There is this one guy I dated and I've always wanted to know what happened after we split. What does he do, did he get married, how has life been? I think I've tracked him down and have an email address and I'm debating on whether or not to send him a message. It's been 13 years since we last spoke and I just want to know what ever happened to him. I have no intention of starting things up, I'm happily married and I think he is as well, I just can't have to know how he is. Is that bad? Has anyone else tried to locate an old flame and how did it go?
2007-08-28 01:28:35 · 9 answers · asked by WREAGLE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just want to reiterate, not AT ALL interested in starting things up with this guy. I've recently been playing catch up with a lot of old friends from school and was wondering where this guy's life had gone, that is all. I would tell my husband of course. Some people need to lighten up.
2007-08-28 01:45:54 · update #1
Good points, even the ones who think it's a bad idea.
2007-08-28 01:48:08 · update #2
Absolutely contact him. Ask him about himself and tell him about yourself. It's fun to look up old friends (that's what high school and college reunions are all about!). I've done it and it was fun to catch up.
2007-08-28 01:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Would you be alright if your husband started flipping through his old little black book and made some phone calls?
No, it's not a good idea; it's a heated argument waiting to happen, even if your intentions are honorable.
Remember, when it comes to the heart and marriage, logic goes out the window. All it will do is make your husband wonder what he isn't doing to make you happy and what this old ex of yours did that you miss.
2007-08-28 01:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 04:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by broderic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never felt the need to know how an ex made out. If you have the email address, just drop a line saying Hey!
2007-08-28 01:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's bad at all.
If you had a fairly good relationship with him, it's natural to care how he's doing.
I mean, boyfriends/girlfriends are or at least were our friends at one point too.
Oh yeah, and I think you should definitely let your husband know if you send him an email.
If you think he would get upset with it, then leave it alone.
Just DON'T be sneaky about anything or hide things.
That is only asking for trouble!
2007-08-28 01:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by sheenabeenaaa 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're married---then leave old flames alone. If you were single, it would be another story. You are just asking for trouble and you could end up hurting your relationship now. Stop thinking of yourself and put your family first. You've made your choices, now respect them.
2007-08-28 01:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by towanda 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are playing with fire if you are married! Admit it, you want to meet and see what this man is doing. Bad iddea in my book. its the first step into temptation. beware
2007-08-28 01:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by Abigail 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I never tried to loacate one but i think its a bad idea if your both married.Just sounds to me like you are missing him
2007-08-28 01:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Gemini 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bring along your husband when you meet with him. you can also tell him to bring his wife along, and his kids, if has.
2007-08-28 01:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by Eds 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋