Words of encouragement please?

Question

Although I am in need of some kind words it is going to be a good day. You see my mother in law is being released from the hospital today and she will be coming home to live with me and my husband. Her health is on the poor side, triple by-pass in Feb. and now she batteling vascular problems in leg and foot. In fact she was in jeopardy of losing the leg. By nothing short of a miracle she has regained blood flow to the leg and foot. She was scheduled for another surgery this week and the flow just returned!! I am so thankful she at this point will not lose the leg. Anyway I am rearranging furniture, bunking my 2 very small boys in one bedroom to make room for her. I do not mind at all. It will be a pleasure to have her here. I am just anxious to get this transitioning period behind us becuase I know I it be a adjustment for the whole family. This family of 4 with 2 boys ages 2yrs and oneonly 8 mos. just became a family of 5. The challenge will be of the time management nature and of the

financial nature. I will be going to work very soon after being SAHM for the last 2yrs. I never new locating good childcare at a resonable price could be so difficult. Any way I did not intend on writing a novel for you guys to read. Thanks for taking the time to post words of encouagement for me and my family.

Answer 1

I admire your willingness to take in your mother-in-law to live with you. God can give you the love and perseverance you need to adjust to these changes.

But I am concerned about your decision to go back to work. Not only will your children have to adjust to being in the same bedroom, but now having another family member who needs their mom's attention... and then on top of that you want to go to work, which to them feels like being abandoned.
Is there no other way to work out things financially so that you don't have to go to work? Will your mother-in-law be able to do some of the housework?

Answer 2

It is always a good news to hear that a family out there is willing to take care of an ailing parent.

I admire you for taking such a big responsibility of taking care of your mother-in-law. It only proves that you really love your husband. It will have a great impact on your household but i guess, every member of the family has to make a sacrifice for this noble deed. Children are generally resilient and can adjust very well to this new arrangement.

As you've said, time management is very important for you to be able to do all the chores at home. You and your husband can make some arrangements with regard the division of labor.

Just believe in the power of love and the wisdom of good karma, that every good deed you show upon others, will come back to you a thousand times.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Of course you are worried right now about how to juggle your soon to be busy life but sit back and think of what a wonderful thing you are doing. You are actually being a real life angel by making your own scarifices to have her stay with you guys. She needs you and your family's support right now. The boys will probably be that joy that she needs to help her heal right now. While you are busy taking care of the whole family remember you need down time too but please do feel good about helping someone out - especially your husband's mother because it wasn't for her- he wouldn't be your husband. :)

Answer 4

Been there, done that..got the shirt.
I can tell you there will be good days, bad days and lots inbetween. At times it will be amazingly joyous, other times brutal. YET.. the good news is...if you keep your focus on what's important... (showing the love of your family to your children and imprinting on them that this is the way that love works) you will have done your children a great service (and possibly saved you a trip to the nursing home when you get older :) )
You can make this work. Just keep focused, ask God for help and be prepared to recognize it when it comes... And make sure you enjoy the moments of quiet in the rare moments they come....
Good luck..

Answer 5

Well done, I admire you, although the thought of my mother in law in the spare room scares me! But good for you. My mum and dad gave up about 4-7 years of their life with my grandparents. They had to buy a house with a granny flat, it was hard going and I think my dad suffered because of it. But we wouldn't have them in care homes, how awful. Just the last few weeks when they both needed constant care. Is it a permanent thing? Does she have a house to sell o you can buy a bigger more suitable place- perhaps with room for a granny extent ion, close to but not in your kitchen. Mum found sharing a kitchen with grandma really hard- she was not very hygienic!

Answer 6

You and your husband need to work out a financial agreement with your mom in law before she comes to live with you. Its not fair of her to expect to live there for free. I think you also need to see if you are actually going to come out ahead by going back to work right now. By the time you pay for childcare, and the expense of working (gas, food, clothing) are you actually going to contribute anything? Frankly it sounds like you are needed at home.

Answer 7

you and your fam are so cool. your mom in law needs you guys and you all have swept in like a super hero team. your kids will love having grandma around and your husband will love it too(all boys love their mommy) think about this...
how is mom in law feeling about being a "guest" in your house,about being dependent on you all,about being a "burden"? help her to feel as if she is in the loop and part of the household.let her tend to the children as much as her condition will allow.there's nothing worse than feeling useless .all in all love your mom and extend your hand like you would want someone to do for you.
i don't think you all will have a hard time adj just come together to accomplish what you've set out to do....like the super hero team you all are
many blessings