen to the "still small voice."

Don't go to the clubs for a while. Find a swinging singles church group. People that have been there and done that and decided not to do it again. Hang with them.

If you keep going to the clubs, you will, unfortunately, keep on in the things that make you feel great and you will keep on regreting it.

The Bible has a verse about "enjoying the pleasures of sin for a season." That's about right. Sin is a blast but in the end, when you have some years on you, it really gets to your self esteem.

I don't usually recommend this movie but "The Banger Sisters" with Goldie Hawn is a great example of how life really gets you when you get older.

If you go to clubs, go with someone who will hold you accountable for your actions. Then use their accountability to control your own accountability. ... that might not make sense ...

Try this ... its easier to do the right thing when there are others around you that expect you to do the right thing.

Good luck to you. Go with God.

2007-08-28 10:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Erik A 3 · 0 0

Just the fact you are taking a close look at who you are and what you do shows more maturity than is seen in most of the people today. When we turn to others, drugs, alcohol or food to find happiness, for the moment we will be happy but that happiness is short lived and the more we turn to these vices the more we need, then one day we find that we do these things out of habit and that we have given up on being happy. For the long term joy and happiness in life follow what your parents taught you, as the years go by you will find that what Jesus has taught us to be true.

2007-08-28 08:27:00 · answer #3 · answered by oakscrty 2 · 0 0

Hmm...how about a "bad girl" that does good things? What I mean is...Maybe you like dancing, and are a social person. Perhaps you are young and figuring out how you want to live your life. You can be out there experiencing life but living it in a respectful manner.

Only you know what you feel is right in your heart. If you dance with someone, fine...but making out with 3 different guys? How are they going to respect you when they see you as an easy target? Do you need to get f'd up to rebel? I don't know the answer to this, but why do you need to hurt yourself to rebel against your family? What good is that doing? Respect yourself and you will get respect. This isn't religion, it is self respect.

2007-08-28 08:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

You're a Christian. According to your religion all sins are equal, and all humans are sinners from even the thought of sins. If thought sins equal physical sins, you might as well get the pleasure of physical sins. And then, all you have to do is remind people that everyone is a sinner, talk about how much you love Jesus, and you'll go to Heaven.

Look at all these Christian answers... A lot of them say the same thing, it's OK, because you love God.

2007-08-28 08:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by word 7 · 0 1

Remember, "Where sin abounded, there did grace that much more abound." So when you "sin," you're only setting the stage for your "redemption." Christianity is designed to let you have your cake and eat it too. Do whatever you want, but just pretend to feel bad about it afterwards, and always insist that you've "accepted Jesus."

The real answer is that you shouldn't try to be "good" or "bad." Just be yourself, and do what you will, and fear not that any God would deny you the things that make you happy.

2007-08-28 08:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3 1

Bad girl vs Good girl: Remember this poem:
The was a young maiden from France
Who decided she would just take a chance
She let her self go for an hour or so,
now all her sisters are aunts.

Wisdom from Der Schlafend

2007-08-28 08:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by No Black Box 5 · 4 0

You are't being a bad girl, you are being stupid. There, I said it. Sorry to be blunt, but its stupid to make out with 3 different boys on the same evening. I don't know how far you are going with them, but if you are having sex you will probably end up with a disease, not to mention a bad reputation. Actually the guys will probably laugh about you.

Nothing is wrong with going to the club though or having a steady boyfriend.

2007-08-28 08:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by ♨UFO♨ 4 · 7 0

Don't be good only because of your religion! Be good because you want a good future! The behaviors you establish now will stay with you for the rest of your life! The longer you do things that cheapen yourself the harder it will be to Stop them when you realize they are messing up your life!

Think about what those boys think you are when you act like that! If you don't respect yourself how can others respect you!

2007-08-28 08:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by DrMichael 7 · 6 0

be an independent girl who gets her relaxation and happiness from being in charge of her own destiny not twisted around by other people's expectations. you don't need the attention of other people to realize your worth. it sounds like you have not taken the time yet to evaluate the person you want to be and are instead influenced strongly by whomever you are with. you just need to take the time to really think over and decide the kind of person you want to be, what you are comfortable with and then try to fulfill your own expectations of yourself. Best wishes.

2007-08-28 08:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by martinmagini 6 · 2 0

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