Had 3 dates with her. I sense that it wasn't getting hot or going anywhere so I stoped calling and played it quiet. It was quiet both ways for a month and then she called all the sudden. I answered but didn't know what to say. The phone went quiet for a little bit and we said our final good bye.
I ran into her on campus today, we saw each other but didn't acnowledge each other.
2007-08-27 14:35:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every girl you take out on a date does not have to be a long term thing. You should just date to get to know different people until you really click with someone and than take it from there. You as a guy will probably get all the negative feedback only because people view things as the guy is always in control, but if your relationship meant more than just three dates to the girl, she could have called and tried to pursue the relationship just like you. You are not to blame. Not everyone clicks.
2007-08-27 14:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's a big deal, if it was only 3 dates, i mean, it's not like she could've been in luv w/u or anything. So no, not horrible, plus, i think that is a better way to stop dating, just play it qiet. BUT ONLY IF U WERE JUST DATING. If i was in an actual relationship, then i would apreciate a real break up. Anyway, i think u did the right thing, but i would just be civil, don't be rude if u see her or anything. & i wouldn't just ignor her next time u see her, just say hi, that's all, smile, be polite. & u didn't treat her like anything, unless she really did have HUGE feelings 4 u, which she probably didn't, i don't see y u should make it in2 a big deal.
2007-08-27 21:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if everybody was in love with everyone we wouldnt be able to work jobs or get anything done. Its good that you guys decided to call it quits if it wasnt there for you...but I dont know if three dates was really enough to judge her or you as a write off. You never know what might change, I would keep a positive attitude and at least be friendly with her, HI in the hallway, you dont have to be best friends, but obviously there was something about her that captured you enough to have three dates allready. She might be one of those girls that you have to date long term to get anywhere with, and believe me hun those are the keepers. Take Care.-Rachel.
2007-08-27 21:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would have been a lot better if you had called her right away when you realized the chemistry was not there...You could have avoided the awkwardness of running into each other, and maybe still be friends.
If I were you, I would call her, talk for a minute, say you are sorry, that you wanted to tell her but you didn't want to hurt her feelings, and tell her you would like to be friends.
2007-08-27 21:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Briana*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have told her that kyou didn't feel a "spark" with her. That you just didn't have much in common or whatever, but I don't think you did something so horrible. A guy did that to me once and I aclled him a few weeks latter and I caught on. I wasn't upset or disappointed because I really didn't feel anything for him either, I was just killing time and I don't think anything was wrong with him, just no attraction.
2007-08-27 21:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because she didnt call you for a while either, so she had to know it wasnet going anywhere either. It wasent like she was calling you and you were ignoring her. You mutually stopped talking so she probably feels the same way you do.
2007-08-27 21:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by pinky112203 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't feel horrible. In your case, both sides agreed to disagree. Though, if yo uguys managed to be lovers, for even a short time, try and at least be friends, and talk casually without letting the past get to you. You might feel a bit better.
2007-08-27 21:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you thought that you and she wasn't going anywhere, you shouldve called her sooner. Instead you waited for about a month. That's pretty coward.
2007-08-27 22:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by pretty asian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pardon me, but it wasnt "getting hot" or "going anywhere"
I think your out for sex and you were a user.
She is ignoring you because your a dirt bag and a user. Get over yourself.
2007-08-27 21:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a sad story, but u shouldnt feel bad, if it wasnt meant to be, it wasnt meant to be! u'll both get over it, and find new people. =] i dont think u did anything wrong.
2007-08-27 21:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Val ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋