Personally, I just need a little time and space. And when people try to invade that little time and space I need I tend to snap. I'd rather to wait until my anger subsides and I can speak rationally again.
My mother and father in law have moved in with me and my family and she likes to put her nose where it doesn't belong. I've managed on my own since I was 16 and I think I've done pretty damn well for myself considering. How is she going to tell me how to live when she is living in my house? She apologizes but doesn't she understand my emotions are not on her time schedule? Am I being irrational?
2007-08-28 04:46:54 · 5 answers · asked by Kristen J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
God bless you. I dont know what the circumstances are that brought your mother-in-law to you home, but bless you for doing it.
Two women in one home is a very tough situation.
You need to try and talk to her and set some ground rules. Let her know (in a kind way) that you respect her opinion, but that this is your house. Remind her that she once had her own place, and that is when she was the Queen. But now this is your castle and you make the decisions for the family.
Try sometimes to include her in decision making so she feels included. But let her know that you will ask ONLY when you want her opinion, otherwise you would appreciate her being respectful of your home.
2007-08-28 05:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not being irrational, but you have probably failed to set boundaries and limites with your inlaws long ago.
you can find more information about PERSONAL BOUNDARIES by doing a search on the internet. yahoo search is great and you will find a lot of self-help information there.
some people have a habit of trying to tell others what to do.... many of these people have anxiety issues and it's a temporary relief for them...and perhaps they dont' have much of a life of their own, so they stick their nose in.
you can also tell your mother in law that if you want advice you will ask for it.... otherwise, please keep your distance and out of my personal situations.
just because you live together doesnt' give others the right to try and direct your life.
take care.
2007-08-28 12:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To deal with anger , i just say it to the person and talk about it. and till now we always come out . This help for me
No ,u are not irrational . This is a very difficult situation. Your mother in law has her life and you and your family have yours.Try to find a solution for this .
Good luck
2007-08-28 12:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by justonpc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't. Anyone would hate being pushed around and being told what to do in their own home. I agree that she doesn't understand your emotions, so maybe you can tell her how you feel, but rationally rather than in frustration and anger, otherwise, she'll think you really need her help 'cause you're so temperamental.
2007-08-28 12:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Platypus9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a shower
2007-08-28 13:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋