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How old were you when You moved out of your parents house!!? i am almost 20 and im thinking about saving money for one more year. Im thinking of moving to another state. i live in fl moving to virginia with my best friend. What are some things i should do? or what are things i should take in mind!? i would like all the help i can get

and i know your probably going to say that im to young to wait and go to college. But me and my mother do not get along very well. I mean not at all. i am sick and tired of the way she treats me. Here are some details
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Oh And thank you sooo much for you help i really appreciate it. ♥

I really want to move out because i have been dealing with my mother for years now. ever since i was 15!! she treats me like she hates me and treats my brothers with more respect!! then she does me and they disrespect her all the time. Ive had to grow up on my own even if ive had my parents around. i am just sick and tired of all the mean and hurtful things she does to me

Answer 1

17. Save up to get an apartment - deposit and first month's rent. Also - utilities require a deposit. Enough money to pay for at minimum, 3 months of living expenses until jobs are secured. I would wait until you move to furnish the apartment and then don't be afraid to go to second hand stores or garage sales - those are the best places to get some pretty good stuff at dirt cheap prices.

Good luck. You can do it.

Answer 2

I started working full time at 19 years old, bought a car and got my license. Then after I got that situated, I saved up enough money for first months rent and security deposit and found an apartment a few months later.

College wasn't accessible to me and there wasn't anything my family and I could do. However, I am now 26 years old, been out on my own, independently for years and starting a correspondence course for my paralegal degree and I've been married for 2 years now.

A while ago I shared an apartment with my best friend. It only lasted about 9 months and I would never do that again. It could have ruined our relationship...but down the road we were able to be friends again and NOT live together again! They say, never live with your best friend...I didn't listen, but I also had a back up plan in case it didn't work out.

You have to make sure you can take care of yourself first! Everyone has their own pace and their own lives to live! You need to figure out what you need and make a plan to get there. What works for one person, doesn't mean it will work for everyone.

Answer 3

I first moved out when I was 18 to go to school. My sister was in college at the time in the same state but different city so her an I lived together in an apartment for two years but unfortunately ended up moving back home due to financial issues. I got tired of living at home so back in May I decided to move all the way from California to Alabama to live with my cousins but there are like no jobs out there and the few that are pay very low so unfortunately I ended moving back home about a week ago. My advice to you make sure you have a job lined up and you can support yourself financially so u don't end up back where you started.

Answer 4

I moved out when I was 17 and it hard. I had no plans..least you have those and being smart about it. The thing that I can tell you is that moving in your best friend can be great or it can be the worst thing that you can do. If you move that far away you are stuck there till you can move again, then when you disagree on something ( bill getting paid, dishes in the sink) your friendship is a hand. My best friend moved in with me and it was a mistake. We no longer talk. You never really know a person till you move in with them and learn their ways. One of the best things to do is start over in a new place together so that wasn't the other's house first. Hope that this helped.

Answer 5

I can relate. I moved right after I graduated highschool, literally a week later. Very Stressful!! You off to a good start, saving money is very important. Now your next move is to find a place to live, make sure that it is rent controlled and taken care of. Make sure that you look under every cabinet, inside every drawer and every other place you could possibly look. You want to look for bugs, water stains, strange stains, smells and rust. If you see any of these do not take the apartment, that show's you that the land lord or property mgr is not taking care of the apts. Next you'll want to check rent and how much you can afford, the way they determine on if you can afford the place or not is they add your income and your friend's income (monthly) and see if between the two of you, you guys make four times the monthly rent. It may be different per area, but that's what I had to do with mine. Next you'll want to find jobs in the area, will you have a car? You'll want to find all the info for transfering insurance over and titles. Also you'll want to make a list of chores you and your friend will take part in, ie if you like doing dishes but hate doing laundery, and so on. Don't worry about decorating your house because it comes with time. You do want to make sure that you have the basics, like kitchen table, things to eat off of (plates, fork, knives, etc.). Look around your house, and note key things that you use every day, including furntiture and toiletries ( I moved down and forgot my shaver, I had to go with hairy legs for a few days, until i got settled). I know it's alot but you can do it. I've been living on my own for four years, and yes it's hard, but I'm proud of myself and can say that my mom and I have a better relationship now. Good luck and take care! If you have any more questions just ask!

Answer 6

You are certainly not to young to move out. You can continue with your education wherever you are and you should.

But, it's a whole different world living on your own. All the little things that you took for granted will be gone. To add to what Emma said, in addition to gas, you will have to consider maintenance on a vehicle, utilities, cleaning supplies, being away from family (even not getting along with your mom, she is still or has been part of your life).

Most importantly, however, is your character. That will determine your success or failure. A balloon that is not anchored to a secure point will follow whatever breeze hits it. You have to determine your goals in life and balance your wants against your needs to fulfill those goals.

Never-the-less, build a secure foundation, have a workable plan and go for it. All you can do is fail and that is something most of us have done many times. It's what you do with your failures that builds your character.

Just my opinion.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for you and your unfortunate situation. Your mother obviously has some deep issues that you can't do anything about. I think your best bet is to try to avoid any confrontation with your mom until you have saved enough money to get out on your own. Do you have any job skills you can take with you? Have you checked to see what types of jobs are available in the area where you plan to move and how much they pay. You'll want to try for a job with medical benefits if possible.
You'll need to establish how much you are going to be taking home after taxes to figure out what your budget will be. Will your Dad be able to help you out financially if you have sudden emergency expenses?
I moved out to go to college, quit halfway though, and tried to make it on my own in DC. I was not making much, working two jobs, and not totally disciplined with my money (I got too caught up in the party scene) Living in the city was expensive. Ended up having to move back in with my folks for a few years. Later I decided to go back to get my degree but had to pay for my own schooling while working which was tough, but it ultimately put me in a good place.

You do need to get away from your toxic relationship with your Mom but don't lose touch with your Dad - even if you have to find ways to contact him when she is not around. Family is important if they can support you emotionally. If you are determined and discipline yourself you can do it!

Answer 8

hey i'm 23 and still living at my parents house. but, i have my own office with my main job, and another part time job, and i own my own car (which i got on my own when i turned 18). but at the end of the year, i'm moving 3.5 hrs away to the city, and i start school in january.

it's not much, i mean i could stay here and have a truck in january rather than starting school (i want a truck soooo bad) and have my own house by the end of next year and keep working. but i'd rather go and better myself, and in the future drive an even better truck and live someplace better. so thats my plan.

Answer 9

The simple fact that your mother and you don't get along at all might be hindering your ambition to get going on moving out. Good luck and I'm sure you and your mom will get along after you two have a chance to miss eachother unless she's just crazy,lol.

Answer 10

I moved when I was done with college. Make sure you figure out a budget. Rent food heating electric gas for driving. Make a budget and stick to it so you do not get in over your head.