Did I act like a complete idiot???

Question

i acted like a total idiot..judge
after class he wanted to walk me to my car but i would act so stupid and act nervously and say "no..no..go that way your car is over there..no i dont want you to walk that much..ahhh...well ok" but i would like say it so dumb..all the time every time he tried to walk me somewhere and then i called him and he would sound sleepy or something and i would go "oh nooo im so so sorry i woke you up i'll call you later ok? byeeee" and i wouldnt even let him answer...like an idiot! or he would call and ask something about class and then i'd make a long boring conversation just to keep him on the line but i think thats why he stopped calling me... i just messed this up...right???

Answer 1

Yep - Learn from your mistakes.

Answer 2

Well Strawberry it sounds like you got yourself in a pickle patch!

I would put all your insecurities behind you and learn to be you.
It is you he is interested in but if your going to act like a silly immature school girl then he may move on.

Why don't you have a small sandwich bag with some of your homemade chocolate chips cookies in it and when you both go to walk into the parking lot ..if he is not with you go up to him and have the bag in your hand like your eating a snack and make little conversation with him. Tell him he looks like he could use a cookie and smile. Show some kind of confidence..tell him that you wanted to appoligize if you appeared nervous around him. It is just that you were,but now you realize that he is a nice guy and this time you would like to walk him to his car. See what he says.

It may open the door up for him to lighten up and see the fun side of you. Ask him if he would like to meet you somewhere for lunch this week where you could get to know each other better.

Oh ...and lose the boreing conversation. Find out what he likes, sports, foods,goals in life, spiritually, what is it that triggers his interests and go on that. But not forever...do change the subject and never go on and on about you and your issues or problems in life. Keep it fresh simple and watch your language which can be turn off to guys. Nobody wants a girl that can cuss like a sailor.
Wear your best outfit and best scent.
Put on your best smile and see where it takes you.

Answer 3

not an idiot, just nervous. It's hard to know how to act around guys - even when you're old like me - especially when you really like them a lot.

Learn to be calm and accepting of a guys attention. Learn also not to be so much of a pleaser. We're (girls) brought up to think we have to be pleasing and sweet to guys in order to get them to like us. It's not true. So what if you call him and he sounds like he just woke up. Say something like, "I hope I didn't wake you. Shall I call back later?" He'll most likely say that it's no problem.

I can tell you for a fact that guys get bored with pleasing and nice - they like a little edge, so if you don't agree, have another opinion, or don't like what he says, don't be afraid to express yourself. This is how he will learn what you're about.

Follow the advice of the other posters and call this guy up and tell him you've been acting a little nervous around him, but you'd like to get to know him better. Ask him if he'd like to go out sometime - not the movies but some place where you can actually have a conversation. Skating or walking, or a sporting event.

Answer 4

You may have messed up from being nervous. However there is time to get some gets and make it right. Try not to overreact so much, if he is tired he will say, if he wants to walk to ur ride, maybe he feels like walking.. Remember that he will let you know how he feels and don't over do it. If things don't work out, use this experience to help you in the future with guys. Hope this helps you some.

Answer 5

Well you did mess up, its no biggie everyone messes up once in awhile! Whats counts is that you learned from it at the end of the day! You acting like that is a sign of nervousness! Just chill and be layed back! Think of him as a friend and talk like u usually talk to ur friends! Good luck! Hope this helps!

Answer 6

If he was a good guy he would understand...you don't wanna be with a guy that doesn't listen or just uses you for you money and stuff like that....i think you didn't mess up you just are nervous and the conversation about class if he has a problem with you telling a story thats his problem hes the one that asked the question

Answer 7

No, if he still wants to talk to you, let him. Try to remain calm around him, and let him walk you to your car or ask about homework. It sounds like you have not had a lot of experience with boys. Why don't you talk to him and say 'look, I'm sorry if you think I acted like an idiot, but I really like you.'

Answer 8

yes you did.

First if a guy wants to walk you somewhere and you like him. Say "Thanks, I would love for you to walk me to my car"

When you are on the phone, judge how he is responding. If he isn't contributing too much to the conversation and is saying things like "yeah, uh huh, thats cool, yeah" then he doesn't have anything else to talk about. You should then find a reason to get off the phone. "Well I need to get going, I've got such and such to do" (Always have an exit strategy planned)

Also don't just hang up on a guy.

Answer 9

maybe that's what you think. if you are so nervous around this guy. maybe you should let him go. i know it's hard but calm down. ok? keep calm and if you ever need to talk to him talk in small slow sentences. i'm the same way with this other guy and i sounded like i had stuttering problems. it was sooo embarassing. and you'll never know if you messed it p until YOU call HIM. right? am i right?

Answer 10

You know, I hate it when I feel like that. As hard as it is, you just have to quit being so nice and find a way to boost your confidence. I know the nervousness your talking about. I've caught myself wishing that I could just act normal and quit feeling stupid. Have your own life and your own needs and your own interests and don't worry so much about his. Just be cool.

Answer 11

Yeah you messed this one up. You probably made him feel like you were too weird to date. You need to learn how to control your nervousness and be calm. People are usually scared off when you do weird things like that.