Hey everyone, I just founf out that I am pregnant (about 3 weeks) by my bf and we get along great! The problem is his aunt did something totally wrong to me (similar to identity theft), blamed it on my bf when he had NOTHING to do with it (I'm positively certain, I know this for a fact), and ever since then, I have hated her to the point of where I can't even stand to hear her name. Anyway, we are having the baby around the end of April and I told him I didn't want his aunt around, visiting or seeing our baby, even when I'm in the hospital giving birth. I dont want our kid to have ANYTHING to do with her because she's sneaky and is a con artist in my opinion and he feels I'n being unfair. My question is: do u guys believe I'm being selfish or am I making the right choice? Give me some serious feedback, no insults because I'm not in the mood for them. Thanks :)
2007-08-27 13:42:04 · 7 answers · asked by Beautiful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think his life will change if he doesn't meet his great aunt.
2007-08-27 13:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you are the one having the baby. While at the hospital the hospital you are the one in charge. Only people you want there will be allowed in your delivery room. As for you not wanting your child to meet your bf aunt that is up to you. I don't think you are being selfish or unfair. She did something awful to you and you have no reason to trust her. I would want her to be part of my child's life either. You don't need that kind of influence in yours or your child's life. Now if she proves that she has changed her ways and regains your trust in the following years then you can be friends again, but that is totally up to you. Congrats on the baby.
2007-08-27 21:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by kerijeanbean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your 100% sure that she is the one that did it, i wouldnt let her near my family either.
You just have to becareful that this isnt going to put any extra stress on your relationship, last thing you want is to be a single mum.
I would just tell him that you wont be going out of your way to let her see the baby, but in a circumstance where she is somewhere you are with bub, then let her have a look.
Its not like it will happen often and plus you will look like the bigger person.
2007-08-27 20:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter dont go around my grandmother aunt sister n law or brother, you got to do what you got to do. whats best for ur child, so i stay away from all my crazy familey and hus famiely - my daughters 2 and they live 1 min from me and never even seen her but 2 times does that count? 18 weks with 2nd, goodluck, sometimes i think im being mean but knowone knows how they are but me. my husband is pakistani and im ameican and they have called him some bad names i cant say on here, so i say bye bye to all of them.
2007-08-27 21:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see if he's even around when you give birth for his aunt to be an issue. My guess is, you won't have to worry about it. And that is a serious answer.
2007-08-27 20:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first of all press charges then talk resolution and baby plans if she scams you then shell have no problem scamming your child
2007-08-27 20:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sometimes people hurts us , but w have to learn to forgive , try to be nice and tyour bf will realize that you are awonderful person.
2007-08-27 20:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by peter t 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋