I feel as if I am being used and the thing is I dont know how to stop myseld from loving the guy?

Answer 1

Put yourself first for a change. Just because you are getting attention doesn't make it good attention. Try wanting real attention from real people who really care about you! It will feel much better.

Answer 2

Ask yourself. "What am I so in love with anyway?"
Is it HIM, or the ROMANCE OF HIM.
Here's the difference. If it's HIM, then every time you leave his presence you end up feeling fullfilled until the next meeting, NOT USED! If it's the romance of him, then you can take stock of all of the things you think are so great about him, & probably discover that most (if not all) of those things actually were made up or perpetuated in your own mind.
If that is the case you are doing a con-job on yourself, & the only healthy thing you can do is end it with him, & try not to get so psyched up the next time you find someone new.

Answer 3

The only way that you can stop loving him is by moving on. You have realised that it is bad for him to be in your life and he is treating you in an unacceptable way. You dont deserve to be treated in this way and the longer you leave it the harder it will be to get over him.
Tell him how you feel. If he is genuinely slimy then get him out of your life and avoid his calls because you don't want to get back with someone who treats you in that way, especially when there are plenty other men that would care for you properly.
If he really likes you, maybe he'll change...?

Answer 4

First of all talk to the guy about it. It might just be nothing.

If it turns out that something is wrong leave him. You dont have to stop loving him to stop being used. Listen to your head and not your heart in these situations. If you stay with him its like youre alloying it to happen.

You may love this, but you should love yourself more.

Its not your fault that hes doing something wrong if this is the case. It IS your fault if you allow it to continue happening.

Answer 5

Sometimes we allow ourselves to be used because we have a low opinion of ourself, or perhaps low self-esteem, and we let people run all over us as we are afraid of being alone, being unloved. You need to deal with your issues first, and examine why you allow yourself to be attracted to people who will use you. Sometimes it's a good idea to really sit down, examine yourself, and take a break from relationships and get to know yourself better and what will make you happy. Guys will continue to use you as long as you allow them to. It has nothing to do with love, and you should not let yourself be used that way.

Answer 6

I once was in the same kind of realtionship and all i can say is what ever you are doing to feel used stop if he doesnt apperaite u he is not worth it u have to think of yourself if u are not happy what is the use please find it in yourself to love who is number one that is you it took me a very long time to see that but once i did life was better and everything came toghether

Answer 7

You are correct you can't stop yourself from loving anyone. But you can quit taking his calls, ignore him on myspace, block his e-mails, not return his text message or block him on im. Don't pay his bills, give him a place to live, or a wet snatch run up in. You can tell him to get lost and find someone else.

Answer 8

Well you need to ask yourself who you love more. Yourself or him. If you had a choice to save yourself or him which would it be?

Hopefully yourself!! In the world today all you have is you. If you don't look out for yourself and treat yourself with respect what makes you think a man or any other person will.

You need to have some self-esteem!!

Answer 9

if your gut says you are, then more than likely you are being taken for granted. Ask yourself this, what does he do for you emotionally? Maybe, your codependant and afraid of being alone. My suggestion is look yourself in the mirror and ask why you like being stepped on or being taken for granted? Then you can go from there and the answer will be there for you as well.

Answer 10

Hmm, hang in there till you're 30, most women figure life out by then and after that they stop dating guys that hurt them so much. Don't know how many years you have left, but I hope its not much.

You know you really don't want to stop loving him, you're just on here venting hoping that he will change. Not gonna happen, and it doesn't matter what ANYONE says cuz you're gonna go back to him anyway. Hang in there hon, 30 is on the way.