why are some people emotional while others are not?

Question

can i get rid of this EMOTIONAL feeling? i feel over sensitive at times too. as much as i dont portray my true feelings, i feel very pressurised by my "automatic thoughts".

i always expect the worst no matter how great things can actually turn out, why?

Answer 1

expecting the worst first reveals that you are a pessimistic person and easy to get feeling hurt. think about the positive and good things about yourself and those around you rather than dwelling on the nagatives. get out and help others. that's one way to get off the "me, and myself" mode. chat with friends or listen to your favorite music that lifts you.

Answer 2

It's just the way we're made.

I'm emotional too, but also an eternal optimist. Doesn't stop me from worrying and over thinking, but I'm hopeful about the outcome, for the most part.

You might want to check out videos or books that help people refocus on the positive, like " The Power Of Positive Thinking" by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale.

Answer 3

OK growing up i was sexually abused at age 9 then 15 by my first boyfriend.. within one year a close friend died by getting hit by a car... then a year later my best friend commited suicide and i had police asking me questions saying i was the last to talk to her alive the previous night... then a month later another close friend died of cancer.. my mother has a terminal illness.. i live day to day on anti-depressants and want to commit suicide many days....Ive been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, disthymic, bipolar, manic depressive, add, anarexia.. and more. Some its a chemical imbalance in the brain or the way ur born... not a defect but its just like a speech problem or any other illness... some are depressed because of trauma.. for me its a bit of everything... hope i was helpful

Answer 4

Two reasons: Nature & Nurture
Nature: Some people's brain chemistry just makes them more sensitive to emotional stimuli. You may have a disorder like anxiety or obsessive-compulsive disorder, that makes your brain process emotions this way.
Nurture: how you were raised. If your parents coddled you & paid attention to every little bump you got, you may have learned to be over-aware of your feelings.

Either way, a visit to the doctor, a psychiatrist, or even the school counselor may be enough to help you see if you are really in the normal range, or needing more help, at this time!

Answer 5

Some people have a more complicated life that might involve dramatic dialogue, actions, and scenes. Others might've never even been in contact with situations where emotion is required.

That is our society and it's growth. The growth of difference!

Oh I'm sorry I forgot to read your details LOL! Umm, maybe you need to let go of your stress. Relax for a bit. Don't think too much about anything, or you'll start thinking the worst of it.

Answer 6

I always expect the worst also in every situation. Doesnt mean u cant control ur feelings. Its harder for some people but experience helps. Like a person use to seeing bad things wont be as phased as they were the first time.

Answer 7

I think everyone is emotional. Everyone shows it in different ways. Some people let it out with tears and some with anger and everything in between...
It sounds like you are like me.. I get very upset and over excited about things..
I know it sounds so crazy.But , going to the Dr. and getting on a low dose of anziety meds might just make you feel alot better.

Stacie

Answer 8

A lot of it is simply genetic predisposition. It's biological. It's better to have a wide range of emotions than to be just blah, so don't ever see it as a bad thing.
However, if you feel you need to gain better control of you emotions...therapy helps. Don't resort to meds unless you think its absolutely necessary for daily functioning. Reading up constantly on the subject matter can give you enough insight on how to handle yourself.

Answer 9

I think everyone is emotional. Some people are just better at controlling it than others. Your "automatic thoughts" are your inbred responses to outside stimuli. They may or may not be rational. The key is to balance your emotions and your control of your emotions. If you go too much in either direction, it's not healthy.

Answer 10

I think that's okay that you feel that way. Some people just have different personalities and those traits are a part of yours. I'm the same way, actually. But it doesn't effect my day-to-day life in such a way that might cause anxiety for me or have negative effects on me. I think you feel that way because that's just the way you are. You may need to seek therapy or counseling if you need to dig deeper and find out exactly why you feel like this.

Answer 11

Everyone has their own level of emotional sensitivity in them. What is universal is that thoughts create our feelings. And each thought may have a different level of the feeling (power) than another. You can try to challenge your thoughts and replace them with better ones. Of course, it takes time to "reprogram" your thinking for the better. In the meantime, best thing to do, according to buddhist philosophy, is to have patience and acceptance.