What would you do if you found out you're child was a bully?

Question

how would it make you feel? how would you deal with it?
my kids aren't at school yet but I am just thinking about the possibility of this happening.
Also if you're child was the one being bullied how would you deal with that?

doclakewrite, you have read way too much in to this, I just wondered how other parents have dealt with this kind of thing! As if I would put this in my babies heads!! you are nuts.

Answer 1

Firstly I wouldn't let that happen!! If my child was acting suspiciously or if things didn't feel right I would definately talk to them and ask their teachers. I can't picture my daughter ever becoming a bully!

If I found out my child was being bullied I would go straight to the teacher and talk about it - maybe even contact the bully's parents.

Love Ash x

Answer 2

I've been bullied, and if I found out my child was doing it they would get NOTHING.

There room would be stripped of anything but a bed and clothes, they would get NO privlages, NO dessert, NO NOTHING. And I would call the school and ask for her to stand up infront of the class no matter HOW OLD SHE IS and apologize and say everything that she did.

She would not be able to regain any of her privlages for a minimum of a year. Depending on the severity of it, she may never get some things back at all.

If she was involved in cyber bullying or constant mental abuse on another student her room would stay stripped until she was eighteen. If she wanted something she would work, I wouldn't be buying her a thing other than food and clothes.

In my mind, the minute she stepped into the school and harrased another person, she has lost all my trust.

It's sad really, if some of these parents did more about some of the severe bullying that goes on in highschools today it would not exist. I do not want my child being the reason someone comes and shoots up a school or kills themselves. They may hate me for very many years, but when they are older they will understand.

Answer 3

I would be furious if one of my children was a bully as they have all 3 experienced some form of bullying at primary school the 2 eldest were ok and dealt with it ( they are now 15 and 13 ) but I had to move my youngest in Feb 2006 ( 9 yesterday) out of the school 2 minutes walk from my house to another 4 miles away as nothing was being done about the boys billying him and now he is a lot more happier. He would wet the bed every night before a school day but no matter how many times I went into school the other boys ( one a son of a police officer!) said it wasn't them but I know of 3 more children who left because of the same boys one girl even had haer ponytail cut of by the police officers son and he was only kept in at playtime!

I complained to OFSTED and the local authority but the school still got a glowing OFSTED report stating the children all got on and bullying was not an issue!

It's hard finding out your child is being bullied but you do anything you can to make them happy.

Answer 4

I actually have a child(step daughter) that started bullying. She was in first grade last year, and was tall for her age. Problem started with a dad that wasn't around, and an instable family life.
We tried a lot of approaches-but the only thing that worked was laying down consequences. I told her that if I got any more calls, that this is what is going to happen. Period. I ended up pulling her out of activities she enjoyed, dance,ice skating-everything-for 2 weeks. It was hard to follow through, but it worked. Then I made it clear that it was unexceptable, and if it happened again, that I was going to come up to her school and make her apologize in front of the class. Just the idea of that kind of humiliation was enough to deter it, along with 2 weeks of sever boredom. Before that, we tried counseling, talking with her, getting the teacher involved. Everything. Old-school is all that worked. Oh-and if your child is bullied, talk with the teacher, parent, whoever-get it out in the open. That is the place to start, because when the kid (bully) sees that everybody knows now, they won't feel so comfortable doing it.

Answer 5

If my child was the bully i would ban them from going out and send them to bed at 7, they wouldnt be allowed on the computer or their video games and they would have their phones taken away from them.

If my child was the child being bullied i would make sure the school knew about it and make sure something was done about it the next day. Some schools today dont care or take any action when a child is being bullied these days!

Answer 6

First off you would have to openly accept that your child is in fact a bully. There are alot of parents who refuse to believe their child can do any wrong and this is the kind of atmosphere where bullies are created. Seeing that mommy and daddy adore them and they push the limits until they have you wrapped around their fingers and you refuse to believe they could be bad at all. If you accept that they could be a bully then nipping it in the bud early on when they first start is the best method. Taking some of their favorite things away and making them unvite kids over and have to play nicely with them to teach them that they should be nice and not a bully are good ways to work on the issues.
If your child was being bullied then letting them know that they should not be afraid and tell someone when it happens should help by making the bully get in trouble and face their actions. You could tell them to fight back but with the tolerance rules in our schools today they could get in trouble too.

Answer 7

No matter how you wouldn't want to believe your child would bully you would have to address it and also find out why they do it perhaps they aren't happy either. If my child had I would deal with it and try and make them face up to it probably if it happened at school then I would ask if I could have a meeting at school with the child it involved and their parents and I would make them face up to it and I wouldn't defend my child if it was the case they were in the wrong, then I would find out why my child was doing it and help them to deal with their problem in a more productive way than bulling.
My son was bullied once and I made him hit the other boy and afterwards I went into the school and explained what I had told my son to do and that I know they have their policies but I also have mine and on that occasion the headmaster got back to me and said on that occasion I was right and that the boy had learnt his lesson he went on to say they had, had a number of other incidents with this boy so it was about time he had a taste of his own medicin but then on the flip side my son felt brave and kept intimidating this boy until I told him that it was one thing to stick up for himself but now he was turning into a bully and so he stopped.

Answer 8

well people cant say that it never happen to their child.
my teach my little girl not to bully and one day she and her friend did she was copying and she is only 6 when i was told cause the teacher deal with her and her friend i told her about it when she got home that i will not put up with her behaviour if i see or hear about it again something will be taken out of her room or she wont go to a place that we mite off planed.

And it made me feel bad cause i always teach her right from Wong it just shows you that when they are around there friends at school they will copy but the school that my child gos to dose deal with it and not very likely. and now she knows what the teacher dose do in school she has never bully since which i am glad she has leaned

i hope this has helped you

Answer 9

I think children become bullies because they feel that's the only way they'll get attention. They are afraid to show their weaknesses and target others who are obviously weaker than them.

If raised with love and care and a sense of right and wrong, children will grow up with healthier attitudes. It all begins with how their parents/guardians raise them.

If my little boy was being bullied, I'd find out who was doing it and try to see if he/she needed help. Normally, bullies are bullies because it's the only way they can cry out for help. I'd be willing to help if it would mean that they would live a happier life. Just because they have sh*tty parents doesn't mean they don't deserve that. It's everyone's responsibility to see that all children are healthy and happy because they are the future of this world.

Answer 10

All bullies are coward, I was bullied when I started school in England in year 9 and I fight back almost killed her but you realise that bullies are pathetic cowards, the polica got involved in my case and since me and the girl had the fight that was the end of my bullying..

If I find out that my child was a bully I wouldn't know what I would do to him or her because they an't no way I'm gonna tolerate that in my house!!