would u even pursue if she was given 2 options, leave u or get out? honest opinions...girls u can answer 2
2007-08-27 13:33:34 · 25 answers · asked by zizi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thing is she is 22 but still living with parents...would that relationship seriouslly work
2007-08-27 13:46:18 · update #1
ooh and they are all christians too
2007-08-27 13:47:41 · update #2
I wouldn't for two main reasons:
1) Respect for her and her relationship with her family. Yes it is wrong for her parents to be racists, but they are still her family. One's relationship with their family members is her rock to lean on. You are supposed to have family to go back to when the relationship with the guy/girl doesn't work out.
2) Repect for yourself. Why hang around a woman with bigotted parents knowing full well you are going to get the Archie Bunker/George Jefferson treatment everytime you see her?
2007-08-27 13:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure as heck would go after the girl. If her parents are that racist then she'd probably be better off living with my family since we're not racist. This is kinda like the whole Lady and the Tramp, Romeo and Juliet, West Side Story etc.-type situation where love is really the most important thing and if some don't accept it then they can't really stop it.
2007-08-27 20:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Nick B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Racism was such a big thing in the past. Now days u see so many bi-racial couples. I would not care what the parents say or feel. Let them hate me. If two people of different races want to be together that is their choice. In my eyes everyone is equal. I am a white female and dated men some who were black and some asian men too. I know my parents would not have liked it, but they had to deal with it. My life not theirs.
2007-08-27 20:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rocketgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I should probably ask my boyfriend. He's stuck with putting up with my parents - they're not racist, but they do have this thing about "SCHOOL FIRST THEN ANYTHING ELSE"
It depends on where I was in the relationship. I mean, if it was just a mutual thing and he asked me out and my parents said no, that's no big deal. But if my parents went nuts on me and did that now, after four months, then I don't know what I'd do. I'd keep in contact...but I think I'd have to let him go and hope that we both move on or else he waits for me to get my butt out of home.
2007-08-27 20:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by Yuki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it came to that...no I wouldnt pursue it because I wouldn't want to put someone I care about in that kind of situation.
Then again, if her parents are making threats like that then she should be trying to move out anyway because it means they could be very controlling and threaten to throw her out for any little thing that they don't approve (if she's not a minor). God bless.
2007-08-27 20:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those are the most difficult relationships to deal with and the simple explanation is to go with ur heart. sometimes parents can look past the happiness of their children, and force them to live their lives around the views they were brought up on. so the simple answer to ur question is yes, if i really loved the guy, i would continue to see him, and hope in time that the parents see that all that should matter is the happiness of their child.
2007-08-27 20:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is casual, why put yourself in that situation? You could be putting yourself in harms way.
On the other hand, If you two are in a serious relationship, and love each other, and plan on having a future together. I say to hell with the ignorant racists. Have her get out, be with you, and live happily ever after. They could be basking in your happiness with you, or be wallowing in their hatred. That's up to them.
2007-08-27 20:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by dewhatulike 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her parents have forbidden her to see you, why would you bother? It's disrespectful to put her in the middle if she's young enough to still be living at home. If she's an adult with her own apartment and job, that's different. But if she's a kid in school living with her family, move on.
2007-08-27 20:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is very hard. And as f%#* as it may be, maybe you two should cool it. She made a choice to live with them, and she does need to respect their household. I don't agree with the parents, but she is old enough to get out. I had a boyfriend and his mom made us break up. I was so in love, but if he wasn't willing to stand up for me then, why waste my time?
2007-09-04 16:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by Snapdragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of respect for the girl and her parents I would tell you to leave it alone and move on.
2007-08-27 20:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋