love the sinner, hate the sin comes to my mind... I think many believe shaming is a loving act. Shaming might save someone from themself. Is it okay to shame an alcoholic or a drug addict? Is it okay to shame a fat person? What do you think about this?
2007-08-28 04:43:28 · 10 answers · asked by NONAME 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No, I see no benefit from shaming a person. As a matter of fact, I think it's quite cruel to shame someone who has a problem. I bet 9 times out of 10 it further hurts the person because if they are not mentally handicapped in some way, I bet they already feel bad or shameful about themselves. Love, acceptance and understanding help people, not condemnation.
2007-08-28 05:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Primordial Soup 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone is truly out of control, then in some cases shame may be the only way to make them aware of their behavior... but I would see it as a measure of last resort, something only to be used in desperation.
I think whether or not it's okay depends very much on the specifics of the situation. I have been in a situation where it was the only option left to me to let someone know their highly abusive behavior was not okay.
2007-08-28 04:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't see anythin to do with love being in Christianity, hun, I'm sorry.
A religion that teaches that causing your own child to be tortured is an act of love is the furthest thing from an authority on love.
2007-08-28 04:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by LabGrrl 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hat's off to Claire's reaction and would opt to characteristic my vote of "Elk icon" self belief. i'd be taken aback to pay attention from all people who hasn't regular some emotional cruelty of their lives! And it may happen with such intensity and pathogenic frequency as to qualify as a symptomatic of various character complications: psychopathic, now stated as delinquent, borderline, and so on.). Such anyone is very dysfunctional, can go through extraordinarily and are particularly unwell. Labeling or diagnosing could have some fee under particular circumstances, yet understanding would be extra effective. The "why" is extra significant then the "what" or 'who" and there are a number of, many clarification why that's an imperative element of all interpersonal family and why, with some self- mirrored image, we are able to all discover very own examples of being at the two ends of the spectrum... Making somebody "roast in there very own juices" is quite intimidating and, can briefly relieve overwhelming emotions of inferiority or emotions of being uncontrolled. Cruelty is in many situations an expression of anger - to fulfill some vengeful impulse- to fulfill some harm or before experienced cruelty, real or in any different case. paradoxically, the transgressor will in many situations experience like the sufferer- feeling particularly justified of their aggressive retaliation. it may ensue out of lack of expertise-basically the consequences of having no sufficient human beings to study from at an early age or functionality "fashions" for habit. some human beings basically do not understand that there would be yet in a distinctive thank you to be! some human beings have tragically found out that expressions of affection equate with sadism and discomfort. it may happen to objective to ameliorate some overwhelming worry-pushing others away previously they get too close. Intimacy would be very frightening. particularly if one struggles with the underlying theory that it will unavoidably fail. in many situations human beings will rationalize that such intense habit on their section is basically a attempt of yet another's loyalty or devotion, while in reality; the closeness is basically to frightening to bear. There are infinite motives...all of us understand this. maximum anyone is fortunate sufficient to thrive on relationships in spite of their inherent "messiness". we are fortunate sufficient with having the flexibility to post with an occasional bathe for the exhilaration of going outdoors and feeling the easy. those that proceed to be interior experience the worst style of self-inflicted cruelty.
2016-12-16 07:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by kreitman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Christians are very adept at finding any manner of ways to explain away the illogical dichotomies of their belief. I just ignore them.
2007-08-28 05:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never!
It's a technique used by all churches.
But that's religion for you.
http://spiritualabuse.com
2007-08-28 04:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by Iain 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey now, don't make fun of alcoholics!
2007-08-28 04:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To a perverted mind it is.
2007-08-28 04:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What happened to "treat others as you would have them treat you" ?
2007-08-28 04:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Lucy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is an act of arrogance.
2007-08-28 04:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋