14 yrs ago when she was15,had a boyfriend that she was in love with,and a best friend that she confided in and shared everything with including any good or bad times that she ever had with her boyfriend,she was like a close sister to her.then one day she found out that her best friend was having sex with her boyfriend,and when she confronted her about it,instead of the best friend being remorseful and apologetic,she gets an attitude and starts argueing with her,and in the midst of all the heartache and pain of losing her boyfriend that she loves,and the pain of being betrayed by her best and only (thought to be) real friend,she shot her,and she died.she is very remorseful of what she had done in the the heat of the moment so many years ago.before this had happened,i didn't know her,but very briefly knew of her from down the street and around the corner.she will be released from prison soon.and there's a good chance that we may start a relationship,is this a good or bad idea?and why?
2007-08-27 21:31:33 · 17 answers · asked by Mr. boyer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think it's a great idea to be friends with her...after being in prison for a long time, she will need people who will support her and be there for her...i'm sure that she is very nervous and afraid of how she will be able to pick up the pieces of her life...of how she will be accepted again by society...14 years is a very long, long time and she was so young then...she made a terrible mistake...we all make mistakes but i'm sure she is sorry for what she did...
i think it is very good of you to offer her friendship...i'm sure she will appreciate it...we all need second chances in our lives and to have someone to help her will make it all easier on her...good luck...
2007-08-27 21:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that (almost) everyone deserves a second chance! However, people can be hardened by the prison system as it puts them in contact with other ciminals and people who have commited bad crimes. They can become assimilated into crime culture and are often exposed to drug abuse and addiction, particularly heroin.
But if the prison system has done its job then she will understand fully that what she did was wrong and will appreciate life so much more on the outside.
Just take baby steps - assess the situation when she's been out for a while, see if she gets a job, isnt taking drugs etc.
Hope that helps
2007-08-27 21:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
This is really sad. On the bright side, the trauma that the girl suffered has been put to rest. She took action at the time. In my view she is not a murderer, she is hardly likely to repeat this as it was a great emotional upheaval she went through. She must have been really desperate to kill, rather than just walk away. perhaps there may still be a vulnerability to become attached to boyfriends - who knows? You could become friendly with her, but keep your distance socializing until you feel the time is right to become a friend. Look for signs of attachment to men - this is the dangerous area, as something could trigger another event off. There was other issues about your question - where did the girl get the gun from? So, she can shoot - if she moves into the area, does she have access to a gun? My advice - be friendly. Best wishes.
2007-08-27 21:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by Glo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow that is tragic.
Well on one hand she has done the time for the crime. She obviously has had a lot of time to think. And 15 years versus 29 years old is a big difference. Emotionally a person is quite different.
Although you will always have this thing lurking in the back of your head. Just take it easy feel the waters. You will know by her behavior if there is a psychological problem. It is a tough one and I wish you luck.
2007-08-27 21:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...my honest opinion is that people that kill can never repay what they did, no matter how many years you sit in prison, it doesnt make any difference. That girl took someones life, she still has life. I dont think you should date her, you know what happened and the surrounding facts of why, so it wouldnt be a good idea to put yourself in that situation. I dont think it would be a bad idea to be friends with her, bc she may not have any at first, take it slow, maybe after you get to know her you might want to date, btu take your time with her, she is a killer.
2007-08-27 21:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the big picture, I say NO. She comes with too much baggage. Could you ever really trust her? She may have "served her time" and "learned her lesson," but if the first murder was done in the heat of the moment, it could happen again. Why did she have a gun with her, if all she meant to do was "confront" her ex-friend? She has displayed poor judgment "to the max." I believe that is a character trait, and that you cannot change, my friend.
2007-08-27 21:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by soupkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not an idea to starting a relationship between the two of you and I think she wants to thinking on how starting of her a new chapter of her life after she was releasing from the prison and I think she did not to ready to giving a second chance to having a relationship because she wants to forget about her bad experiences especially to her boyfriend and I think let you think about it on this situations
2007-08-27 21:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Clarisse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it was 14 years ago. a lot can change in 14 years and you seem like a smart enough guy to be able to tell when someone is crazy or not. i'd give it a go and see where it takes you. just dont go sleeping with her best friend!
good luck sweety!
2007-08-27 21:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone deserves a second chance, and she was remorseful of what had happened, if you are serious with her and sure that you wont cheat on her , give it a go!
2007-08-27 21:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Fatty 71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is there a good chance you will start a relationship?? I'm lost.
2007-08-27 21:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by Mum&wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋