i have been goin on with my guy for past 2yrs. we had ups n downs in the relation. but always patched up. we love each other n decided to get married. its time to tell our parents. i am ready to tell anytime but y is it takin a long time for my guy to tell his parents. m sure his parents will never oppose. i used to feel that boys are brave. then y is he takin so much time. he says he'll gradually tell.
2007-08-27 19:18:07 · 15 answers · asked by lilydals 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If his parents dont really like you or are cold to you, then its bc of his parents. IF thats not the case, then hes prob doesnt know if hes doing the right thing for sure. Hes scared, and maybe hes having 2nd thoughts on whether he has to marry you or not to be with you. Think its normal. Its certainly not wrong for him to be taking time to think.
Maybe do this, dont mention marriage again. He loves you, hes with you, and if you have spoke about marriage before then he obviously wants to be with you forever. SO dont stress. Maybe he needs to feel not under pressure. Men, guys - are really soft inside, they just like to pretend they are all tough and macho. I know, finally figured that out. I'd just things for you guys to do to take his mind off of it. Go somewhere together. Refrain from sex for a while. Create some of that WANT (him to WANT u).
Such as, refraining from sex, im sure youve heard take things away from ppl they want it more. Make a plan for a holiday or going somewhere together just for fun. DONT SAY Nothing about marriage.. see how u go:)
2007-08-27 19:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by RAIN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on a person, regardless of their gender.
I feel that something is DEFINITELY going on, however, because most guys/gals will tell their parents about a relationship if it is getting serious. 2 years is a LONG time, in my opinion. A few months I can understand, but 2 years??? Come on, I think this guy is playing you.
What is holding him back? Have you asked?
I would feel VERY insulted if my guy would hesitate to tell his parents about our relationship, especially after the "marriage talk."
I'm sorry, but "He's just not that into you" comes to my mind.
2007-08-27 19:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by cherryblossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years is a long time at your age (I presume you are very young). Maybe is ISN'T ready and is afraid to tell you this fact. Men and boys mature slower than us girls. If you are under 18 then it isn't a good idea to marry yet. I would wait, finish school, grow up a bit (both of you), go to college so you earn good money in order to support yourselves. What is your hurry? Good Luck and Congrats if you do get married.
2007-08-27 19:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by La_Liona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling my parents that I was dating and that we were serious (me and my 2nd bf) never happened. I was too shy and scared to say it.
When later on I met the man of my dreams, I just went to my parents the day we decided to tell them about us and blurted out that we wanted to get married.
It all revolved around the fact that one might be afriad, not that they'd oppose, no...that they wouldn't be that understanding. When parents oppose it doesnt mean they dont like the guy or the girl. It may mean that they think its too early.
2007-08-27 19:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys are not as brave as you think they are. Girls are more brave and stronger. You have to push them and only then they will do it. May be you should suggest that you both go and talk to his parents. Well it depends what age you both are. Are you independent or dependent on parents. If you want to get married you need to be financially stable. Thats most important.
2007-08-27 19:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by live and let live 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has he bothered to introduce you to his parents in all this 2 years? Has he brought you home to dinner?
If he hasn't, I wouldn't take the guy seriously.
He is either using you or is ashamed of you.
If after 2 years of dating, he still hasn't made a commitment, you really need to move on.
2007-08-27 19:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either two ways to look at this, he is either scare of you because he starting to love you or he has someone else in mind. Just asks him some question without him finding out and you will get your answer. It takes time and those are the greater boys. OR Maturity hasn't been formed.
2007-08-27 19:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend told me it is because he doesn't like to share everything with his parents. He waits until he has to tell them to do it not b/c I don't mean anything to him but because he doesn't need to talk about our relationship with them, girls seem to need the opposite. It's just how the male brain works. They don't need to verbalize feelings. Just give him more time and make sure you calmly address the situation and how you feel to him. Explain that by him not telling his parents it makes you feel as though you are not important to him.
2007-08-27 19:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by hefillsmylifewithgoodthings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't really tell about why he isn't telling his parents about getting married, but my parents never knew i had a girlfriend because they are embarrassments. They found out when it was over, damn loose mouth siblings.
2007-08-27 19:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by Zack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing to wait for. He's not telling his parents because he either doesn't want to get married or he's afraid they won't approve. There's no such thing as "gradual telling." It takes five words to tell them.
2007-08-27 19:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋