Help me!! how do i get over my dad.?

Question

My dad lives in riggings but while he comes here to visit me he usualy goes out and partys and gets wasted and stays the night there...I don't think he even cares about me i think he just comes here to stay the night.....I am 10 years old

I know how babys are made:)

Answer 1

It sounds like your father may be an alcoholic and one of the characteristics of an alcoholic is selfishness. He isn't mature enough to put someone else's wants or needs before his own. That isn't your fault. What does your mother think?

I would ask your school counselor where your local Al Ateen group meets and start going to the meetings. You are not alone, sweetie.

Answer 2

when I was 10 my dad was the same way. But worst he came home always disrupting my mom and i sleep arguing with my mom... etc. I couldnt do much but tell him when he was sober that i hated the person he was when he drank/partied. He didnt change for me. But he did change for a new love in his life.

I will always love my dad but he did loose a big hugh respect from me. I have learned not to take that from a man when i got older...

So my advice is to tell him that it hurts you to see him that way and if he could spend more time with you.

Answer 3

im 13 and my dad is the same way, i only see him on holidays because of it. you father is drinking to relive stress, from what i do not know. but just let him be, and when you get a chance talk to him, he might understand. most men i know will, though it could be diffrent with you, but give him a little more time then sit down and talk. thats the best thing to do.

Answer 4

Write your dad a letter and tell him how you feel Let him know it is important to you to spend time with him If you are living with your mom sit down with your mom and let her know how you feel Maybe she could talk to your dad she probably knows his personality a little better Good Luck I hope your dad comes around and learns how important it is to have a relationship with his child

Answer 5

It sounds like your dad might have an addiction to alcohol. He may not actually care, but that does not mean you are not worth his love and attention. My mother was an alcoholic. I know she loved me, but she was unable to show it the last few years of her life. Ask your mom, or someone who cares for you, to bring you to an Ala-teen meeting. It's for kids whose parents are abusers of alcohol and possibly other drugs. It might be helpful for you to listen to others' stories, as they might be very similar to your own. Sorry to hear you are suffering watching your parent behave this way.

Answer 6

You don't need to "get over" your Dad,
you just need to talk to him.

Tell him you really need to talk to him, and then when you do talk to him, tell him how much you really want to spend time with him.
Sometimes as you kids start getting older, we (parents) think you don't care to spend as much time with us because you would rather be with your friends.
So you really do need to tell him.
Ask him if you can go to a movie, or miniature golf, or out to dinner, or shopping....whatever you would like to do to just spend "time" together.

Good luck ;)

Answer 7

Talk to him about how you feel. Explain to him you would like to spend time with him, that you love him and miss him. Maybe he needs to hear that.Communication is always a good step to take.

Answer 8

awww...i feel very bad now... i think u really need to say to ur dad" WE NEED TO TALK!"...he should be spendin time with you..not some drunk crazy people at those partys...u need to tell him how u feel...and u need to make sure that he understands that this is the age to be luved by ur parents a lot..and spen more time with them...

Answer 9

I know exactly, EXACTLY what is happening, but I don't know if I can tell you yet. Have your parents told you where baby's come from?

I'll tell ya it's not the stork...

If you want to talk, you can email me :)

Answer 10

Honey talk to your dad. You will never get over your dad he is your father.