I'm pregnant... It's almost time and I think I'm having second thoughts.?

Question

I want a baby... But I'm so afraid right now. My husband and I both work in law-enforcement and its so dangerous for us at work. And I see kids everday who have, what I call HORRID PARENTS. I cannot help but think... '' What if I'm a screw up?'' ''What if my son ends up doing this stuff '' Everyone knows that the sheriffs kids are usually the worlds worst... That is how it was when I was growing up anyway.
My husband is getting excited, I've been excited. But now I'm getting scared. I've got less than 2 weeks before they do a c-section. I cant wait to be a mom, but I'm in no hurry to screw up...
Any advice to calm down?

Answer 1

The very fact that you are worrying about being a good mum is a very good sign. Every parent worries about things, including whether or not they will screw up. The best you can do is your best. You know what = a bad parent, so don't do that stuff.
Don't be too nervous, a baby will pick up on that and get nervous too! Just remember when you were a kid, I thought my parents new everything, and exactly what they were doing. HA! Now that i'm an adult, i can quite clearly see that we're all just blundering around doing the best we can with what we know and what we've got. But as long as your kid knows he can trust in and depend on you, you're on a winner. You will do so great, and i'm so jealous!! Good luck!

Answer 2

Most first time moms have that fear.... well the ones that care do....... You will make a better mother because you have seen both sides. Your not gonna screw up, but if you do you will learn from your mistakes........ What most of us call a screw up really isnt one, we would just do things different.......

You will do fine mommy.... take a deep breathe and wait for that little joy to be born.... ohh and once the baby arrives and you see its face and those little eyes for the first time,..... all your answers will all come together...... You will truly know what real love and total amazement is........ there is nothing in the world like seeing your new child for the first time its breath taking.......

You will do fine. and You will take less chances at work and so will hubby because you will be living every day for your child. You will take less chances.

Every parent makes mistakes, if they say they dont they lie............. But a good one sees the mistake and doesnt repeat them, or the mistake is not someomething the child will remember all his life, but your love is something he will never forget !!!!

Answer 3

Stop and think of all the best things that could ever happen to you, then times that by 1000, and that is only a small percentage of the happiness this child will bring you. It is normal for first time parents to have second thoughts, and wonder about the future,but if you set down some strong guide lines from the very start you will be fine. Congratulations to both of you.

Answer 4

I've had 6 kids and you're thoughts are normal. The fact that your concerned and thoughtful shows you're gonna be a great mom. Everyone messes up as a parent so don't worry we all fall short. The end of the pregnancy is a time where one can worry themselves crazy over everything.Those hormones are raging and your very sensitive right now but it will all be over soon and you will be holding your special baby.

Answer 5

hi there look slow down a bit and take a dep breath .......look what youre going through is the normal things that all mums and dads to be go through ,youve heard more than likely that youre world is going to change and it will never be the same again ,but this is youre and youre husbands baby and it is what you teach them as they grow up that counts teaching them right from wrong ,respect for people ,and im fully aware that you both know what and how you want for youre child ,you have a few years to go til the teenager kicks in and by then you will know youre son/daughter so well,you wont need to worry ,just you concentrate on relaxing and taking things easy before the c-section is done and i wish you all the luck and love in the world xx

Answer 6

thats so normal what you are feeling. Once your baby is born you will feel differently. Even if you don't right at first which is normal too, you will.. Its very scary to worry about a baby and that just means that you love and care everything. Get at the library and read several books on mothering and parenting and babies. Information is the best knowledge and knowledge is power. The more knowledge you have on the subject, the more secure you will feel in what you are doing when you raise your child. You will do just fine, just believe in yourself as a good mother. All new mothers have to learn.

Answer 7

There will be so much beauty and joy before the horrible teenage years, and you may get lucky, there are a few cool adolescents out there. Just love your baby and enjoy how cute they are, and if you don't believe in God, start. Then you can pray and let go and let God. I'm pregnant too and likewise afraid of everything, I tell myself that I don't own this child. I am just a guide, and I'm gonna be the best damn guide I can be, and I'm gonna love my daughter and be strict but fair. Good luck! Being concerned already shows you're gonna be great!

Answer 8

Right now, that child inside your body and your parenting are both clean slates. You have every chance in the world to be a good parent, and to raise a good child. Don't be scared, just always be sure your child knows that both of his parents love him, each other, and God with their whole hearts. This is the best and most important thing you can do to raise a happy, healthy, and moral child. You're going to do just fine. Best wishes, Mommy to be, and God bless.

Answer 9

You love your baby already. You love your husband. You are worried about screwing up.

Those three things are going to help you keep from screwing up. The people with the uber-messed up kids don't give a thought to there kid's well being.

Congrats to you both.

Answer 10

One thing is that how you're feeling is very normal. You are about to embark on the hugest event of your life and you have no clue what it's going to be like, and of course, no choice about it. Take a deep breath and reassure yourself that women have been having babies for a long time. Remember how much you and your husband want a baby and think of all the love you have to offer.
The other thing to remember (as was told to me) is that the baby will not be born as a teenager. You will have lots of time. You will get to know your child. You will know your child all along and you will know your child very well. You will learn to read your child's cues and you will learn to be sensitive to your child's needs and moods and his or hers own unique personality. When my daughter was about three years old I went through a difficult time thinking about not wanting to screw up as a mother. I finally said to my husband one day, "I just want to know what I'm doing now that will end up being what she talks about to her shrink in twenty years. I want to know what I'm doing wrong now, so I can stop doing it." He said, "You can't know that." We seem to be able to see so clearly what other people should and shouldn't do and not do with their kids -- what it is they are doing wrong -- but, we just can't know it about ourselves. Chances are you will screw up. Sometimes. Chances are it won't be in teh ways that you know about, precisely because you know about those things. You can not be everything to your child. You will be very close with your child and you will show them the world and how to live in it. They will also learn from others -- from your friends, from their friends, from family -- and from the world that you expose them to and from the big, wide world that is out there. You have lots of time. You will soon get to know your baby and you will soon fall in love. Good luck and have a great time!!