I keep hearing that muslims must have their family find them a spouse, then they marry..
Is this the ONLY way for muslims to marry? Or just the most traditional?
2007-08-27 15:04:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am asking because there is a 99% chance of me becoming a muslim, but my family would NEVER in a trillion years try to find me a spouse, nor would they converse with another family.. (They are just not the type of people to do that)
But I would love to get married, just not sure how it would work...
2007-08-27 15:25:20 · update #1
No freedom in Islam.
2007-08-27 15:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by Lionheart ® 7 · 1⤊ 5⤋
You might be able to find the ideal match online. There are some Muslim matrimonial websites. Or perhaps you could meet someone through an Islamic group or make some Muslim friends in the community who might be able to do some match-making for you to help find you a suitable partner or offer advice.
Salam.
2007-08-28 11:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by ♥zene purrs♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.... and im sure Islam does allow that freedom......but most Muslim families want to choose thier spouse because they just want to make whcih husband/wife is best for their son/daughter..... or probably because it's just a family tradition
2007-08-27 15:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is traditional or cultural , but in islam it isn't a must and not the only way ofcourse , but if u found the right for u then go ahead and purpose.
islam encourages marriage and family relationships and ocourse it is more preferable to choose her urself , u are the person who is going to marry and live with.
good luck ,
peace :)
edit: although that link isn't so related to the Q but it has a good point and has some other libks could be of help:
http://www.readingislam.com/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-AAbout_Islam/AskAboutIslamE/AskAboutIslamE&cid=1164545966081
2007-08-27 18:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's more of a cultural thing, or even a family thing, then a religious thing. Many of my Muslim friends have chosen their own mates, that group includes younger and older Muslims. However, I do have a few friends that have had their mates chosen for them.
2007-08-27 15:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well not nessecarily they can marry whoevr they want i mean in most of the countries its the traditon but not just islam in all the religions in tht country tehy can "fall in love" but u no not date like they gotta tell their parents their parents will set up the marriage and hapily evr after but i mean like say the fmily finds a spouse and some1 dosnt like the othr prsn they can always speak up
2007-08-27 15:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can? Of course. Advisable to keep the peace with the family? No..
2007-08-27 15:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by Socratic Pig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're doesn't have to pick a spouse for u, it's just a tradition!
2007-08-28 10:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most traditional ...
2007-08-27 15:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think they need to ask their parents if they wanna marry this person
2007-08-27 15:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by Fantasmic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋