I've known this girl for a few months. She's funny, very nice, pretty, in general just amazing. Some people (Kittana) may already know my situation, but the problem is, she has a bf, and her bf is my cousin...albeit, distant cousin...I am still not sure how we're related. When I first met her, I didn't know she was going out with him...in fact, I didn't even realize he was my cousin at the time.
We talk on the phone or on MSN for hours everyday. She's stated that she wants something more, but I can't bring myself to hurt my cousin...blood being what it is. So we're had the "I like our friendship now, lets not change things" talk about 3 times in the past month.
I really do like her...but again today I told her that I just want to be friends (lie). So what do you think is going to happen to this little triangle? Someone is going to get hurt aren't they? I've tried not picking up her calls, then she's all teary eyed, thinking I am mad at her; and I can't stand to see her sad.
2007-08-28 03:50:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One other solution I thought of after reading this question is that probably u and this girl shud talk things out with ur cousin for hez the one whoz coming in between u and this girl and why if the girl isn't serious bout ur cousin shud it be a problem? SO better way wud be to talk it out and then see how u and this girl carry on with each other and then u can culminate ur relationship into something solid and good. It's one solution to put an end to ur misery atleast. Emotions so strong are in need to be taken care of properly and not just let go.
2007-08-28 07:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by kittana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got to get the whole Emotional Intelligence thing straight. They have it on employment tests anyway. Try tran4mind for a bunch of free ebooks on all subjects. Don't leave home without it. Talk to your cousin about "if they are serious" and maybe say you'd like to date/"ask her out" if he's not and it seems appropriate. Or at least find out where he's at, he can intuit the rest. Then maybe you can tell her that it's about your cousin. She deserves the truth to make her own decisions and your, in affect, manipulating the whole situation thru misinformation or disinformation. Intuition tells you all that and More. Intuition follows from Emotional Intelligence. For instance, how is she treating him, trying to cheat on him and when will she tire of manipulating you? Is she emotionally mature or an emotion drain? She has you worn out already. Women know these things, men need to learn, if they want to be in the game and win besides. I suspect you can do a lot better and have them lined up. Pick the best leave, the rest. Now you know the secret of the players. Don't let them take all the options from you.
2007-08-28 11:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by hb12 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IMO you ought to leave her alone since your cousin is her bf. Why wld you want to spoil the relationship with him? It is not worth it. There are many girls everywhere. Moreover, I see no reason why she is going after you when she already has a bf and knows that he is your cousin.
She is just craving for attention. Tell her to get it from her bf. She has no reason to be so clingy with you.
You might be attracted by her physical appearane or you might be inflatuated. Infatuation is a feeling; only the emotions are affected. Thus infatuation is mostly biological.
Inflatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and your “feelings” than it is in the other person and it is weakened by time and separation.
2007-08-28 11:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sal SR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋