2007-08-27 21:18:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
what if no conversion=no marriage; and you love her deeply?
2007-08-27 21:26:40 · update #1
This sounds harsh, but that is like when islamic radical kidnap people and say, "If you convert to Islam, we wont kill you". It would be anything but a sincere conversion. The same applies here. Patience, understanding and a good example are much more likely to yeild a successful conversion than force or coersion.
If the fiancee is making that an ultimatum, I think that leads to problems. If its just the family, then i look at it this way: If she is mature enough to marry, she is mature enough to make her own dicisions about these issues. Thats the way i see it.
2007-08-28 03:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Magic Mouse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. It would depend on what the religion was, however. I was prepared to convert to Judaism for My Steve, but he did not require it, nor his mother. He said I liked Jews more than he did! LOL
If they are insisting on this as a requirement for marriage, I'd be concerned that the religion is an authoritarian one, and be very suspicious. How do you feel about converting "in name only," if that would be acceptable to your honey?
2007-08-28 01:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; love and personal beliefs regarding theology/religion are independent and should stay that way.
I might be willing to die for a certain woman but I would not make promises which I might not be able to keep. Altering religious beliefs for something which has nothing to do with them is a prime example. In the heat of the moment a man might agree to convert but mental distress is the worst form of self-flagellation, which is how I see it: whipping your self with chains because you want to marry someone.
Happiness is not a function of religious commonality.
2007-08-27 21:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. If She feels the same, religion matters not. It her he's marrying not her family + the family will get over it or lose a daughter and son in-law. If you stand your ground long enough the family will except eventually, won't necessarily like it, but will live with it.
I'm Catholic and my wife is a Muslim. We respect each others views. Married for 16 years happily. Her family excepted me after she refused to talk with them for two years.
2007-08-28 00:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the individual and the society concerned. Personally, I believe, that spiritual forces are the same for all entities, great and small (terrestrial or extra-terrestrial).
2007-08-27 22:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the religion. If it was close enough to mine, sure.
Now, if it was Scientology...I think I would have a problem with that.
Sorry Tom Cruise, I can't marry you. But...you're already taken.
2007-08-27 23:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A priest advised Lita not to marry me I am divorced . We married in my church . still have separate churches but now married 25 years
2007-08-28 03:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my Jewish friend converted his wife to be Jewish it was a easy conversion be cause her parents are deceased.and now i tease her and call her "my little Jewish mother "but she don.t mind it she thinks it kind of funnyand he husband get,s a chuckle out of it too.
2007-08-28 04:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by atlantismeditation@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if i was forced to as i would supposedly love the person greatly/
2007-08-27 23:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ уσυ вєℓσηg ωιтн мє ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they lived in a 3rd world country maybe just pretend
not in europe .... no need
2007-08-28 00:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by walter e 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋