Whenever I'm having a problem or feeling depressed, I avoid talking to friends. They call me, but I take a long time to call them back, if at all. Usually I'd prefer to be alone, partly because I'm too proud to let people know that I'm hurting. I also don't want to burden others with my problems. I sense that this isn't the way to maintain stable friendships. How can I change? I know this is destructive behavior, but how do I motivate myself to talk to others when I don't want to? Please help.
2007-08-27 13:36:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i like you. from the paragraph that you have written i surmise that you are both caring; "don't want to burden others",and honest; "proud". perhaps the problem lye's more with the friends you have, and not yourself. maybe, they do not provide you with useful feedback, or positive insight when you do allow them to know you're problems. just a thought. good luck!
2007-09-01 16:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by PETER F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I can isolate really bad and before I would hurt myself. Now though, I will sometimes shoot my therapist a txt just to let her know that I am starting to isolate. You might want to look into getting a therapist so you dont have to worry about the pride issue. However I even isolate when sitting face to face with my therapist but I told her what I do when I start to feel bad and she knows when to call me on my own ****. So learn how you operate and then stop yourself from digging a hole too deep.
2007-08-27 21:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharing your problems with a friend is exactly how you build a relationship.
That doesn't mean you burden them with a long list of problems.
Just talk about them occasionally.
Asking a friend to just listen or even asking for advice may help you solve your problem and bring you closer to them.
http://themeaningisyou.com
2007-08-27 20:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by HJG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I have done to try to overcome my own tendency towards isolation is to explain to my friends, in a time when I'm not feeling upset, about my habits. If they are good friends, they will understand. They will either help to pull you out of your habit, or at least be more understanding when the silent periods come. And then they will know when something is wrong, and have the ability to come to you and draw you into talking about it.
2007-08-27 20:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rayvn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal wanting to be alone if you are upset. But, explain to your friends that you need time to yourself. It is nothing personal. Through personal experience, if you are upset and don't feel like talking to others and that what is you should do. If you make yourself, you may come off the wrong way to them. You need to determine what is upseting you and try to find a way to deal with it your way.
2007-08-27 20:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
boy you sound like me a few yrs ago. i suggest you talk to a pro. isolating yourself isn't a good thing and you know that. your problems aren't a burden to those who love you and they'd do anything to help you if you let them.seek a therapist. you will feel better.
2007-08-27 20:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem for many years,it wasn't until i lost a good friend i thought i had a problem, so your on the right path. You have identified it by your self....always remember a problem shared is a problem halved..good luck.
2007-08-27 20:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by Vip buddy... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want someone to talk to i ma here ok? dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. also tell them how u feel. it does not hurt to.
2007-08-27 20:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋