2007-08-27 18:22:36 · 12 answers · asked by meister 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
We're never ready, and we don't have a choice. Time heals all wounds, but I'm still sorry you have to go through something like this.
2007-08-27 18:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by The Son of Man 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Saying it is part of getting ready. If you're lucky, you get a chance to do this before death actually happens, and then it's a little easier to take when the time comes.
Sometimes, though, death is unexpected, and then you're left to work through it after the fact. Sometimes this can be harder, as you deal with all the "could haves" and "should haves", but eventually--and this could be a matter of years--you will be ready, and then you will say good-bye. Sometimes it can be easier--you can say things that you need to say that would not perhaps have been welcome. Again, eventually, you will be ready to let go.
2007-08-28 08:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jewel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps look at it from THEIR point of view. Try to think about them and what they are experience instead of drowning in your own sorrows. Do everything you can for them..be supportive, if they need to talk..be there for them..this helps to bring you out of your own experience and be empathetic to the ones that are actually going through the experience. Death is a very natural thing. We all go through it and even though it sucks, its part of life. We have to take a different perspective sometimes to get a better look at the path ahead.
2007-08-28 01:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to say goodbye - only in the physicalsense. The dead never really leave because we have memories and hopefully you'll see each other in heaven. Death is one of the many things in life we can't control. Try this - don't say goodbye to the person - say goodbye to the pain and remember the person you loved through tears and the silly things they did to make you love them so much. Honor their life by not getting caught up in thier death. Trust me. It works.
2007-08-28 01:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by sARAcONNA 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say "I love you". Talk about the best times you and he or she ever had together. This is not a time to talk about BS, and all the pains of your life, or his/her's. It isn't about you, or your feelings of the moment. It's about trying to give your dying friend (whomever is near passing) a last smile, a last laugh. It's about making them feel as good as they can before they leave you. Laughter, and smiles heal inner pain. Please do this for your friend.
Pardon if you meant your someone has already passed on. If they have, there is nothing you can say to him or her, but to yourself. Remember the good times, focus on that. The love you each bore for the other, is what each of you two would want the other to remember, and each of you wanted the best for the other. To bog down in grief is wrong, and I would think your someone would be upset if you did that. He/she would want you to remember them, but not to bury yourself in agony. They would want to see you happy. I do, too. Bless.
2007-08-28 07:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by xenypoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will be ready in your own time. if you feel when you are ready and the funeral was a while ago, you can either look at the persons picture and say goodbye with a prayer or go into a church and do it
2007-08-28 01:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by JESTER 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Need more information to be accurate
are they still alive and suffering??
you find out if THEY are ready and if its best for THEM to go stand before their maker.
tell them how much you appreciate and love them .
if your talking about them already being dead ...... well you just gotta work through it . and when your through- it youll be ready and youll know
it may take a while
i had too when my dad died and he was my best friend.
my only freind really
email me if you need to talk
2007-08-28 01:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by spindymindi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a process, First, you grieve, a lot. In a sense they will stay with you just as long as you need them near you. Until you are able to say goodbye, if ever.
2007-08-28 01:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What else can you do? My father died 2 years ago and I still can't believe it. One thing you can do is to be sure and thank him or her for all the experiences you had together.
2007-08-28 01:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by heartfelt_atheist 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
meister
you don't
you say i'll see you soon. and you love them and let them know it is o.k. that they can go. that they will be remembered lovingly. it will be hard for you no doubt but it will make it easier for them. after word ...you cry. and when your done you cry some more. when you have had your cry you pick up the pieces of your heart and go on... it is what they would want for you... trust me on this.
2007-08-28 02:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by bgdadyp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋