My Maid of Honor has made it perfectly clear that there WILL be a stripper at my party because she has never seen a stripper before. I have told her that I would rather have a nice dinner and some bar hopping in Seattle but I have a feeling the stripper is going to happen. If she is paying for this fiasco, then whatever she wants I guess. I feel that the human body is beautiful and trying to make it a "dirty" thing is a total turn off. I have nothing against strippers, and I love nudity and I will often take nude shots of my models (I am a photographer). But to have some strange dude's junk flopping around my face just isn't going to do it for me. Any suggestions? Should I talk to the stripper and just have him put his focus on her? I think she would be the only one to enjoy this.
2007-08-28 05:33:54 · 14 answers · asked by gelfling 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your Maid of Honor needs to get her priorities straightened out. This is your party, not hers.
If you don't want a stripper, tell her in no uncertain terms. Get the other bridesmaids to assist you. Not that I would approve (which doesn't matter) but if you wanted one, then that's what she should do. But if you say no, she needs to follow your instructions. If I said I didn't want one and one showed up, I would walk out of the party and not care what anyone thought.
2007-08-29 05:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she flat out told me that there WOULD be a stripper at MY party because SHE wanted one, I would have flat out told her to have fun with it, because I wouldn't be showing up.
Make it perfectly clear to her that even though you're very grateful that she's taking the time to plan you a bachelotette party, that you DO NOT want a stripper. If she wants a stripper at her bachelorette party, you'll gladly book one for her, but this isn't her party, and your feelings should be the focus.
If all else fails, fib a little and tell her that your hubby-to-be says that if a stripper shows at the party, he won't be showing at the alter.
2007-08-28 13:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since you are the guest of honor, you should reiterate to her that you do NOT want a stripper. Let her know you will walk out the moment the stripper shows up as you feel it is distasteful to women. Or talk to someone helping her plan the stripper and tell them to tell the stripper to NOT go over to you and dance.
2007-08-28 13:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Jane, I know that you really want there to be a stripper at my bachelorette party, but I really don't want a stripper to be there. I want a party where I can have fun with my best friends, and I won't enjoy myself at a party with a stripper." That should work. Hopefully, she will respect your wishes. If you still suspect, then let all the other gals know how much you don't want a stripper...they might be able to pressure her to back off.
2007-08-28 12:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious sit down with your MOH. What she is forgetting is that this is YOUR party, not hers. If she wants to see one let her go out with some friends to a club that has that kind of stuff.
Her wishes don't matter for your party. Her job is to make sure things run smoothly and that you have fun. But, YOU are the one that determines what kind of fun you want to have, not her.
Honesty, and being straight forward is the way to handle this. For her to say "there WILL be a stripper" is a slap in your face. She is basically saying, "it doesn't matter what you want"
2007-08-28 19:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jennie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be whatever she wants, the party is about you. Just tell her firmly you do not care to see a stripper and you want to have a enjoyable party for the girls to celebrate you last single girls night. If she wants a stripper just because she's never seen one then tell her to have her own party that you won't be obligated to attend. Don't feel walked on for your own bachlorette party. That night if for your friends to make YOU feel special.
2007-08-28 12:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by ○•○•Cassie•○•○ 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR bachelorette party. If you don't want a stripper you shouldn't have one. Any good MOH or bridesmaid should understand that. It's your day, not her's and you should have the bachelorette party that you will enjoy most.
2007-08-28 12:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by barelyblue82 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you've got to tell her that you're really opposed to the stripper idea. She can go see a stripper on her own time. The bachelorette party is to celebrate you and if you're uncomfortable with something, she shouldn't want to include it in your evening.
Good luck. :)
2007-08-28 12:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by searching_please 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I am my best friends MOH and it's my job to plan stuff for HER, not for me. Your friend really should understand this. I'm not sure how ur friendship is with her, but if I pulled that with my BF she'd tell me exactly where to go if ya know what I mean, and I'd do the same with her. But not all friendships can handle that kind of bluntness. Maybe you could enlist the other bridesmaids to help supervise the planning.
2007-08-28 12:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You just tell your MOH straight out that it's not what you want. If she isn't willing to make other plans, just stop the planning of it right there. Just say you want a nice gal's time out together, without naughty bits.
2007-08-29 10:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋