Girls, I have a date and im really nervous. can any girl please tell me how you would want a guy to act?

Question

So i am going out on a date tomorrow with this girl i have never met in person. we have been talking online for a few days and a couple days ago we gave each other our phone numbers. we have talked a lot on the phone. i stayed up until like 4 in the morning two nights in a row talking to her. we were on the phone for like 3 and a half hours one night, and we stayed up till like four, when she had to be to work at like 5:30. She seems amazing, and im not sure how to act around her. i know be myself, but i want to know if i should stay close to her, and like hold her hand, or what. just asking cause im really nervous. i will be going out with her and her friend because she cant drive yet, and i think we may be going to a movie.not totally sure yet. Can any girls give me advice on what to do. i really like this girl and i want to have a relationship with her that may sound weird knowing that we have only been talking for a week but its true, so please help.

Answer 1

Just be yourself =P... I used to get really nervous and girls actually found that "cute". If your connecting as well as you say, things should go quite good.

I found a good trick for holding a girls hand too if your kinda shy... just make a comment about something about your hand while holding it out. Like, I was pointing out how calassed (sp?) mine were from work. She proceeds to feel it and next moment we're holding hands. Kinda lame, but it works.

Im also adamantly against movies for first dates as they arent very good for promoting interaction between a couple. Going out and doing something (mini golf, walk, iceskating, ect.) is better in my opinion. Movies are alright I suppose if you do something afterwards (dinner or maybe icecream if its later).

Goodluck!

Answer 2

I may not be a girl, but I think I can help you out here.

It really is as simple as 'be yourself'; more specifically, act however feels naturally. You've spent some time getting to know this person, so you have a better idea of what they like (and what about you they like) than any of us.

Don't force any of your behavior; remember, she already knows you in a sense, so she probably has some idea what kind of person you are. At the same time, online personalities and real life personalities can differ noticeably (some people are much shyer in real life than online, for example), so it's better if she gets to know who you are naturally in both situations.

Another idea is just be open with her and tell her you're a little anxious (either online or when you meet her). Odds are she is too -- she's in the same boat as you after all -- and she'll probably feel relieved she's not the only one nervous about this encounter. Don't worry about offending her by saying this, because, again, this is her first time meeting you too, so she'll understand. I'd be more worried if she wasn't at all nervous.

Just keep cool. This is a lot like any first date, except you already know this person a little, which makes it a lot easier. Hang out, talk, have fun, and be yourself. That's what brought you and her to the date in the first place, after all. :)

Answer 3

Well like you said, be yourself. A girl really wants to get to know a guy for who they are and not some fake punka** kid. if you haven't known eachother for very long then you probably don't wanna move too fast. that breaks up the relationship fast for some girls. Don't do anything until u know who she is. Ask her what her friends are like. Sometimes that will tell you more about a person than they can tell you themselves. If she talks a lot on the phone, that doesn't mean she isn't shy. She's probably just as nervous, if not more, as you are. Tell her almost right away that she looks beautiful. girls LOVE being told they are pretty and all that stuff. We don't wanna hear childish things like "you're hot." be smart. Tiara

Answer 4

I like the fireworks idea :) It's a much nicer time to be together than putt putt, it's closer and more intimate (if that's what you're going for). Your parents shouldn't be suspicious, fireworks are pretty normal lol Um... I guess flirting tips would be whatever vibe you feel from her. If she's kind of shy, do subtle things like be close, maybe arm around her, touch her when you talk to her, etc... if you really are feeling the heat maybe a peck on the cheek, I wouldn't go any further than that on 2nd date. About calling her, just be casual. Don't make it sound too romantic and don't make it sound like you're going as friends... maybe: "Hey I thought _____ would be a fun thing to do together and maybe we could learn more about each other..." Good luck! :)

Answer 5

I am a dude but you need to be polite and courteous to the lady, if you were brought up that way. I always do the yes ma'am, I am from Texas so you may be different. Open the doors for her, car, restaurant, theater,or where ever it is that y'all go. The best thing that anyone can tell you is: BE YOURSELF an no one else. Do not put on a front and show her that you are not who you really are. Good luck and have fun.

Answer 6

It depends on the girl as to whether she wants you to hold her hand or not, but with her friend there, you may just want to wait for a one-on-one time. Definitely give her a hug before you go home though. Every girl loves that.

Answer 7

just be yourself
please consider not going to a movie (spectator rather than participant)
how about pool? or bowling? or mini golf? that way you can actually talk to and look at each other.\
Good luck.
Don't be too disappointed if it doesn't work out. Remember you have to kiss a lot of frogs--same goes for guys.

Answer 8

well you got the first part right, be yourself. but you shouldnt be clingy. dont try to hold her hand right away. i know you might want to, but just wait. the time will feel right and youll know by her body language and all if/when shes ready to hold your hand. just go with the flow. be nice but not anything out of the ordinary for you or shell think somethings wrong with you.. lol. seriously though, just go with your gut feeling.

Answer 9

Be respectful of her boundaries and don't go diving in for sex right off the bat. Just get to know her and take things really slow.

She will let you know if she is interested in more of a physical relationship. Enjoy!

Answer 10

Act normal.. Don't be nervous, go with the flow.. It's just a date and it's just a girl... No need to be worried..