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tired to join an organization not too long ago, an organization I had longed to be a part of,and got accepted, but didn't go on to fully become a member :( I know bummer.Well anyways, so a few months go by and I meet this guy, I mean he's handome, smart, a prominent leader, but he was three years younger than I plus he happened to be the brother and best friend of one of the members of the the organiztion I almost joined. We started talking, and there was some chemistry, but not enough to feel like I wanted to be in a relationship with him,(if you catch my drift)so he starts calling me late hours of the night, he invited me over, we got drunk, and had sex, I felt some guilt but we talked it over and he assured me that there was nothing to feel guilty about, he wasn't involved with anyone in the organization and everything between us would be only between us, so a few months go by, and we really didn't talk that much but we hooked up again, and I called him, he called me afterwards

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(sorry for the long details) but yeah we were talking and I told him that I didn't want anyone to know about our sexual realtionship, I told him this because I didn't want people to think that I was a **** and put me in that category, and plus I told him that I might want to one day try to rejoin again, and he was like well, we do have a relationship, and in the midst of everything he was accusing me of playing on his phone, and all this stuff, but yet we got intimate, and we talked that night and he told me he thought I try to hard, and he started playing footsies, but then a few weeks goes by and I call to see if I left something at his house and he gets upset and tells me to never call him again and he'll tell everyone about our relationship, so now when I run into him, he doesn't speak, and the members sort of shun me as well,my question did I do anything wrong in your opinion and should I rejoin even though I might run into the same people, and why do you think he acted the way?

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58 minutes ago
What was really crazy...is the fact that after he threatened me and told me not too call him anymore, his best friend calls me out the clear blue asking me to come to one of his events..and I'm thinking oh yeah" somthing is up..

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Answer 1

I think you should definitely rejoin the organization, you are only human, however, this guy whom you speak of sounds confused. The explanation for this may be that, he could have something going on with another female at the organization, who knows (compliments of him) of your involvement. Ignore his ***, and continue on with your life.

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Yes you did something wrong, this is exactly the reason you should not give your body away for nothing. If you had not had sex this would not have happened. Sex has consequences both intended and unintended. Unless you are ready to deal with those consequences don't have sex.

Yes something is up, you had sex when you should not have with someone who you said you had no chemistry with. I would recommend you stop calling him and hope he forgets about you. If you don't want to be treated like this stop putting yourself in this situation.

If you don't want people to put you in that category then stop acting like one. Based on what you said you are right smack in the middle of that category right now.

Answer 3

You should be more careful who you give yourself to. Sounds like you just got a hold of a jerk. If you don't feel that you did anything wrong, just hold your head high and join any darn club you want to join!!!