Dont know what to do, we been broken up for 4 months, she wants to be friends but i dont think i can handle that, its to hard on me... cause she gives me mix signs.. what should i do??
2007-08-27 17:28:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should probably ask for minimal contact until you feel over the situation and ready to have her in your life as just a friend. I'm about sure I know what you mean about mixed signals... and it's probably b/c you were together... and even tho now you aren't... she's still gonna feel jealousy and other things.. and she's just making sure you still want her... even though she's keeping her distance... for a reason. Good luck!
2007-08-27 17:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by peacexlovexrocknroll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I happen to be very good friends with an ex - she's like a sister. But this is rare. I have tried to be friends with other ex's and it does not work at all. If there are ANY feelings left on either person's part, it won't work. You clearly have feelings, and so does she. Being friends would only be a way to see if you want to get back together again. Don't do it.
2007-08-27 17:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by τεκνον θεου 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what I can tell you... Someday, when you have a relationship with a new girl and you are friends with your ex, it might cause a problem in your new relationship especially if the girl is quite jealous and possessive.
I suggest you just ignore your ex and move on. You survived 4 months without her, right? And by ignoring her, you can save your future relationship with issues and arguements involving your ex.
2007-08-27 17:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her that you need some time to get your life in order. If she really does want to be friends with you then she will understand. Take your time. Break ups are hard and she will have first hand experience of what they are like.
2007-08-27 17:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by frostie_icicle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. In about 20 yrs, you will be over it and on friendly terms. Actually, I am not sure if that is true. It has been 19 yrs since I divorced my philandering ex husband. I was hurt then and now I just hate his guts. I am over it, but I still cannot stand him. I will never be his friend and I hope he is not holding his breath waiting on that.
2007-08-27 17:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) Tell her to quit giving you mixed signals
2) If you don't think you can handle it, you have no obligations to remain her friend....It is always a nice thing though, to take the closeness of a relationship and carry it on into a friendship
2007-08-27 17:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by euphoric_dreamscapes7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be friends. I tried it and it sucks. The person that hopes there will be more than friends after trying to be friends ends up screwing themselves over. but if you try to start dating someone...the new person will get mad if your friends with an ex. It never works out.
2007-08-27 17:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a friend of an ex is not bad... besides, do you believe in love is sweeter the second time around?
2007-08-27 17:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by sggam 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really want to be friends, you have to accept that there isn't - and will never be - any chance of a romantic relationship between you.
2007-08-27 17:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by nfl_mystic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do what's best for you.
You should tell her you need some space and you'll call her.
Then just move on....it's better for both of you.
2007-08-27 17:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋