Ive just started speaking to my ex again, and he said that hes already seeing someone else. But he said all he can think about is me and when he thinks of something to turn him on he thinks about us and everything reminds him of us. If he wanted to break up so much why is he still thinking about me, or is he trying to flatter me so i can still be there for him when he wants..
i love him so much still, i cant stand us not seeing each other, being friends will be great, but it would have to be a secret. I am doing the right thing?
2007-08-27 22:50:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you really have to ask this question? What he is proposing is that he will continue his relationship with the other woman and you will be his bit on the side. The spare slit. Is that what you want to be? The dirty little secret? If he has to keep his relationship with you a secret then forget all the 'friendship' bit - it means everything you do will be furtive and sneaky, behind closed doors. That's a lot of fun if it's just for sex and nothing else, but you profess to love this man. You'll be on a downhill slide the minute you agree to take up with this man again, kid. You want hearts and flowers, choirs and violins in the background and a little cupid flitting around pinging arrows about the place, and he wants a warm wet hole to masturbate into. Don't even think about it.
2007-08-27 23:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by drrwalker2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How is all of this working for you? Why are you wasting your time on a loser? He's playing you for whatever he can get and, trust me, he's laughing about all the cr*p you're taking from him. He thinks he's a player and you thing you're in love. What are you in love with? Being treated bad? Don't you think you can do any better? Don't you deserve to be treated better? Why don't you gather some friends around you and get busy-very busy. When he calls, don't take the call. Why torture yourself? You don't want someone like him for any type of friend. Friends treat each other a whole lot better than he is treating you. Get your head together and never let anyone treat you like he is treating you. A secret? He wants to see you on the sly! That way his new gf won't find out. You're the reason that guys think they can get away with treating females like cr*p. Stop it!
2007-08-28 06:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will always sound tempting, but if he broke up with you and now feels that he can only think about how things were with you two, he is just holding on to the good memories. It is all too easy to forget the crap that happened and be nostalgic about the good things.
The same problems will probably just come around again. Also, keeping a boyfriend secret is never a good idea, think how your friends would feel to know you've been keeping such a big thing secret.
2007-08-28 05:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by tinotoin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the punk to back off in his own jackyard!! You want to be his side dish? That is your choice and don't expect sympathy and violins!@!*^#!!! Unless you develope a spine and move on you get not an iota of respect. You wil be the laughter and joke at their expense. If he chases you tell the gal he is with and set him up. if he is drunk and passed out put some makeup on his face and take apic maybe the other lady wants a litle of the action. Tell the other girl that he is a dirty roten dog player and give her proof. If you play that game be prepared that if you take him back your reputation is shot!
2007-08-28 06:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - run as far & as quickly away as possible.
He's in a relationship & if it's not working out he should be a man & end it instead of being a mouse & behaving in the way he is.
Also it sounds to me like you'll end up getting even more hurt than you are now. I know it'll be hard now & it'll hurt, but leave him alone. It'll be best in the long run, look at it this way - if he's prepared to cheat on his current girlfriend what says that he wont cheat on you in the future.
You're better than this, rise above it & use the moral backbone that we all have - let alone limit the emotional distress to yourself.
2007-08-28 06:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mindless 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he loved u so much he'd finish wi his gf n be with u!! personally I think he's trying to keep u sweet to get u in bed so he can have it both ways!! if he doesn't end up leaving his gf 4 u just try really hard to move on! dont get with him while hes still wi this girl it just makes him a cheater n u as bad if ya do that behind his gfs back
2007-08-28 08:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by scotgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he love you that much to have you as an extra bite/or afters and still keep it a secret,and when it leaks out to his girlfriend then his story will be that you are the one coming after him.wake up to reality.he misses the sex not you.l am sorry but think again
2007-08-28 06:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by adeb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put him back and than toss him aside... really it will make you feel better and it's more likely you will find that you don't like who he's become. Pertend to be his friend it will kill him. He's WITH ANOTHER girl and he's saying this to you? What a jerk. If he cared so much he won't be with her..waiting for you to steal him away. He'd make himself available if he really felt that way.
2007-08-28 06:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by duuh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOO....dnt make the same mistake twice..trust me i tlk 4rm experience. dont forget the reason u 2 broke up in the first place. i think he is just doing it to be nice.
Good luck and stay strong! :D
2007-08-28 05:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
ive had this before, and my advice to u is not to take him back once a cheater always a cheater, he knows u will take him whenever he has no one. dont be a fool, he aint worth it u deserve better.
2007-08-28 06:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by janice r 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋