why are Christian WOMEN so afraid of their God-ordained ROLES?

Question

GOD created man and woman for seperate purposes. Man is the primary breadwinner, woman is his helpmeet. What is so scary about that? Why do women reject the idea of submission to men if it is in God's plan??

Answer 1

God made me a strong-willed, independent woman with a mind of her own. If he had a designated "role" for me that was nothing more than a slave to a man, he wouldn't have made me this way.

You have some serious issues.

Answer 2

We all as a people have a free choice as God has given us. Women have been put down for a very long time in society. God does not mean for us to take abuse of any kind. He is all about love not hate. God wants us to be submissive to the men in our lives weather or not the men are Christian men or not. Either you became a Christian before you were married and married the same or a non Christian you accepted Christ after the marriage. Either way we cannot aim our mates to Christ like lives if we are not submissive to them. I don't mean to the point of being a slave. Christ wants us to be equal with them but giving them the final authority over us and in the end God will bless us for this. You don't submit to something that is against the law or goes against God. I believe the Bible is for all people of all ages.I feel women can work as well as submit. You both have to work together. That was Gods plan a man and a woman together but ultimately with the man being the head of the household. I feel women think they lose control if they submit but actually they gain by this because they are going to be blessed plus get along better with their mate. Their mate will eventually want what they want. Then God blesses them both.

Answer 3

Some Christian women do believe that men and women have different roles. I never thought I would want to be a stay at home mom, but it's the best decision I've ever made. My family is better because of my choice. My kids always have someone to come home to, help with homework, be there for them. I don't have to worry about paying strangers to care for my children. I don't have to worry about getting time off from work if the kids are ill or have a school program or need a chaperon for a class trip or party.

Maybe I'm just lucky that my husband is a good provider and we can survive on one paycheck. I know there are families that need two incomes, but some just work because their careers are important to them. My family is more important than any job.

This does not mean I am submissive to my husband. I do believe in different roles but we are still equal. God has made that very clear.

Answer 4

This question is one of the reasons so many people (especially women) are rejecting the notion of becoming a follower of Christ. Generalizations, partial truths, and feelings of superiority were never part of Christ's teachings.

Why are you, sir, just you, not all Christian men, so sure that women (all women) should be "helpmeets"? A marriage is a partnership - and when the male partner opts out (including many Christians) - what happens to his "submissive" wife and children? They fall into poverty, that's what. When two people in a marriage care about each other more than they care about themselves - they are each other's helpmates - and they discuss, and are good stewards of their possessions and take care of their children TOGETHER.

Many parts of the teachings of Christ have been misinterpreted for centuries to allow certain peoples to feel superior and to keep some parts of society subservient to another.

As a Christian man, have you read the scripture in Galatians that in Christ "there is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither male nor female" - - - - - - - ? This was Paul's attempt to correct the very misconception that was running rampant in biblical times . . . . . . .

I'll pray that you study further and, please, don't relegate half the Christians in the world to the status of 2nd-class believers - - - - - Jesus loves me in all my outspokenness, in my ability to think clearly and my ability to know that the Bible is for all and to know when I am learning from the historical perspective (what was happening in the society of the day) and when God's word is speaking directly to how I am to live my life. Living the life of a servant (as Jesus said) is completely different from living life as an earthly slave.

I'll pray for you.

BTW - I've been married for 30 years to a wonderful Christian man who doesn't need a slave.

Answer 5

I'm not afraid to be my husbands helpmeet...

i think the very word 'submission' makes some people feel either a slave or a master in all senses of the word... and that is not what it means at all. a helpmeet is an equal part of a relationship/partnership which is what marriage is all about. I was blessed enough to be able to stay home 90% of the time with the kids... only working in our office when necessary.... but still equal in all we have done.

the big difference in a helpmeet and a slave... is the manner in which the husband sees his role. Does he treat his wife as Christ treats the church? or does he see her as a subserviant? it all comes down to the matter of HIS heart.... and that in itself is a big thing to 'trust' as a woman .. if our husbands are not of Good Will towards us in that role, it isn't a pleasant place to sit

I was born strong willed ... went to school to be an engineer... and married a man who was not a Christian.... we were not equally yoked at that time... but you know what? God came in and changed his heart and he is now the Spiritual head of the household... and we can work as a team on all things. It is amazing when the husband actually loves the wife as something precious....

Answer 6

What part of a two income family have you got a problem with?

Do you not remember Lydia, in Acts, who was a seller of purple? She was a very well to do business women that also started a New Testament church.

There are several women in the bible that worked, and had power, wealth and title. They were also in submission to the Lord.

Submission to my husband, is understanding his place in the kingdom and mine as well. You are misconstruing subservience and submission.

Answer 7

No. we are only provided that there is extra in life to boot kinfolk those days. because of the fact of technologies, women individuals have time to flow out and get a job and training. And what on the subject of the guy saving himself for his particular lady? Or do you suspect he can "mess around"? only because of the fact women individuals have become self sufficient of adult adult males, would not advise the "Fall" has come. Seeing how properly you adult adult males have screwed the placement up including your wars and the likes, i think of it is severe time we girls individuals took some administration away. -narrows eyes- you have a difficulty with that, Oh chosen one?

Answer 8

I know many women who do not reject this submission because their men abide by God's calling to treat their wives with love, respect, and obedience to God. However, too many men see this as a God-given right to have a female slave. If the man is not right with God, how can the woman be as well?

Answer 9

Could you clarify a bit? What exactly is a "helpmeet" and why do you feel so strongly about this? Have you had hurtful experiences with women in the past? *Bless*SJ

Answer 10

I think there is sort of a propaganda issue.

For me, I am kind of jealous of men's roles in society.
You have certain names of men that stand out in
history for their pioneering efforts in science,
politics, etc.

Women tend to have a more simple, busy life of
raising men and women. Their names are "mom"
collectively - they do not stand out as much in history
or society - in the adult world.

Sure, there are courageous moms as well,
but women do not seem to have very much time
to stand out. It is a sacrificial life in a different way.

Men have sacrifice in their roles, too though, in dying
in wars, etc. Both roles really do include sacrifice,
equally in ways, just different. A woman's body is so
different in it's child bearing capacity. I don't
want to deny womanhood and want to value it
more for what it is. Also, find out more about
what it truly is, not the traditional completely and
not the modern ideas either! I want to understand
better.

I realize that some of the jealousy is not reasonable.
I have not figured it all out yet.

Answer 11

That may be very comforting for (some) men, but none of the women in my life are lesser beings. The fact that my genitalia is primarily on the outside does not make me superior to any woman. That's an outmoded idea.