I am stuck! We are trying to plan our wedding location but I can't figure out where and how many people to invite. We have a very small budget and we live in Southern California. All of my family except my dad live in Northern California. I really want to just go to Vegas and have something small, fun and affordable. I figure since my close family has to fly here why not Vegas. But I know his parents want to invite certain friends and family. This will cost more for the reception, etc. I guess my question is, how much should you accomodate who parents want to invite? I really don't mind all those people, but I am thinking about money and what I really,really want. I know my fiancee wants to accomodate his parents for respect to them. But I also know he wants something small to. My 2nd choice for a wedding is on the beach, which is very affordable and maybe just a dinner afterwards with a small crowd.
2007-08-28 06:05:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What do you think about the location, they really want us to have it at there house, but I really want it somewhere else. They will be giving us money, but only enough to cover the cost of it at their home. I guess we could except the money and still have it in Vegas. My fiancee really wants them to be able to invite certain friends and family members.
2007-08-28 09:38:32 · update #1
You need to sit down with your fiance and talk with his parents.
You both need to tell them you want a small wedding and have the budget already planned out for x-amount of guests. If they feel the need to invite more people then you would be happy to accomodate, but you will need some help with the costs of the extra people.
My parents wanted to invite a ton of people to our wedding, but we told them we only wanted the people we see on a daily basis and our family there. We explained that this was a day of love and we wanted people we loved there with us. They saw where we were coming from and resepcted our wishes.
If your in-laws just don't back down - send out invites to Vegas, pay for who you originally planned for and if more people show up thanks to the in-laws, they gotta pay. It's mean, but they'll get your point.
2007-08-28 06:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep costs down for a big wedding reception you could do something like cocktails and hors d'oeuvres rather than a formal dinner. You could also do a brunch reception -- the cost is very low on breakfast food.
If your fiance's family wants to invite people, give them a number of how many they can invite, or ask them to pay for their guests because it's too expensive for you.
If you really want to do Vegas, do it. Fly to Vegas, get married and a have a great time with your new husband and families. Ask your fiance's parents if they would like to throw a party for you two when you get back -- That way, you don't spend any unnecessary money and they still get to show you two off to their friends.
Create a budget, plan how much money you'd like to spend and plan your wedding based on that if you're having trouble deciding where, how and who.
2007-08-28 06:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by quiet_hands 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind that it is your wedding. If your guests really want to attend, they will go where you are. Don't worry about the few people who might not be able to show up. You can still have a classy wedding in Vegas and if that is what you both want then go for it!! If his side of the family wants to add a ton of extra people to the guest list, then they should have to pay for those guests. They need to respect your budgetary limitations and you need to enforce them.
2007-08-28 08:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was included in a wedding at the request of one of the parents - - however they gave the bride & groom the money for my attending.
SO - tell the folks that if they pitch in the money to cover the costs of those they would like to invite, they can have X number of guests. Give them a limit or else they'll invite everyone they can think of.
2007-08-28 07:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm Having the same Problem..just longer distances, my fiancees parents and family live in Oklahoma, my parents live in North Carolina, but the rest of my family lives in New England. we also have a VERY small budget, we decided to do it in oklahoma because my fiancee had the most guests invited and things in New England are just Crazy expensive.
I agree you should accomodate his parents, and maybe your own. but for friends that his parents want to invite to your wedding that you might not even know? i think you should tell them to pay their own way.
2007-08-28 07:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stress that you have a limited budget and need to keep the event small. If his parents insist on inviting certain guests, they can help pay for them.
It's your wedding, so you can have it anywhere and way you want...including flying off to Las Vegas!
2007-08-28 06:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a client that got married in Vegas. Just the couple and the parents and the honor attendants were there.
When they got home they had a HUGE reception in a local mansion. She wore her gown & Tiara and made a grand entrance down the stairs. Then the couple re-newed their vows in front of the guests.
Worked out great.
2007-08-28 07:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by wfdiy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Vegas and have fun! If his parents want to invite a bunch of people, THEY can have a separate reception for YOU near their home.
2007-08-28 06:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by dancingcat_98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are his parents pitching in money? I see no harm in saying, "you know, we'd really love to be able to invite everyone but our budget is really limited and we want to keep it really small."
I say if you want Vegas, do Vegas, if his family wants to be there, they'll travel for it-
2007-08-28 06:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by LB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋