im engaged and im getting married in 2years, we think the perth zoo or old swan brewery, its awesome but people keep giving me the your too young and i think you should wait when through the centuries many couples have gotten married younger... .all i need is a bit of help i have a friend who is helping, but im a little sick of being told i am to young when i pay bills clean my house go to tafe 3 times a week look after my dog and cat, i think i am responsible engough to be married....i am 17 and my fiaoncee is 27 my parents where the same ages and so were my mums parents and my aunty and my cousin. i am mature enough and it just feels right.
2007-08-27 19:45:07 · 9 answers · asked by nae_duck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO? AS LONG AS YOU ARE HAPPY THAT IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTER? GOOD LUCK WITH WHATEVER YOU DO. I AM GETTING MARRIED NEXT YEAR AND I WILL BE 20. PEOPLE I SHOULD WAIT. DO YOU THINK I AM GOING TO LISTEN?
2007-08-28 02:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people get married at 19 my mom did then got divorced and married my dad! I think that they are telling you are to young because they dont want you to miss out on life! College, traveling meeting new and exciting people, a great career! Things the 27 years has done already and now wants to find someone to settle down and well you didnt get to do those things and no offence when you turn 21 and hes 31 he probably wont want to go to the club and be that old guy!! Sorry but i think that its the 10 year age difference!!
2007-08-27 21:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by RedSoxRock!!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The difference between then and now is family structure and responsibilities are changing. When choosing a partner, things like life goals, spending money, college education and kids become serious issues. And although mature for your age, at 17 you cannot know where you stand on all those issues since it requires life experience for real understanding. There is no need to rush. Finish school and go out with your friends your own age.
2007-08-27 21:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How responsible and mature you are is not the reason they are telling you you are too young. They are simply looking out for your best interest, being able to go to college, explore, and meet other men. That is why they think you are too young. In my experience, any friends that I have had that were together through high school and got married immediately after are now divorced.
Not to say this is going to happen to you. If you are happy and feel ready, then marry this man. Don't try to explain to them you are old enough, tell them, "I am ready to marry this man and that is all there is to it."
2007-08-27 19:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Claret 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Read through some of the marriage and divorce questions in YA. Everyone who got married is wishing they didn't.
Dosen't matter when you get married if you realize it's for life and take it seriously.
2007-08-28 00:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jimbob 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing you can say or do is going to convince anyone. Only time can change that, and a lot of it. I don't think anyone respected me as an adult until I turned 30, so just be patient.
2007-08-27 19:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am a completely different person than i was at 19..
so i don't think i would wanted to have gotten married at that age..
2 years is awhile away..
2007-08-28 00:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by steph 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if i offend i apologize before-hand..i just turned 20 on the 11th i got married when i was 17 and we now have 2 beautiful little girls. but now that i look back on the day that i met my husband i think...wat if i didnt talk to him..where would my life be? i wouldnt b in college bc i dropped out anyways..id probably b an alcoholic..or a pill head..either or, not in a good spot. my first pregnancy is wat gave me a head on my shoulders..but now i dont know if i should of intercepted or not..i love my kids to death of course..but i just wish i could of waited..and i know i know you've probably heard that from A LOT of ppl, but it's true..i mean rly do wat you want..but just know it's hard and things may change between now and then..it sux but now i deal with it..good luck!!
2007-08-27 20:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by Cherry Henderson 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the naysayers, what does your fiance think and your parents think?
Those would be the only opinions that would matter to me.
2007-08-28 02:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋