how do other husbands out there feel about being sandwiched between a possessive wife and a sister (single 45yroldmaid). my wife does not like my sister to call me every day and details her daily events to me. she doesnt approve of my financing her although she is self-sufficient. any advice? any one else has any similar stories to share?
2007-08-28 03:56:24 · 4 answers · asked by noelle12345 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe you should quit financing your sister. She is a big girl and can take care of herself and then your wife might not be too possessive. Your main concern should be your wife.
Who did you marry? Your wife or sister? Know your place.
-God Bless.
2007-09-02 12:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a wonderful brother now you just have to work on being a wonderful husband. Is it really necessary for you to finance your sister? Perhaps your wife is wanting something that she feels you could afford if you weren't "financing" your sister. As to the daily conversation with your sister discussing her day, I think that I would also be annoyed if my husband worked all day and then spent time out of his family time, talking to his sister. Don't you think that a friendly call just checking to see if she is all right would suffice? If you initiate the call, you can end it rather quickly .
2007-09-02 06:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh heavens...before I married my husband he had many girlfriends...ok those girlfriends were VERY jealous of his sister. I find this very insecure. Ok this is YOUR sister. Ok I understand that this is YOUR wife. Your wife has the problem, not you. How in the world can someone be jealous of your own flesh and blood...crazy I say, but I know it happens. Perhaps the sister actually taunts your wife. Oh and all the girlfriends my husband had before me...they left because of his sister. His sister even told me...that I didn't know her brother the way she did and "I" would be jealous. My response: "how in the world can I be jealous of you...you are his sister" - ok so the answer here is to just see if your sister is taunting your wife...maybe you should back off from your sister for a bit...only "IF" you want to save your marriage. Sounds like it's (your marriage) is taking a beating because of this issue...don't let it. YOU have the control NOT to let it. G'luck.
2007-08-28 04:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.
you have had a sister most of your life, i assume, and for many families it's normal to talk quite a lot... and it's a wonderful thing that you are close with your sister. i can't figure out why your wife has an issue with this? jealous of your sister perhaps? that is rather odd, i think.
i dont' understand what you mean about "financing" your sister? are you giving her money without discussing it with your wife, first? it's nice to help when someone is in need, and perhaps you could discuss this further with your wife.
i dont' know what to say about your wife's "issue" about you talking with your sister, daily, but i guess she will have to get over it!
take care.
2007-08-28 04:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋