I am a failure compared to my sister. Help?

Question

I am nothing compared to my greatest person known as my sister. Everyone loves her. She is one of the fastest female runners in the country. She is 2nd in her class. Her parents love her so much and would do anything for her. Now look at the less (WAY LESS) than perfect me. I am in the advanced placement classes like her, get the same grades as her. But I work hard for those grades and she barely needs to do anything to get what she has. Also I am not ranked as highly as her because I get b's and one c in gym. I do cross country too, but I suck at that. I work so hard to and I have no fun at it. And then I have very few friends, unlike her. and whenever I do something wrong, I get screamed and scolded at. If she does something wrong my parents pull that "oh people make mistakes card."
I can tell she will be more successful than me in real life because she will be able to get into a good college, and get the best as she deserves (even more than she deserves).

While I might be going to a school that isn't the best for me, because I have nothing special other than my good grades. I would like your insight on this please.

serious suggestions please.

Answer 1

Quit comparing yourself to her. You are unique and the way you are for a reason. Just do the best you can and that should be enough. As long as you compare yourself with her or anyone else you will be miserable.
There will always be someone out there who is better at things than you. Even your sister isnt as good as someone else. After all she is only 2nd in her class not first. Just be you and dont worry about what she does.

Answer 2

You work hard for your good grades. My mom was a teacher, and coming from her, the best students are the ones who work hard for the A instead of the ones who dont try and get an A. In life, being a hard worker pays off, so don't take that crap that she will be more successful than you.

Try a new hobby, you never know what you can do until you try it. Maybe an instrument, art, or something else. Not everybody is born for cross country. Actually, most people arent born for cross country lol.

Pull your parents aside and talk to them alone, seriously, about how you feel. They will respect you more after that, really.

Answer 3

Oh sweetie! Stop comparing yourself to your sisters grades, rank in running and popularity! You never know what the future even holds for you yet! Do you even like cross country running? If ya don't, start thinking about your passions! I'm not gonna say this will happen, but my sister got good grades, was popular, was a cheerleader, and loved by my parents like she was the female version of the Christ child. Then there was me. I stumbled thru school, had my few good friends, and wasn't encouraged by parents over anything I tried. Don't know why, it just happened. Now, I have my own small business, own a home, have great kids, and an awesome marriage. I'll never win the Nobel Peace Prize, but I'm happy! My sister, who my parents used to say could be a brain surgeon, (those were their words!) left her hubby to move states away to be with a drunk she met on a sex cam. She dumped her son off with my parents to raise. I justy got a phone call from the "brain surgeon " who works at a quickie mart, and she and her new love were fighting. She had just thrown his 10 speed bike off tghe two story apt. He has no license. Soooo, ya never know what the future will hold. She may make more money, so what! But, will she be as happy?

Answer 4

First, no matter what they say or do you have to choose not to let it get you down. So what if she is a so-called wiz-kid. That doesn't make you any less special than she. God loves you both the same. You should find and do the things that make you happy, not the things that make others happy. You will never be happy if you don't change your thinking. You deserve to be treated with respect no matter what your grades are, how you run, or anything else you may not be a wiz at. You are special!
Tell them all how they make you feel and start with that you know that you are the only one that can change how you feel and that you expect nothing from them. You are obviously sick of walking in her shadow. Have you ever thought that you are the wind beneathe her wings. Bette Midler sang that song and it is very true. Those who walk in our shadow are often the ones that are truly helping us not those who are voicing that we are so great.
Look within yourself and do your best and forget the rest. It isn't worth hurting yourself over emotionally.
good luck and god bless

Answer 5

You are not a complete failure! For chrissake your in AP classes with high grades. First off you need to stop comparing yourself to your sister. YOU ARE NOT YOUR SISTER! You are a different and unique individual and you need to make that clear. Your trying to beat your sister at her own game- it's HER game not yours. You need to find activities that you enjoy and carve at your own niche instead of hiding in your sisters shadow. Wouldn't you rather do something you enjoy rather than what your sister enjoys. I'm not saying that you should quit all your APs and do drugs or something stupid but YOU have to make yourself the #1 priority. Even if your parents favor her what's that to stop you. If you work hard and with a passion for what you enjoy you too will get the best you deserve. So stop as hard as it is wallowing in jealousy and misery and seize the day!

Answer 6

So, you are not your sister. I'll tell you what I tell my daughter who has this same issue with her twin, except, I don't play favorites.

Be your own person. You have to be good enough for yourself to be good enough for others. Find out who you are and be that person, and stop trying to compete with someone you cannot compete with.

Everyone has something special about them, you need to stop following in her footsteps and find your own path. You cannot control how your parents are, you can only control yourself. This is the time when you should focus on who you are, and what you want out of your life and ignore your sister. You will attract more people if you know and love yourself. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

It's very normal to feel like you don't measure up to your older sister. You need to remember that if you did things in the same way as her, you would be her...what's wrong with being you? It sounds like you need to get and keep closer with her and find out how she can encourage you along with your journey in life. If she understands you really well then it will make things easier with your parents too because your sister will defend you and keep things normal between all of you. Ask your sister to be your supporter. I have found that sisters stay closer than parents with their children...it's true.

Answer 8

I'd ask you to position all of this apart for a second, and consider via why you don't seem to be doing good in school. You say 2 contradictory matters - that you haven't any motivation to do good, and that regardless of how tough you check out, you do not do good. Do you now not consider that possibly, on account that you do not preserve up to your paintings, you are sabotaging your capacity to do good whilst you all of the sudden do begin making an attempt? What do you consider is in the back of your loss of motivation to do good? And what are you able to do approximately that? I'd honestly propose you talk to the intellectual wellness counsellor the school has on employees, or to a therapist. Not on account that I consider you wish to have healing or some thing, however on account that it might support to speak to any person skilled in serving to others consider via stuff. They can support you determine why you lack motivation, and what steps you would take to repair that. Because till you do, you don't seem to be going to do good in school - and I particularly consider you'll be able to do good in school. So get a few support, and begin figuring all this out, and you'll be able to be a principal step toward your pursuits. Remember whilst you do all this - do that for your self, now not on your household. It'd be best in the event that they have been happy with you, however it is extra fundamental that you simply get your self in combination, so you'll be able to be constructive in your self.

Answer 9

When you stop comparing yourself to her you'll feel a lot better. Stop whining about your sister and find something completely different that you LIKE to do. You will never ever be like any other person on this earth-you will always be you! Focus on your own attributes and apply them to life! Otherwise you will remain in the shadow of your sister like you are now.

Answer 10

I wouldn't say that About your self! non of that is true. I'm sure you and your sister have the same value! you might not have the same talents as her but that does not make you less successful. She might be good at running but you don't have to be good at the same thing. You could be good at acting or writing, teaching, cooking, musical arts, or sience. It just depends on what you love to do. Then tell your parents what you love to do.