My bf and i have been together about 8 months now and usually get along pretty good.. there's the occasional irritating things each of us do however nothing major.
Well recently he had a new girl start working with him (he is the one who hired her). anyway she is very very beautiful.. its obvious and i know he sees it as well. Anyway i've been feeling very very insecure since she started (my last bf left me for the new girl at work). I am having a hard time trusting either of them esp. when they'll be spending so much time together.
Well tonight i asked him about her and he got mad. started acting like a real asshole and told me he'd dump me if i started crying! wtf right? I'm embarassed to be so insecure like this but i can't stand the thought of losing him. anyway things haven't been the same between us since she started. =(
2007-08-27 17:23:47 · 9 answers · asked by starryeyed 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm sorry sweetie, i understand why you're mad and you did nothing wrong
2007-08-27 17:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww hun... I know how you feel! But your boyfriend shouldn't be getting mad at you for feeling insecure about it. AND if there is nothing going on between them, he really shouldn't get mad at you and threathen to leave you if you start crying. I really don't know what to say since you mentioned that he acted that way when you asked him about her :[ Though I don't blame you for being jealous and feeling insecure, especially you had a past that relates to the same thing that is going on now. If your bf understands, and loves you, and he has no intention of being with the new-girl-at-work in anyway other than just being her co-worker, then he wouldn't and shouldn't be getting mad at you. You're a girl who has feelings, and I can see that you're scared of losing him... He really should understand that and not tell you to not cry or he'll dump you... Well I hope things will get better =| But CHEER UP okay? I really hope everything will turn out the best for you!
2007-08-28 00:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sound kind of young. I know no one ever listens, but it sounds like a breakup might not be a bad thing.
One thing I DO know, I would never stick with a guy who yelled at me, unless he was raising his voice to be heard over an oncoming train (or my screaming... but I don't scream. If you do, that may be a problem). Sure, you may be insecure and have some growing to do so far as realizing that not every guy will cheat, but when a guy starts acting "like a real a**hole" (in your own words), it's time to show him the door.
You will not become more trusting and confident if you give your time and attention to men who treat you that way. It's that simple. Move on and find someone who doesn't act that way. Perhaps if he sees you doing this he will realize he can't treat you with anger, and clean up his act, and you can get back with him. And then it will go better if you insist on being treated with respect.
2007-08-28 00:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see what your going through. But just try to trust him. I mean i went through the same thing but i was in the position your boyfriend was in. He didn't like the guy i worked with and would always bring stuff up and it made me so mad. Ya it's happened before but whatever happends in the future, you have to just plan for the best and not the worst. If something does happen, don't beat yourself up over it and get over the guy...it'll be hard but your not worth having an *** hole guy. You'll find the right one may it be him or someone else
2007-08-28 00:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well lets see maybe the girl is a b**** n sole purpose is to break couples up i would say that u spy on them not urself tho but someone else u trust theres a lot of the time that the girl says stuff like why u with her im better than her n so forth
2007-08-28 00:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by The Midnight Captain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u try to have a talk with him about how ur insecure and maybe if thing dont workout maybe u wil have 2 dump him or maybe u might just be jealous and nothing is going on with him and her afterall hes with u not her if he wanted her he would have been with her so obviously he wants u still
2007-08-28 00:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by future porn star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let Insecurity Behind Please
That Can Drestroy Any Relationship
I Bet That You Are More Pretty Than Her!!
2007-08-28 00:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by sph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey go with your gut!!! There are sme things to get angry about but if you are not doing anything there is nothing to get defensive about.
2007-08-28 00:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by Proud Mommy of twins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he say that if you just asked??? And dont blame him for your other relationships.....Hes with you not with the other girl, you must have something on her :-)
2007-08-28 00:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by *HuTcH* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋