Hello, I have a very strange problem. I have a girlfriend of 3years, we have a good relationship together, its just there is this one girl who I see who comes into my work ( i work part time at myer) and when i see her, Its love at first sight, everything about her I like looks, the way she walks. Im just so attracted to her that its scary. I feel like approaching her and giving her my number or at least try to make conversation with her. The problem is, I have a girlfriend.. what the hell am I thinking! Ive been thinking about her for days now, and I dont know whats wrong with me, i haven't even spoken to her yet and I feel like this, Why am i so attracted to her?, the other guys think shes nothing special, but I somehow have a connection to her and Its scary because im not usually like that.
I dont know if i should try talk to her and become friends, because i dont want to feel anything more for this person as i dont want to hurt my girlfriend.
Has anyone else been through this?
2007-08-27 17:41:39 · 9 answers · asked by Relationshipguro 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks guys n gals, I think i need to have a long hard think about my current relationship and as to why im so attracted to this certain girl, i have no idea. I see stunning 10 out of 10 girls daily, and i don't have any connection to them, with this girl its different.
2007-08-27 18:09:53 · update #1
Sounds like one of those "the grass is greener on the other side" kinda deals. How is your relationship with your gf? Do you truly love her? Do you see a future together? If you are going to pursue your new crush then you have to step up and end things with your gf first, and I would caution you to really think this through-are you ready to throw three years away?
2007-08-27 17:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by Tom T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and the right thing to do is to be an honest man and break up with your girlfriend first. Yes, BEFORE you even know if the new one is available or interested. Why? Because it's the stand-up thing to do.
Obviously your current relationship has lost some of the spark, because sparks are flying elsewhere. Which means that you're contemplating staying because you're comfortable with your GF. Well, would you want someone to do that to you?
If this solution really seems too much, then consider whether you just may be prone to idle infatuations every so often, turn your attention from the hottie, and get back and focus on your relationship. (This is what a responsibly married person would do, by the way.) And again, do this without finding out if the hottie is interested or available.
An abandoned fire will not continue to burn. But if you find you can't abandon the fire you feel for this new woman, then it's not about the her, or even the two of you... it's about you, and the fact that it's a very strong signal that your current relationship isn't working out, or perhaps that you're not mature enough for it. So dump your GF honorably, then ask out the hottie. Who knows? Maybe she really is "the one...." ;-)
2007-08-28 00:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your girlfriend and want to be with her you should stay away from that woman.
Its normal for a guy to be attracted to other women but if your going to be in a relationship honor that and if your having doubts let your woman know first before you start slangin your thing all over the work place.
2007-08-28 00:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by Skilow... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a strange problem...the only problem is that you're a man. If you have a good relationship with your girlfriend, why would you put yourself in a position where you may jeopardize what you already have? Don't do something you might regret later on. It may take years to build trust, but you can destroy it in less than a minute.
2007-08-28 00:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the grass is not greener on the other side . you need to respect the relationship you are in or this could become a toxic pattern for you, its okay to admire , or appreciate another persons looks but not at the expense of someone your claiming to love. let it go
2007-08-28 00:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by teresa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's your cousin. ;) How would you feel if it turned into nothing? Then you would lose both of them and be back where you started at. Sometimes work puts you in strange places and you bond with people. I saw stars one time around this guy and I found out he was gay. :)
2007-08-28 00:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by puss of an angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps u are just tempted by something new. don't do anything with the girl unless there is absolutely no agenda behind it and u truly just want to be friends.
2007-08-28 00:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by lucy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called infatuation, so don't rock the boat.
2007-08-28 00:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay away from her, or you'll regret it later.
2007-08-28 00:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by hockeyfreak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋